The UnMothered Podcast

Over the past few years, I’ve been studying the different types of toxic moms. Imagine my surprise when I started studying about toxic parenting and realized my mom was emotionally immature AND narcissistic!  I never knew what to expect from my mom from one day to the next. It was exhausting trying to figure it all out. It made so much sense, but also it hurt to see that her characteristics w...

One thing I’ve learned over the years is that you can self-sabotage by letting your triggers control you. Let’s talk about the everyday life habits that may keep you stuck negatively. Are you allowing your scared feelings to control you and prevent you from becoming the confident, strong woman you are meant to be? How can we find some ways to slowly change our thinking patterns so we can start liv...

How do we find the heart to heal those who have hurt us? We will explore what it means to forgive people who hurt you deeply. Do you need to forgive them? Should you? What does that look like? Let’s talk about this. I was asked in my private Facebook group of my Unmothered women, what to do when they are having a hard time wanting to heal a relationship with their mom and sometimes with their sibl...

As I was channel surfing I stopped on The Bachelorette. I never watch this show anymore, but of course, I was curious! I swear God wanted me to hear this, Gabby Windey was on a date and they were talking about family. His parents had been married forever and loved each other fiercely. She started telling him about her fractured relationship with her mom! How when she graduated her mother wrote her...

Most women don’t even acknowledge that their mom is a narcissist or may be toxic.  In order to start your healing journey, you have to NAME the pain that has been done to you in your childhood.  And I want to note, I’m not giving out professional advice! Apart from being a certified coach, I am not a doctor or therapist, so please take this as my personal opinion and as my own personal e...

Let’s dig into a deeper conversation about some signs and qualities that I’ve started to notice about people with narcissistic tendencies. A big question we must ask is, where it comes from (possibly) and what are some signs of things you yourself may be suffering from being around or living with a person who is narcissistic. Upon my reading and studying, I’ve come across a few signs that show you...

Hi peeps! We are taking July off and decided to re-publish our most downloaded episodes for you to listen to! We will be back in August with new episodes and don't forget to follow me over on Instagram to keep up. What was it like growing up in your home?  In my home, I felt like I was constantly dealing with a teenager or even a child. While at the time I just thought this was ‘normal’ I lat...

Dr. Michelle Bengtson is an international speaker, a national and international media resource on mental health, and the bestselling, award-winning author of Hope Prevails , the Hope Prevails Bible Study , Today Is Going to Be a Good Day , Breaking Anxiety's Grip , and The Hem of His Garment . She is also the host of the award-winning podcast Your Hope-Filled Perspective . A board-certified clinic...

As we watch young adults graduate from high school and college, the question comes up again; does having a diploma make you smarter and more successful?  Can you maneuver through the world without schooling? And can different types of education or life skills can help you thrive? I always have mixed feelings at this time of year. So many emotions have played into my skilled learning and how t...

Given the passionate social media opinions about the Harrison Butker speech, I thought this would be a great conversation to have with you all, being that it is about motherhood.  It’s the age-old debate: are we more fulfilled being a mother, or are our careers more important than staying at home? Let’s talk about the stay at home mom being the most rewarding job on earth (or so he said). Eve...

Just because we are strong doesn’t mean we are healed.  Do people think you have it all together because they perceive you as strong?  How many times have people told you how strong you are or how normal you seem after they know about your hard childhood? We aren’t as strong as you think. We have had to be strong to survive.  There is a difference. When hard things happened to me ov...

Even in the best of families, we have a tendency to put our opinions or traumas onto our children.  We have patterns of behavior that can be instilled in them and when they grow up, they might recognize it’s not healthy, or they might end up with the same traumas themselves. How do we break this pattern off?  I realized that I had unconsciously done something wrong as I watched my daught...

Mothering is one of the most important and confusing jobs you will ever have! I have been watching a few women on Instagram who are either new mothers or pregnant with their first child. Having raised my girls, I feel for these women, and at the same time I just want to hug them and let them know “there is no perfect way” and “you will make mistakes!” and it will all be okay.  There are so ma...

Lori Morrison is a committed advocate for strengthening physical, emotional, and spiritual safety in our churches. She's a former church staffer, and retired private investigator, as well as an author, podcaster, and speaker. She shares real stories at the intersection of faith and true crime to highlight actionable steps any of us can take in our faith communities.  She hosts the popular pod...

When you’ve grown up in trauma and have normalized some behaviors, you miss what is known as “red flag” in others. I’m giving full credit of this episode to Nate Postlethwait. because he talked about this on one of his posts and it got me thinking. One of the things we as women tend to do when we have grown up in trauma, is we think we know people (or should I say men) and we get into relationship...

How do you define the black sheep in the family? Has this label been placed on you because you don’t abide by the dysfunction in your family? There is a difference between being the troublemaker or the truth-teller. If you are just trying to survive in a highly abusive family situation, you learn to fight and stand on your own.  Do you always make the right decisions? Not always, but who does...

I'm so excited to chat with Linda Goldfarb today on all things LINKED® Personality System! I became a LINKED® Personality Coach a couple of years ago, and I love this program. Whether sipping frothed coffee with friends, hiking with her hubby Sam, engaging in deep conversation with her children and grandchildren, or speaking truth with gentle boldness, Linda Goldfarb strives to be transparent and...

How can you keep your faith through impossible circumstances? I recently watched an award-winning movie and it got me thinking about how long I could keep my faith alive and trust that God could perform a miracle.  I think of our circumstances in our time. We feel completely smothered in our pain or situation. Not being able to breathe or have hope. I coach some people who feel that way. We n...

Looking back through the chapters of my first book, 'Unmothered,' it surprised me how honest I was in writing it! I poured my heart into it so others could see the truth of my challenging story, and I prayed it would inspire them to be honest about their own experiences. I've come to realize that the purpose of this book is to permit others to never be ashamed of their difficult stories and to hav...

Sara Cormany is a wife, mom, and follower of Jesus. A former speech educator and a storyteller at heart, Sara has long had a passion for helping others tell their stories---be it as a teacher, an editor, a writing coach, or a project manager in the publishing industry. She is an award-winning author and speaker whose days are traced by the grace of a good God. Although chronic illness has been par...

If you’ve never watched the popular Netflix show Love Is Blind then you won’t understand this episode as much, but bear with me. I will be deep-diving into a few people from this show and even if you’ve never seen it, you might get what I’m talking about.  The premise of the show is can you go into a relationship blind, never seeing what the physical side of a person looks like, or can you ju...

Do you ever think about what kind of impact you leave on people? Let's discuss how important your legacy is to people you come in contact with, relative or not. I have given so much thought to this as I have tried to manage the uncomfortable feelings of my brother’s suicide. The legacy he has left on his family, me, my children, his children and grandchildren. They have this tainted version of how...

We know about our physical health, but how about the emotional side of our physical health? On today’s episode, I’m interviewing Rachael Morris. She is a certified holistic health coach as well as a certified nutrition and macro coach. She’s been health coaching clients for 10 years and has helped hundreds of women develop plans to help their chronic health issues and break past barriers that keep...

Cherie Denna’s mission is to empower individuals to find a deep sense of belonging and belovedness in Jesus Christ in their everyday lives. She draws from her extensive experience in women's ministry, relapse prevention, prayer counseling, and recovery to inspire audiences to remove imposters from their lives.  Her newly released debut book, Beloved Outcast: The Quest for True Belonging , is...

What kind of communicator are you with your kids? Are you a screamer or ignoring Mom?  How you grew up can determine certain traits that may need to be broken within yourself, only if you recognize them. I was having a conversation a few days ago with another mom, and it occurred to me that when it comes to us moms and how we have been raised, one of the dysfunctions that can carry down throu...