The Whore's Bedroom

You have been asking me - how do I become an escort? What tips do you have for beginners in the industry? I'm finally answering that, and giving my advice for anyone who is interested in entering the world of full service sex work. This advice will also be helpful for those who are already established in the industry in other locations, but are looking for logistical information about specific...

It's been a while since I sat down alone to share my opinions - and those opinions have changed. I'm taking back what I said in some of my previous episodes, and sharing some new things I've learned. Let's talk about spirituality, dating, and north american vs european men when they cheat.

Disabled men are rarely able to get their sexual needs filled. That's where Sonia comes in - she not only offers specific services as an escort to accommodate disabled clients, but also gives them a discount. They make up much of her clientele, and have shaped her outlook on both work and life. We chatted about her experiences in sex work - not just with disabled clients, but with pro submissi...

As one of the host cities for the FIFA world cup, Vancouver is already prepping for the alleged sex trafficking that comes with the event. But there's a catch - there is absolutely no proof to back up the claim that such sporting events cause an increase in sex trafficking, nor even an increase in demand for consensual sex work. Crystal from SWAN Vancouver joined me to discuss the tangible neg...

Germany has been called "the brothel of Europe" due to it's thriving sex trade and relatively lax laws. But are those laws really all that lax? Anne Bonny, an activist and member of Hydra e. V. joined me to discuss the current and future realities of sex workers in Germany. We discussed the current "Prostitution Protection Act", the push to bring the Nordic Model to Germany...

Mistress Vera Von F is no stranger to racism in the sex industry, and she joined me in London to discuss both her own experiences as well as pervasive racism throughout the industry. We dove into race play, online harassment, beauty standards, and how sexual desires reflect subconscious prejudices. Follow Mistress Vera:https://www.instagram.com/von.floozy/

Lenina Crowne, a high class companion in London, joined me while I visited her city to discuss social media visibility as a sex worker, how plastic surgery has affected her life, how autism makes her a better escort, and how we feel about OnlyFans vs escorting. Follow Lenina on socials:https://www.instagram.com/leninacrownex/https://x.com/RequiemLenina

What is whorebaiting? Why do people pretend to be sex workers when they're not? Edie and I discussed this, along with the "female gaze" in sex work, working through recessions, my criticisms of Kayla Jade, and starting a business as a sex worker. Edie Montana is a stripper, performer, show director, and writer. She is the co-founder and director of Slut Riot, a growing platform that...

Mahx Capacity joined me to discuss being a porn doula, keeping an indie queer porn company financially afloat, consent on porn sets, creators as a non-renewable resource, and finding community in the queer porn world. Mahx Capacity is a Brooklyn based performance maker, entrepreneur and postmodern pornographer. They are the co-founder and creative director of Aorta Films as well as a performer and...

Trailblazer of queer porn Jiz Lee joined me on the pod to discuss their favorite sex trends, burnout in art vs porn, how the porn landscape has change for creators, fears surrounding AI in porn, and their advice for queer people who want to enter the industry. Find more of Jiz: https://www.instagram.com/jizlee/ https://bsky.app/profile/jizlee.bsky.social Buy their book, "Coming Out Like a Por...

Professional mean girl Miss May joined me in London for a chat about her passion for pissing on people, the dream BDSM furniture she wants to add to her dungeon, dealing with the comedown from sessions, and male vs female subs. Miss May is a professional dominatrix and dungeon owner based between London and Berlin. Follow Miss May on socials: https://www.instagram.com/missmayberlin/ https://x.com/...

Dr. Carolina Are joined me to discuss her research on social media censorship, sex work in academia, how AI impacts influencers, shadowbanning, and of course, Taylor Swift. Carolina is a pole dancing academic, blogger, author, speaker, pole dance instructor and performer, and activist. She published some of the first ever studies on shadowbanning, and is currently a digital criminologist at the Lo...

Eva Oh joined me in London for a titillating conversation on her life as a dominatrix, hesitance in dating, the meaning she finds in mentoring, and what's wrong with men. Eva Oh is an award winning dominatrix, advocate, mentor, and podcast host, who has been wielding her power as a sex worker since 2011 to be come one of the most famous dominatrixes in the world. Follow Eva on socials: https://www...

A quick little update to let you know where I've been, and tell you about upcoming episodes!

What was my favorite booking? What do I think about Lily Phillips and Bonnie Blue? What are my go-to icebreakers with clients? I'm answering these questions and many more! Some other sex workers on TikTok you should follow, as mentioned in the episode: https://www.tiktok.com/@juicypomma4.0 https://www.tiktok.com/@shakingsheets https://www.tiktok.com/@pursenuggets5.0 https://www.tiktok.com/@ina...

It's officially been one year since I started escorting full time! Today I'm diving into all the lessons I've learned, and my personal reflections on this year for me.

A bit of a different topic today, but one I'm incredibly passionate about - my opinions on dating men, as a straight cis woman. This is purely about dating in personal life (not about my clients), and it's such an important facet of many women's lives. This isn't a comprehensive totality of my views - I would have to talk for a few hours to get everything out! I'd love to hear...

I've been living in Berlin for almost a decade (!) and often get asked online what it's like to live here - so here's a deep dive! I talk about the pros and cons from my personal perspective (warning: there's a lot of cons) as well has how much the city has changed since I moved here.

Today's conversation is full of not just juicy bits about porn, but important lessons for anyone who is even slightly interested in the industry. We discuss what a porn ban would actually look like, how AI effect the adult industry, the role of porn in sex education, and how porn is used as a political pawn. Noelle Perdue is a writer, producer and porn historian with nearly 10 years of experie...

Chiqui Love joins me for a lively discussion on her decades of experience as a stripper, how sex work has changed her approach to both dating and feminism, and how the industry has changed since she got her start in London in the early 2000’s.    Chiqui Love is a stripper, burlesque, and cabaret artist and all round erotic entertainer. With over 22 years’ experience in the industry, she combines d...

Madame Ava L'affaire joins me for a discussion on all things BDSM and sex work. We talk about her past experiences as an escort, her passion for being a dominatrix, experiencing class discrepancies as a sex worker, the whorearchy, sexual shame, and more. Madame Ava L'affaire is a dominatrix and sex worker rights activist. She grew up in Berlin and is the child of Afghan refugees. Follow Madame Ava...

Today I am joined by the magnificent Sienna Carlisle. We discuss her journey from being a pro-domme to now being a domme and escort, transphobia in the sex industry, her experiences with clients, her recent rebrand, and working in Australia vs Europe. Sienna Carlisle is an international trans goddess whose journey has spanned many countries and many parts of the industry. She is a luxury companion...

Today I am joined by my friend and colleague, Bishop Black. We discuss what Bishop has faced as a bisexual POC in the industry, the difference between mainstream and "ethical" porn, and how Bishop has sustained their long and illustrious career in the porn industry. Bishop Black (they/them) is a multidisciplinary stage, burlesque, and porn performer. Hailing from London, they currently reside in B...

Why is the word "whore" a derogatory term? Is it ok for you to call me that? What other terms do we use to talk about sex workers, and where do they originate from? Class is in session, and I'm teaching you everything you need to know.

Do I pay taxes? Do I care if my clients are married? Do I fake orgasms? I get a lot of common questions about my work, and today I'm answering *all* of them. Plus, some extra answers from questions you asked on Instagram earlier this week. All your curiosities, indulged!