THE VIBRANT SURVIVOR -How to Identify a Narcissist, Narcissistic Abuse, Toxic Relationships, Trauma Healing, Health, Wellness

Hey, Survivor! Have you considered how your healing journey is impacted, when the narcissist tries to manage perceptions?  It’s triggering; and I’m seeing this play out in my community, as we work together to eradicate teen violence.  In this episode, I’ll guide you through a breathing exercise, explain narcissistic perception management, and offer 4 ways to prioritize your health and well-being w...

Hey, Survivor! Do you think you might run into the narcissist, after you’ve gone no or low contact?  It’s possible, and it happened to me…recently.  In this episode, I’m sharing 5 tips to protect your mental health and boundaries when you run into the narcissist in your life. If you, or someone you know, need encouragement to prioritize their health and wellbeing, while navigating narcissistic enc...

Hey, Survivor! Are you compromising your health and healing by communicating with the narcissist?  Help is on the way!  In this episode, I give you 5 reasons to stop communicating with the narcissist. If you, or someone you know, need encouragement to stop communicating with the narcissist, this episode is for you. Know who you're dealing with.  Know who you are. 💚Lesley   Book your call here . B...

Hey, Survivor! Looking for ways to incorporate self-care on your healing journey, after narcissistic abuse?  I’ve got you covered.  In this episode, I’m covering 6 healthy lifestyle practices that you can do, or have someone arrange for you. If you, or someone you know, need some self-care tips, this episode is for you. Know who you're dealing with.  Know who you are. 💚Lesley   🎉CONGRATULATIONS...

Hey, Survivor! Are you being threatened by the narcissist in your life?  This is a textbook narcissistic tactic to gain, or regain control of a situation.  I’m literally watching upstanders in my community go through this as they seek justice for Preston Lord.  Truth is being exposed, darkness is coming to light, and narcissistic individuals are scrambling to save face.  In this episode, I’m shari...

Hey, Survivor! What do you know about ACEs, or Adverse Childhood Experiences?  This trauma can lead to more health issues, later in life, if not addressed.  I’m seeing this play out in my community, after the senseless fatal assault of 16-year-old Preston Lord.  Teen violence has escalated; and there are some common threads among the perpetrators and their families.  In this episode, I’m sharing 4...

Hey, Survivor! Have you listened to the Katt Williams interview that aired this week?  I did.  And whether he intended to, or not, he exposed some narcissistic behaviors from his experience in the entertainment industry.  He also dropped some gems that can help you to navigate toxic relationships.  In this episode, I’m sharing 6 behaviors that Katt mentioned, and tying them to trauma.  I’ve also p...

Hey, Survivor! Are you forced to pet the elephant in the room, in your narcissistic family?  It’s hard, especially when you don’t have language to describe what has happened, or is happening, to you.  Or you feel pressure to suck it up and keep forging ahead, through chaos and confusion.  This episode offers healthy hacks, so you can stop swimming in denial. It’s sad, when the elephant in the room...

Hey, Survivor! Have you considered hiring a private investigator, after narcissistic abuse?  It may sound extra; but it’s not.  Actually,  it can help to reveal the truth about who and what you’re dealing with.  This episode offers several benefits of hiring a PI, so that you can focus on your health and wellbeing. Narcissists love to create chaos and drama, then leave you dazed, confused, and ang...

Hey, Survivor! Are you ready to tackle some myths about trauma?  At one point or another, we’ve all shamed and blamed ourselves for our body’s reaction to what has happened to us.  So, this episode is dedicated to helping you better understand what has happened to you, so that you don’t assist the narcissist in your life in making you feel bad so they can feel better. Trauma is the result of more...

Hey, Survivor! ‘Tis the season for special events.  And, for narcissists, special events can evoke sabotage attempts.  This could include: holiday parties, family gatherings, weddings, and more.  What should be a joyous occasion can easily become a stressful or traumatic situation that compromises your health and wellbeing. When I got married 26 years ago this week, my dad almost ruined my special...

Hey, Survivor! After narcissistic abuse, expressing gratitude can boost your body and brain health. As a survivor, it can be hard to give thanks, after dealing with a narcissist.  That said, being grateful is a healthy way to turn your attention away from narcissistic or toxic relationships that are robbing you of your precious resources (i.e. time, energy, attention, and money).  In this episode,...

Hey, Survivor! Last week I talked about how to tap into the healing power of music, after narcissistic abuse.  This week, I'm sharing how I just put this into practice on my own healing journey.  I don't just talk about it...I am about it. I just returned from Vegas, where I checked a top childhood trauma healing concert off of my bucket list: Johnny Mathis.  I had a full-circle experience with an...

Hey, Survivor! Trauma responses can be intense after narcissistic and toxic relationships.  And there may be  certain songs that you associate with that period in your life.   In today's show, I’m sharing ways to tap into the healing power of music, after narcissistic abuse.   Music can calm your nerves, empower you, and set you up to co-regulate with others through shared experiences.  So, consid...

Hey, Survivor! I know how painful, distressful, scary, and annoying it can be, when the narcissist tries to hoover you.  In today's show, I’m sharing 8 hoovering tactics, plus tips for setting healthy boundaries, after narcissistic abuse.  The goal isn’t to trigger others.  It’s about helping you to triumph over trauma, by stopping the abuse.      Once you have language to describe what has happen...

Hey, Survivor! I know how hard it is to disconnect from narcissistic and toxic relationships.  In today's show, I’m sharing 5 ways to disconnect from this dysfunction.  This isn’t about punishing anyone.  It’s about creating space for you to begin a long-lasting journey of healing.      As tempting as it is to state your position loudly and proudly, I cannot emphasize enough the importance of movi...

Hey, Survivor! The struggle is REAL, when it comes to dealing with narcissistic or toxic relationships.  In today's show, I’m sharing 10 healing tips to add to your toolbox.  One size does not fit all.  Healing is a journey that’s as unique as you are.      Regardless of the nature of the relationship, narcissists will drain you of your time, energy, attention, money, and other resources, in an ef...

Hey, Survivor! Do you know what food labels and narcissists have in common?  In today's show, I’m sharing 4 steps to learning how to read food labels and identify a narcissist.  There are correlations between the two that can impact your health, for better or worse.         With all of the food confusion out there, knowing how to read labels is a must.  As a consumer, you deserve to know exactly w...

Hey, Survivor! Are you triggered by toxic traditions that involve inappropriate behavior towards children?  In today's show, I’m offering 4 ways to help your child set boundaries and break generational cycles of trauma.  The same principles can apply to you, regardless of the nature of your relationship.         As difficult as it may be, trauma-reinforcing encounters can spark crucial conversatio...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I’m sharing 3 tips for handling and accepting the death of a narcissist close to you.  When the narcissistic or toxic individual in your life is gone for good, it takes a toll on your physical, emotional, and mental health.  Clean-up is messy.  But you don’t have to do everything yourself, or white-knuckle it.        You can tap into the healing power of a community...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I’m sharing 4 tips for handling and accepting the death of a narcissist close to you.  It’s easy to get caught in fight, flight, or freeze mode OR stuck ruminating over your toxic relationship.  When this happens, you can lose sight of the fact that both the narcissistic relationship and the narcissist have expiration dates.     So many emotions come up, when the na...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I’m providing 4 things for you to consider, if you're questioning, "Am I the narcissist?"  Narcissism is a spectrum, and we're all on it together.  Ideally, like many things in life, you want to avoid the extremes of selfishness or selflessness.  Somewhere in the middle is just right.      Highly narcissistic individuals aren't in their bodies, lack self-awareness,...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I’m highlighting 3 key ingredients in narcissistic word salad.  Word salad is a specialty that the narcissist serves up to their targets; and it is not made with love.  It comes from a place of fear.  Simply put, it’s not healthy.     Narcissistic and toxic individuals use word salad to manipulate and exert control over situations, narratives, and other people.  It’...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I share 4 ways to support another narcissistic abuse survivor, who may not have listened when you tried to warn them about their toxic relationship.  Oftentimes, you can see someone else's situation more clearly than you can see your own.   Narcissists use charm, mirroring, lies, future-faking, and trauma bonding to draw you in, trick you into falling in love with y...

Hey, Survivor! In today's show, I provide 3 steps to overcoming narcissistic triangulation with your siblings.  Narcissistic parents, who pit their children against one another, create unhealthy relationship dynamics and can set future generations up for failure.   At the root of it all, narcissistic and toxic individuals triangulate in order to boost their own egos and mask their deeply-rooted in...