The UnMothered Podcast

We are still on our summer break! Stay tuned for new episodes coming back in August. Chat more soon, peeps! Check out my latest book: ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ This week's episode came as an anonymous request through my weekly newsletter, Tuesday Talks With Phylis (link in bio to sign up or head to my website!). Let’s talk about the...

Pretty much everyone I have met has a childhood story, good or bad.  When you can understand the story as a whole, then you can start digging into the deeper parts. Do you tend to blame one person? These are some of the things to think about if you want to start doing deep work. I made one specific person the ‘villain’, until I started learning through my newest schooling that there is more t...

Do you have a strong opinion on divorce?  Once again, we see another well known speaker/author come out to say he has been having an affair (although I would say it’s a second life at this point). Now the question for his wife becomes, “Should I divorce him?”  At this point, their kids are all grown, but it got me thinking about what you would do if you were in this situation with small...

A new opinion is going around lately that having boundaries is selfish and cruel.  Even celebrity kids are getting scrutiny for trying to set boundaries around their famous parents (yes, I’m talking about The Beckhams in this episode!).  Where do we draw the line, and how do we quiet the noise so we can create our own healthy families? My book, ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon!...

Let’s get real about what motherhood entails. It can be the most important time in a woman's life, but it can also be the most confusing time. I wanted to get my youngest, Dominique’s, opinion since she is a new mom this year! What can be a beautiful time can also be the hardest time in a woman’s life. You add to that anyone out there that is “Unmothered” either by a toxic mom or if your mom has p...

Do you ever look back at the younger you and feel sadness?  Are you afraid to make changes now because it is comfortable staying in this place, even though it makes you mourn what could have been? The journey to start changing some of the habits and hurts in which you came from can be tricky. Some of those old ways are easy on some level, and changing everything around can spin your head!&nbs...

As we start the new year, I think this is an interesting topic to talk about. What kind of rooms do you want to be a part of? What is your worth? Where do you want to shine? Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of posts about being sure to surround yourself with a few good people you can trust, and also knowing which circles to be in. It is really about knowing your worth and being confident (sometimes...

One of my favorite shows had a great scene about generational dysfunction but this time it was a conversation between father and son.  Listen in as we discuss how fathers rarely talk about their abusive history, but when they do, it can change everything! My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational...

Do you bypass your emotions because it feels like you are less spiritual? Do hard emotions freak you out? Do you tend to fill that uncomfortable feeling with busyness?  This episode is for you. Let’s find out why you think emotions are only to be tended to for other people, but not you.  You might be surprised by some answers. My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No...

I recently was a guest on the Counter Culture Podcast with host Tina Griffin and was able to share so much of my story!  Phylis Mantelli was raised in a violent and abusive home with a mother who didn’t know how to show love or kindness. With so much trauma and pain in her past, Phylis felt lost for many years and dealt with her hurtful past in unhealthy ways - but God wasn’t finished with he...

What role do you play if you are a stepmother? Do you treat your own daughter differently, or do you include all kids together as one? After reading a post on social media about this very subject, I had to dive into this storyline. Let’s get into what a “mama mentor” really looks like. My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to br...

How many times have you set New Year’s Resolutions only to feel like a fool for not completing them? Don’t look at it as resolutions as much as intentions to move forward with the dreams you think about and don’t know where to start. Let’s break it down and also give yourself grace that not everything has to be completed this year, let’s just move the needle My latest book is now available for pre...

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it t...

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it t...

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it t...

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it t...

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it t...

How do you show gratitude when everything is falling apart?  Can you find the blessing in the midst of the storm? Digging through this tough time is where your faith grows, but it is tougher than most think.  Let’s find the joy that God knows your pain and still will have good for you moving forward. My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for...

What happens to your own body when a loved one takes their own life?  It’s a touchy subject and not one everyone can talk about to their friends. It’s still a taboo subject and one riddled with guilt and shame.  Everyone wants you to move on, but your body is keeping score.  It’s time to find out how to help yourself process that trauma within.  My latest book is now available...

Are we too protective and private in our motherhood journey?  I know for some of us, we have put up walls to protect, but what if there was a community that could come alongside you and walk with you through it all! Other countries do it; we need to take a note from their playbook. Today I am taking the advice of my oldest daughter, Ariel, and reading an eye-opening book called “Please Yell a...

Can you become a good mom without a map? Has your dysfunctional childhood warped your parenting skills?  I was asked this question as a guest on a podcast recently, and I wanted to dig through this a bit deeper because I thought it was such a great question!  Lord knows I didn’t do motherhood perfectly, and I was fearful of everything, but we have to let our children fall sometimes so th...

Do you fake your way through life? Is behavior modification a regular “go to” for you? Does it look good on the outside, but you are spiritually weak on the inside?  Is it possible to learn new brain pathways AND join your brain and faith?  Let’s find out. Check out the other Capo Beach sermons on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@CapoBeachChurch Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMot...

What happens when you attract the wrong people because you are giving and kind?  Well, I think the answer lies in the reason why you feel you have to be so kind all the time to everyone. Maybe you were the peacemaker in your family, or the caregiver.  Now you think the only way you can get love and affirmation is to DO IT ALL!  Let’s dig into the “why” of being kind at all costs. Le...

What happens when there are BIG EMOTIONS surrounding the death of your toxic mother?  Do you react the way you thought you would? And what do you do with these emotions once they hit?  We will explore all of this in this episode, and, of course, it all stemmed from a show I was watching that involved mother-daughter dysfunction. Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast http...

Should you have compassion for a mother who is hard to love?  I was talking with one of my clients when she asked this question. This can be thought provoking depending on the relationship you currently have with your mom. Also, what happens when she might need more from you than you can give? Do you go to her aid?  Let’s find some common ground so you don’t get burned or burned out, and...