The Uncover YOU podcast

Send us Fan Mail The safe, joyful, and blissful relationship we all long for, is not something our system is practiced with. Our nervous system might even signal danger when things get good. Or we don’t even notice when goodness knocks on our door since we’re so caught up in survival state. Part two of Holding Goodness goes all in on re-training your nervous system. The skills and energetic shifts...

Send us Fan Mail We all think we want what’s good, safe and joyful - but truth is that parts of you have gotten used to struggle and might even feel safe with it. It’s the known, while feeling safe and at ease is the unknown. This second episode of The New House series dives into what we need to address to experience goodness in our lives and relationships. Not just to go after the endless pursuit...

Send us Fan Mail When we have practiced being unsafe, frustrated, vigilant, unmet, and misunderstood for most of our lives - we probably need to practice something else to have a different experience. I call this building the new house (as you’re taking apart the old house of conditioning, protective mechanisms and fear). This is the first episode in The New House series in the podcast. It shows y...

Send us Fan Mail There are big lies in relationships, and then there are the small lies. How much we spent on that sweater, that we indeed are on our way (when we haven’t left the office), or that their loud chewing isn’t bothering us. In this episode, we look at why we lie or hide things from others, how it became automatic, and the hurt it’s protecting from. So you can stop using all your energy...

Send us Fan Mail Did you know that your complaints are hidden desires? And that when you learn to re-connect with the desire you’ll take a lot of personal power back? AND will be able to communicate more clearly with others? In this episode, I share a practice from my recent in-person retreat in Spain that guides you to find the wantings in your complaints. So you can get more of what you want in...

Send us Fan Mail “I want this but I’m not sure it’s reasonable to ask for it.” “Is it me or them?” “I want to be with them but I’m not getting what I want.” When we’ve learned to doubt what we want, and feel stuck in not having our needs met and constantly being pulled back into a core wound - we’re more likely to look for “the right choice” which keeps us in an inner conflict of what that is. In...

Send us Fan Mail When we learn to believe the lie that we need to be a certain way to be loved and appreciated, we start to exile aspects of ourselves that don’t fit the image. When we exile aspects of ourselves we also exile certain emotions. When we shut ourselves off from having certain emotions - we’ve disconnected from a crucial part of ourselves. Our wantings. In this episode, I talk about w...

Send us Fan Mail If we’re the ones to meet our own emotional needs - where do we begin? When we’re identified with parts that feel unloveable, broken, rejected or alone, this will feel impossible and confusing. Not to mention the fact that no one ever taught us or modelled it to us. In this episode, I talk about the two big shifts you need to make to start meeting your own emotional needs - so you...

Send us Fan Mail The possibility for suffering is right here, inside of you, and so is the possibility for joy, healing, and ease. For me and my friend Paul Grant, it took a few power journeys to Mexico, among other things, to experience the truth in that statement. In this episode, I have a conversation with Paul about that first journey to Mexico, the problem with being at war with your mind, an...

Send us Fan Mail You’re doing the work—but something still feels stuck. In this episode, I share three subtle but common obstacles that show up when you’re trying to shift reactive patterns. These blocks often arise from your mind’s protective logic—and recognizing them is a crucial part of real transformation. I know you can have the shifts you long for. And one of the most important pieces of th...

Send us Fan Mail Want deeper connection—but shut down when it’s time to open up? In this episode, I explore why vulnerability often feels unsafe, and what to do when your nervous system interprets emotional intimacy as a threat. You’ll learn how to create real closeness without overriding your internal sense of safety—and how to meet the moment without abandoning yourself. — Check out these relate...

Send us Fan Mail Most of us carry shame and judgment about our emotional reactions—especially in relationships. In this episode, I offer 3 comforting truths to replace the fear-based stories that keep you stuck. These truths can change how you relate to your emotions, soften your internal response, and open the door to deeper healing and change. This is the episode to return to when you feel lost,...

Send us Fan Mail Most of us stay stuck in the surface layer of our reactions—anger, withdrawal, blame, shutdown. But those aren’t the real issue. In this episode, I walk you through one of my own recent triggers and share the emotional layers I uncovered underneath. You’ll learn how to recognize what’s really going on inside a reaction, and how to move through it in a way that actually shifts the...

Send us Fan Mail People-pleasing isn’t just a bad habit—it’s a protection mechanism rooted in your nervous system. In this episode, I break down what people-pleasing really is, why it feels so hard to say no, and how to shift the pattern at the root— without shaming yourself or forcing a boundary that doesn’t feel safe yet. You’ll also hear a real-life session where I guide Karen through this exac...

Send us Fan Mail What do you do in the moment —when you’re deep in a relationship trigger? In this episode, I walk you through three practical things you can do while the reaction is happening. You’ll also learn about the three capacity levels that help you respond instead of react, and how to grow your emotional leadership over time. This is for anyone who’s tired of knowing better… but still get...

Send us Fan Mail Suppose you want to change jealousy, people-pleasing, anger or other reactive relationship patterns. Then the first key is to recognize the survival state the relationship dynamics are putting you in. PLUS how you’re trying to make changes from there. When my clients learn how to regulate their nervous system and make changes from OUTSIDE the old identification, results to lifelon...

Send us Fan Mail Jealousy is one of the most misunderstood and shame-filled emotions we face in intimate relationships. That's why we tend to cover it up. In this episode, we explore what jealousy is really pointing to—how it’s often a sign of an unprocessed wound, and why simply “owning your reaction” isn’t enough. You’ll learn how to begin healing jealousy at the root while staying connecte...

Send us Fan Mail It’s often in relationships where your old wounds and protection mechanisms come roaring back—especially when it matters most. In this episode, I share three common—but rarely named—ways we show up in love that actually keep us stuck in cycles of frustration, emotional shutdown, or over-functioning. You’ll learn what these patterns look like, where they come from, and how to start...

Send us Fan Mail When you’re in a situation that triggers a strong emotional reaction, how do you know if it’s an old wound resurfacing—or if someone is actually crossing a line? In this episode, we explore how to tell the difference between a past pain asking for healing and a present moment asking for boundaries. You’ll learn how to process what you’re feeling without shame or blame, so you can...

Send us Fan Mail If your emotions still feel overwhelming, confusing, or hard to stay with—  you’re not alone, and you’re not broken. This episode walks you through 4 common signs of an underdeveloped relationship with emotions and why they may have formed. We explore how emotional immaturity often hides behind “normal” behaviors, why some expressions are more accepted than others, and the exact s...

Send us Fan Mail If you’re not doing your inner work from the belief that you’re broken and need fixing - why keep doing it? And what’s on the other side? This episode marks the end of 2023 and answers the questions: What happens with the parts of you that die? What are you becoming? Why set intentions? You find show notes in this post on my website Next coaching training cohort starts this fall....

Send us Fan Mail Sometimes a wound can sit at the level of the soul. A sense of your actions and embodiment being out of alignment with a soul purpose, or a heartbreak that had you form beliefs against your true nature. In our sixth session together, Wey takes a journey of remembering why her soul came here and what is important. Listen to find out how you can start to trust in being you - that yo...

Send us Fan Mail An ego death is a natural cycle of shedding old identities. But sometimes aspects of ourselves seem more stubborn and harder to let go of, even when we want to. In this episode we de-mystify the concept of ego death and look at how you can meet your shadow and loosen the grip of attachment, so you can finally let go of outdated iterations of yourself. You find show notes in this p...

Send us Fan Mail We can get so focused on the struggle in “doing the work” that we forget that there’s an experience on the other side of healing ourselves. If we’ve been addicted to struggle, then part of the journey is going to be to grow your tolerance of goodness and make safety, pleasure, and ease your new normal. In this fifth session with Wey, we’re spending time celebrating that she’s out...

Send us Fan Mail Want to watch the recording of this conversation and connect even deeper with the transmission? Get the video here Feel stuck in “doing” your inner work or adhering to spiritual concepts, and need a reminder of why you’re here? This is it. In this second episode with Chris Bale ( ep 64 from a year ago is one of the most listened to) we explore the misconception of having to become...