Time to Lean

Laura & Crystal discuss a listener's question, where her FATHER-IN-LAW suggests her kids need her to work less...but she and her husband split work evenly. What now? Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Download resources and read more from Crystal and Laura ⁠ here ⁠ ! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/timet...

Why are we obsessed with divorce? And why did dresses not have pockets until recently?! These answers and more on this week's episode with guest Olivia Dreizen, CEO of Fresh Starts Registry. Resources Mentioned: Fresh Starts Registry Follow Olivia Dreizen on IG Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/t...

A listener writes in to ask if there's any other recourse when her partner will only take on domestic labor if his family is watching 👀 Resources Mentioned: Pierre Fleury on IG Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean⁠⁠⁠⁠  OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media  ⁠⁠⁠⁠@that...

How do we feel about wife strikes? How do we feel about shaming partners on the internet? All your burning questions answered in this episode! Resources Mentioned: Cindy Ditiberio's Post Post-Partnership Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean⁠⁠⁠⁠  OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura...

We're so excited to welcome Raena Boston to the podcast! This episode has everything--gentrification, capitalism, racism, unpaid maternity leave that leads to paid paternity leave, and the scam of having it all. Resources Mentioned: Raena Boston - The Working Momtras Chamber of Mothers Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠ht...

In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a voicemail submitted by a male listener--who says he never considered that caregiving work could be a skill that could be practiced and learned. Is it worth learning? Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean⁠⁠⁠⁠  OR DM us on IG @tim...

In this episode, Laura and Crystal discuss a TikTok that recently went viral--over paper plates versus real dinner plates. Is making the little decisions something we should "JUST GET OVER" or is there an opportunity for connection there? Resources Mentioned: Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.c...

Have you ever heard or had a partner tell you directly, "Well if you hate taking care of the kids so much, why don't YOU work and I'LL stay home and relax?" Laura Danger and Crystal Britt discuss this zero-sum fallacy and what it means for BOTH partners to have buy in to a life you're building together--and how you BOTH get something out of that. Resources Mentioned: Lin--The...

HEY MAMA! Join Crystal and Laura in this episode to talk about the dark recesses of the internet known as Mommy FB Groups to touch on the inequity of educating parents on...parenting. Mentioned in this Episode: Kier Gainess on IG Dr. Becky on IG Michael Vaughn Episode Books Mentioned on This Episode Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.co...

In this episode, Crystal and Laura discuss a listener-submitted question: She wonders if, after being the default partner for 20 years, her husband is justified in complaining that their proposed housework split isn't 50/50? What do you think? Resources/Sources Mentioned in this episode: Laura's Free Home Cleaning Checklist Gottman Institute (Couples Tips!) Time To Lean's Bookship.org...

In this episode, Laura and Crystal continue their conversation around Amazon Prime Video's "Shiny Happy People" documentary mini-series which focuses on the Duggars and the way The Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP) turned a TLC show into ministry. TW: religious trauma and abuse Resources/Sources Mentioned in this episode: All About Love by bell hooks Linda Fruits Instagram (@...

In this episode, Laura and Crystal talk with Kate Adelle, a single mom, about the concept of "married single mothers." In response to a recent IG story shared by Crystal, Kate talks about how she has been impacted by single motherhood, how she experineced motherhood from within a marriage relationship, and how lack of systemic policy protection and support in the US effects ALL parents....

In this episode, Laura and Cyrstal talk about what it means to seek hope when your core understandings are disrupted. We talk about the Shiny Happy People documentary mini-series which focuses on the Duggars and the way The Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP) turned a TLC show into ministry. TW: religious trauma and abuse Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!...

Ash Brandin, @thegamereducator , joins Laura and Crystal to talk about the nuances surrounding screens. A video recently went viral on Tiktok where a creator made some serious claims about the harms of screens. Ash chats with us about how you can set boundaries around screens, how screens can be tools and who's really to blame for the significant role they play in our lives. Ash creates amazin...

In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about the viral video where over 40 dads show up to 8th grade promotion wearing the same shirts. Why didn't these men dress themselves? This episode explores some of the ways patriarchy holds men back. Check out The Will to Change by bell hooks here! For a list of books about community, ⁠⁠check out this book list!⁠ Have a domestic dilemma or question? Le...

On this episode, Crystal and Laura interview Michael Vaughn, AKA worldshaker, AKA Bluey-Dad! We talk about patriarchy, the power of curiosity and what it means to give a complete gift. You can find Michael on IG and Tiktok at as well as through the links here! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean⁠⁠⁠⁠  OR DM us on IG @timeto...

In this week's episode, Laura and Crystal show you the viral video of one man's HORRIBLE vows. From there, they touch on purity culture, rape culture and consent! Content warning for mentions of abuse and assault, including coercion. Content warning for discussions of domestic violence. ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Domestic Violence Resources ⁠⁠⁠⁠ Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpi...

In this week's episode, Crystal and Laura chat with Sara Peterson, author of Momfluenced: Inside the Maddening, Picture-Perfect World of Mommy Influencer Culture . Sara has written about motherhood and feminism for The New York Times, Harper's Bazaar, The Washington Post, and elsewhere. She also writes the newsletter, In Pursuit of Clean Countertops, where she explores the cult of ideal mo...

In this week's episode, Laura chats with Dr. Julie Bruene! Julie is the cohost of the Your Doctor Friends podcast where she and Dr. Jeremy Allard share approachable health information and interview amazing experts. Laura and Julie talk about the power of friendship and pleasurable movement. Check out Platonic by Marisa G. Franco PhD Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Sp...

In this episode, Crystal and Laura answer an Am I The A**hole from Reddit and react to a message from a listener. You're definitely going to want to hear this one! Check out: Donnellwrites on IG! Bonniedoes on IG! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! ⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean⁠⁠⁠ OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpodFollow Laura on social media ⁠⁠⁠@thatdar...

In this episode, Crystal and Laura interview Mary Van Geffen! Mary is an international parenting coach and parent educator for overwhelmed moms of strong-willed & Spicy Children™. You can find resources through her website and on her Instagram account! Mary is all about helping moms gain confidence to choose gentle, respectful parenting especially if they weren’t raised that way. Have a domest...

This episode is Part 2 of reading your therapy disasters! Crystal and Laura read your write-ins about your experiences with couples therapy! Ever had a therapist tell you your standards are too high? YIKES! For a list of books about community, ⁠check out this book list! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! ⁠⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean⁠⁠⁠ OR DM us on IG @...

In this episode, Crystal and Laura revisit the Mad Mommy image and then read your write-ins about your experiences with couples therapy! This is part 1 of a two parter! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! ⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean⁠⁠ OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Time to Lean Podcast on Instagram @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media ⁠⁠@th...

In this episode, Crystal talks with Jon MacDonald, pastor of Restoration Church in Redlands, California. Jon has been a pastor for over 20 years and speaks with Crystal today about equity, justice, and how inflexible gender roles hurt couples. Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe!  ⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean⁠⁠  OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura...

In this episode, Crystal and Laura talk about what it feels like when your kids see you as "mad mommy" and a write-in win from a follower! Have a domestic dilemma or question? Leave us a message on Speakpipe! ⁠⁠https://www.speakpipe.com/timetolean⁠⁠ OR DM us on IG @timetoleanpod Follow Laura on social media ⁠⁠@thatdarnchat⁠⁠ Follow Crystal on social media ⁠⁠@itscrystalbritt⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Domestic...