The UnMothered Podcast

Have you ever walked into a church and felt like no one would really understand how weary and tired you are of pretending to be okay when you're not? Or how about feeling like less of a Christian because your bible study or quiet time with God has been waning or non-existent? Well, my friend Lori Morrison and Lori Prather have written a beautiful book to get you centered back to a calm, quiet time...

The recent events that happened at Cornell University have reminded me of my own assault story.  When do we start protecting our young women from this kind of act? I think the most important part of this story today is finding some answers, justice, and change in the way we look at rapes and assaults on women at college campuses. More discussions need to be had, and we need to understand the...

When Spiritual Abuse becomes the norm in the church, we are missing the boat on what church is about.  The documentary on Micah Miller has really sparked some good conversations about when we become blind mice in the eyes of a church gathering. The bible should be our final say, not what one pastor is telling you. Let’s Connect! Follow me on IG: The UnMothered Podcast https://www.instagram.co...

What happens when a woman enters motherhood without the support, guidance, or safety net of a mother of her own? Motherhood can bring joy, but it can also bring us into some of the darkest and most vulnerable places of our lives. When we are struggling without a strong support system, those difficult places can become even harder to navigate. And sometimes, all it takes is one unhealthy person or...

We are back with part 2 of our conversation with Kelly! Kelly Miller is an author, health coach, marketing strategist, and lifelong believer that everything you want in life starts with your fork. She’s the creator of Healthy Cooking 101 and The Eat, Dream, Do Guide , built from years of personal testing and teaching women how to make real food and healthy cooking fit into real life. After navigat...

Today we are talking with Kelly Miller! We are marking this a two-part episode, so stay tuned for part two coming next Monday. Kelly is an author, health coach, marketing strategist, and lifelong believer that everything you want in life starts with your fork. She’s the creator of Healthy Cooking 101 and The Eat, Dream, Do Guide , built from years of personal testing and teaching women how to make...

Let’s dive into a great conversation around forgiveness and healing with Amy Smyth Miller. Amy is a nationally recognized educator with a bachelor’s degree in special education and a master’s in counseling. She recently retired after a 30-year career in public education and lives in northern Washington State with her husband, “Captain Crusty,” her adult son with special needs, and her rescue dachs...

You deserve to have a happy, stable relationship with someone who honors your worth. But, do you have a fractured idea of what you deserve from a relationship because you witnessed your mom in her relationships?  Picking the wrong partner has a lot to do with how you witnessed your single mom (or dad) relate in their own dating life. The topic is an important subject if you are a single woman...

How does a mom talk about the child she had lost? This can be a touchy subject, but it is near to my heart since I've lost a child. I wanted to share with you how I navigated it with my girls. What happens when you haven’t talked about it and now your adult children have questions? Or have they written their own story around it? Only a mom who has lost a child knows this ache and can understand, b...

We are still on our summer break! Stay tuned for new episodes coming back next Monday. Chat more soon, peeps! Check out my latest book:  ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ Over the past few years, I’ve been studying the different types of toxic moms. Imagine my surprise when I started studying about toxic parenting and realized my mom wa...

We are still on our summer break! Stay tuned for new episodes coming back in August. Chat more soon, peeps! Check out my latest book:  ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ How do you define the black sheep in the family? Has this label been placed on you because you don’t abide by the dysfunction in your family? There is a difference betwe...

We are still on our summer break! Stay tuned for new episodes coming back in August. Chat more soon, peeps! Check out my latest book:  ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ Do you get scared or anxious from ordinary things in your life?  Can it be tied to past traumatic events? Sometimes the things we react to now are a direct result o...

We are still on our summer break! Stay tuned for new episodes coming back in August. Chat more soon, peeps! Check out my latest book: ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon! Go check it out today: https://a.co/d/06GruRTZ This week's episode came as an anonymous request through my weekly newsletter, Tuesday Talks With Phylis (link in bio to sign up or head to my website!). Let’s talk about the...

Pretty much everyone I have met has a childhood story, good or bad.  When you can understand the story as a whole, then you can start digging into the deeper parts. Do you tend to blame one person? These are some of the things to think about if you want to start doing deep work. I made one specific person the ‘villain’, until I started learning through my newest schooling that there is more t...

Do you have a strong opinion on divorce?  Once again, we see another well known speaker/author come out to say he has been having an affair (although I would say it’s a second life at this point). Now the question for his wife becomes, “Should I divorce him?”  At this point, their kids are all grown, but it got me thinking about what you would do if you were in this situation with small...

A new opinion is going around lately that having boundaries is selfish and cruel.  Even celebrity kids are getting scrutiny for trying to set boundaries around their famous parents (yes, I’m talking about The Beckhams in this episode!).  Where do we draw the line, and how do we quiet the noise so we can create our own healthy families? My book, ‘UnMothered No More’ is now live on Amazon!...

Let’s get real about what motherhood entails. It can be the most important time in a woman's life, but it can also be the most confusing time. I wanted to get my youngest, Dominique’s, opinion since she is a new mom this year! What can be a beautiful time can also be the hardest time in a woman’s life. You add to that anyone out there that is “Unmothered” either by a toxic mom or if your mom has p...

Do you ever look back at the younger you and feel sadness?  Are you afraid to make changes now because it is comfortable staying in this place, even though it makes you mourn what could have been? The journey to start changing some of the habits and hurts in which you came from can be tricky. Some of those old ways are easy on some level, and changing everything around can spin your head!&nbs...

As we start the new year, I think this is an interesting topic to talk about. What kind of rooms do you want to be a part of? What is your worth? Where do you want to shine? Lately, I’ve been seeing a lot of posts about being sure to surround yourself with a few good people you can trust, and also knowing which circles to be in. It is really about knowing your worth and being confident (sometimes...

One of my favorite shows had a great scene about generational dysfunction but this time it was a conversation between father and son.  Listen in as we discuss how fathers rarely talk about their abusive history, but when they do, it can change everything! My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational...

Do you bypass your emotions because it feels like you are less spiritual? Do hard emotions freak you out? Do you tend to fill that uncomfortable feeling with busyness?  This episode is for you. Let’s find out why you think emotions are only to be tended to for other people, but not you.  You might be surprised by some answers. My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No...

I recently was a guest on the Counter Culture Podcast with host Tina Griffin and was able to share so much of my story!  Phylis Mantelli was raised in a violent and abusive home with a mother who didn’t know how to show love or kindness. With so much trauma and pain in her past, Phylis felt lost for many years and dealt with her hurtful past in unhealthy ways - but God wasn’t finished with he...

What role do you play if you are a stepmother? Do you treat your own daughter differently, or do you include all kids together as one? After reading a post on social media about this very subject, I had to dive into this storyline. Let’s get into what a “mama mentor” really looks like. My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to br...

How many times have you set New Year’s Resolutions only to feel like a fool for not completing them? Don’t look at it as resolutions as much as intentions to move forward with the dreams you think about and don’t know where to start. Let’s break it down and also give yourself grace that not everything has to be completed this year, let’s just move the needle My latest book is now available for pre...

My latest book is now available for pre-order! UnMothered No More is a healing guide for daughters who long to break free from generational dysfunction, with honesty, compassion, and the wisdom of lived experience. I will walk alongside you through journaling prompts, prayer, and practical tools using the same practice I use in my own one-on-one coaching program. Click the link below to order it t...