They Mess You Up with Dr. Ciara Kelly and Dr. Richard Hogan

Debt, rising bills, unequal incomes... Money has a way of creeping into every part of life. Ciara and Richard discuss financial stress, the arguments it causes, and why fairness matters more than splitting everything 50/50. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people stru...

Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

Not everyone wants a relationship but society still treats being single like something that needs fixing. Ciara and Richard discuss the pressure to find "the one," choosing to stay single, and whether a relationship is really the measure of a successful life. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hog...

Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

Feeling exhausted, cynical, irritable, or like you're barely keeping your head above water? It could be more than stress. Ciara and Richard discuss burnout, how it develops, and what we can do before it takes over. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with...

Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

Hi everyone - just dropping in between episodes here with a recommendation to help address a massive psychological issue that can actively wrecking your mental health: your terrible sleep hygiene. Lying awake at 3:00 AM overanalysing your life fuels anxiety, drives stress, and destabilises your mood. If you find it difficult nodding off, or just want to relax and actively down-regulate your nervou...

From dyslexia and aging to sexuality and trauma, shame can leave people carrying burdens that were never theirs to begin with. Ciara and Richard discuss where shame comes from, how it takes hold, and what it takes to let it go. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people...

Would you check your partner's phone? Does messaging someone else count as cheating? Ciara and Richard dive into the results of a listener survey on trust, infidelity, dating apps, and modern relationships. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind...

Friendship breakups can feel just as painful as romantic ones but we rarely talk about them. Ciara and Richard discuss rejection, awkwardness, shared friend groups, and why losing a friend can hit harder than people expect. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people stru...

Why do some people hide their sexuality for decades? Ciara and Richard unpack shame, fear, homophobia, and the emotional cost of living a life that doesn’t fully feel like your own. After Tommy Fleming’s interview with Ciara on Newstalk, where he discussed his sexuality and decision to come out at 55, they explore identity, secrecy, family expectations, and why it’s never too late to be honest abo...

Ciara and Richard discuss “FAFO or F*ck Around and Find Out parenting,” how letting kids make mistakes might be better than stepping in to fix everything. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the issues people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

Trying to merge two families can create tension, resentment, and pressure for both parents and children. In this episode, Ciara and Richard unpack the emotional reality of blended families and why forcing closeness too quickly can backfire. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan, taking on the i...

Is it too late to change your career? Or are you just afraid to try? In this episode career shifts, fear of failure, and the pressure to stay where you are. Ciara and Richard share their own career changes and how to make realistic moves towards work that feels fulfilling. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and...

After ending a long-term relationship in a moment of grief and low mood, a listener is left questioning everything when her ex moves on quickly. Ciara and Richard unpack whether it’s betrayal or consequence and what it takes to rebuild a relationship once it’s been broken. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and...

It’s often children who carry the emotional fallout when parents separate, especially when conflict, name-calling, and resentment take over. Ciara and Richard unpack the co-parenting behaviours that do real damage, and how to protect children from being caught in the middle. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly an...

Why do siblings trigger us more than anyone else? Relationships can be shaped by comparison, labels, and family roles that follow us into adulthood. In this episode, Ciara and Richard Hogan unpack sibling rivalry, “family boxes,” and how to build healthier, more connected relationships at any age. Follow the pod and get in touch by sending a message on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up,...

From betrayal and secrecy to rebuilding trust, communication, and a sense of self. Follow the pod and get in touch on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan - taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

How online mental health content is shaping how we think and feel - and the risks when complex issues are oversimplified or widely shared. Follow the pod and get in touch on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan - taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

Ciara and Richard explore what makes a “good” breakup, why it can be so painful, and how to end a relationship with less conflict and hurt. Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also send a DM. They Mess You Up, with Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan - taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

How constant exposure to bad news affects our mental health, and how to set boundaries without switching off completely. Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also get in touch. They Mess You Up - Dr Ciara Kelly and Dr Richard Hogan take on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

From inattention and impulsivity to time blindness and overwhelm, Ciara Kelly and Richard Hogan explore the challenges of ADHD, the strengths it can bring, and how structure and support can help. Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also get in touch via DM. They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

After a personal loss, Ciara and Richard explore the reality of grief. How it ebbs and flows, why no two losses feel the same, and the complex emotions that follow. What helps in the early weeks and how to find connection while living with loss. Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also get in touch. They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind clo...

Exploring loneliness - why it can feel like physical pain, the stigma around admitting it, who is most affected and the small, practical steps that can make a difference. Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also get in touch. They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle with behind closed doors. New episode every Wednesday.

The impact of technology on children - from harmful content pushed by algorithms to material on eating disorders and self-harm. Ciara and Richard discuss regulation, big tech, and simple steps parents can take, including keeping phones out of bedrooms at night! Follow the pod on Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod where you can also get in touch. They Mess You Up! Taking on the issues that people struggle...