Think Thirsty with Katherine Wela Bogen: A Podcast for Smart Sluts

In this episode, I explore the fascinating differences between solitary and dyadic (partnered) sexual functioning—why some people thrive in their solo erotic lives but struggle in partnered sex, why the reverse might also be true, and whether these patterns are pathological. I break down how sexual scripts, self-objectification, trauma histories, safety cues, and access to tools like vibrators and...

Today, I chat through best practices for how respond when a survivor discloses an experience of sexual or intimate partner violence — and how those reactions can shape mental health outcomes. Drawing on decades of research (Ullman, Ahrens, Filipas, O’Callaghan, and more - see citations in show notes), I break down the difference between positive, negative, and unintended-harm responses, and why so...

In this episode of Think Thirsty , I dive into the difference between dissociation—depersonalization, derealization, numbness, freeze states—and true erotic submission in BDSM scenes. I unpack how dissociation pulls you away from yourself, while subspace pulls you deeper into embodied surrender, trust, and chosen pleasure. I walk listeners through the early warning signs of dissociation, the senso...

In this episode of Think Thirsty , I chat about what the science actually says about the term “porn addiction.” We talk through how researchers distinguish between addiction and compulsion, what brain studies show about habit and reward, and how the Problematic Pornography Use Scale helps measure distress, control, and emotional coping. I break down how repetitive porn use can shape attention, aro...