Time to Lean

In this episode, we discuss common commentary along the lines of, "I'm not sure why you're so upset! I do what you ask. I never make demands of you. I'm fine, so it kind of seems like you're maybe just mad... to be mad." Oh, and the ole' "You're no fun anymore." EEk! Mentioned in this episode: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2020/02/if-you-want...

By popular demand, Laura and Crystal review Love is Blind, season 6! Just in time for the finale, get all the hot takes on the newest season! ⁠⁠⁠⁠You can find us on Patreon!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.co...

Laura and Crystal discuss a comment left on Instagram--what happens when a partner insists on doing something in the house the "right" way? How do you tell if it's for a bigger reason than preference? Listen to find out! ⁠⁠⁠⁠You can find us on Patreon!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Have a domestic dilemma or...

In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a viral video, separation anxiety, and the existential crisis that is the internet. Join us in the fray! Mentioned in this episode: Danielle Bayard Jackson Ashley Simpo ⁠⁠⁠⁠You can find us on Patreon!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a m...

Laura and Crystal discuss a listener's question that we hear all. the. time. "if my partner is better than they used to be, shouldn't I just be grateful?" ⁠⁠⁠⁠You can find us on Patreon!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ! ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss the reality show 'Welcome to Plathville' and the recent divorce of Olivia and Ethan Plath. They explore the high-control environment and fundamentalist Christianity portrayed in the show, as well as the impact of coercive control and gender roles on their relationship. The conversation delves into the importance of autonomy and principles, highlig...

In this episode, Laura interviews Crystal about the Love Languages episode (yes, we're still talking about it!) And they also discuss how "checklist advice" hurts men more than women. Mentioned in this episode: Man Discovers Wife's Journals After Her Death All About Love by bell hooks ⁠⁠⁠⁠You can find us on Patreon!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura ⁠⁠⁠⁠...

In this episode, Crystal and Michael Vaughn (@world.shaker) discuss the Five Love Languages, and how it has the potential to damage your relationship! Find Michael at beacons.ai/worldshaker Mentioned in this episode: I love the way you love me: Responding to partner’s love language  preferences boosts satisfaction in romantic heterosexual couples Speaking the Language of Love: On Whether Chapman’s...

In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss a WILD answer to a question on an old episode of Family Feud. Why isn't it funny? Mentioned in this episode: Emotional Labor Workshop Recording and Resource with Rose Hackman ShiShi Rose on IG Teaching To Transgress by bell hooks ⁠⁠⁠⁠You can find us on Patreon!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠...

In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a viral video when a partner asked her husband to do ONE THING--and he couldn't do it right. What do you do when you ask for help and are let down? Mentioned in this episode: The Most Hated Man On The Internet Documentary (CONTENT WARNINGS ALL OVER THE PLACE HERE GUYS) ⁠⁠⁠⁠You can find us on Patreon!⁠⁠⁠⁠ Download resources and read more from Crystal a...

In this week's episode, we talk about the pillars of the "Man Box", discuss a viral prank and cover the topic of "situational hostages". Have you ever been put into a position where you have to suppress your own discomfort in order to keep safe? In this episode, we reference an event we hosted with Rose Hackman, author of Emotional Labor. You can access the replay on our we...

In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura take a listener question. If you've been lying about getting gifts from your spouse for years, at what point do you stop? Your kids probably know by now, right? Maybe? What would YOU do? Some things mentioned in this episode: Sophie Lucido Johnson Rachal Duggan Ryan Duggan Chi Nwosu You can find resources for talking about the holidays ahead of tim...

In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss Oldest Daughter Syndrome, enmeshment, boundaries and Mama's Boys. As a reminder, information presented in this podcast is NOT a replacement for individualized mental health treatment! Thanks to our sponsor for this episode, SmartLabels! Find them here! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/timetoleanpod/message Hosted on...

**TW: Domestic violence and sexual assault In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura talk about Matt Rife's now-famous domestic violence joke from his Netflix special and provide an example of an how a comedian can make a joke about something challenging and do it well. We also discuss the phenomenon of the missing stair! STICK AROUND UNTIL THE END TO HEAR THE MISSING STAIR! You can see Ma...

Educator Laura Danger and therapist Crystal Britt tackle your household messes. We provide unsolicited advice to tiktokers and reality tv couples and answer anonymous calls and questions from listeners like you! Send in an anonymous question and we'll propose solutions.  Send in your questions ! Follow us on IG ! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura ⁠ here ⁠ ! --- Send in a...

In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura take a caller question about ADHD, executive function and standards. They also chat about "sad dad apartments" and share a few resources like their holiday toolkit and Crystal's Fair Play for Neurodivergent Couples Workshop! Referenced in this episode: Miserable Shrew shirt Karl Havoc from I Think You Should Leave --- Send in a voice mess...

We can't wait for you to listen to this one--are you obligated to have sex with a partner, just because they're your partner? In this episode, Laura and Crystal talk about the nuances of consent, pillars of safe sex, and bodily autonomy. Referenced in this episode: Red Flags of Abuse From NNEDV Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura ⁠⁠ here ⁠⁠ ! Have a domestic dilemma or...

In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about a trending video where a mother-in-law takes over when the wife is away! They also talk about the self-loathing trap when everyone and everyone encourages you to "just be grateful" for what you've got, even when you notice there might be some room for improvement. To watch the trending video referenced: ⁠Matty J's Single Mum video⁠ Me...

In this episode, Laura and Crystal share a clip that celebrates all of the things working mothers do and share an email from a follower. The topic: my life is different, but theirs is the same as it always has been. A link to the video from the episode! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura ⁠ here ⁠ ! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠h...

In this episode, Laura and Crystal take a listener message and discuss what happens when a partner isn't interested in your hobby. We talk about different types of problems in relationships, as well as personal examples of these problems in our own lives. You can find the Gottman article discussed:  Here ! Here's Shar Henley's video ! Download resources and read more from Crystal and L...

In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss two articles that are VERY different in the way they talk about men and women and childcare (or lack there of). Don't forget to rate and subscribe wherever you listen! Resources from this Episode: National Domestic Workers Alliance Chamber of Mothers Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura ⁠ here ⁠ ! Have a domestic dilemma or question...

In this episode, Laura and Crystal take a listener message and share a viral video. The topic: what's the deal with some people having access to rest and others not? Is it fair that one person can step away and the world falls apart and the same isn't true for the other? You can find the viral video discussed: Here ! Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura ⁠ here ⁠ ! Have a...

In this week's episode, Laura tells Crystal all about what happened in a bombshell episode of 90 Day Fiance, The Last Resort. Have you ever made a decision you've kept from a partner? What happened when they found out? Videos from this episode: Yara's video here and Jovi's video here ! You can watch clips of The Last Resort here ! Download resources and read more from Crystal and L...

Laura and Crystal talk about hiding out in the bathroom! They do a bit of over-sharing but in the name of discussing the old trope that dads are always hiding out in the bathroom. They also talk about the value of equal autonomous time and the benefits of identity outside of your roles. "While Daddy Was Pooping" book Research from Pebble Grey Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us...

This week, Crystal and Laura take a question from a listener who is wondering how to keep herself afloat because her partner isn't interested in changing. Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean⁠⁠⁠⁠  OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media  ⁠⁠⁠⁠@thatda...