The Uncover YOU podcast

Send us Fan Mail If attractive people around your partner instantly trigger insecurity, comparison, or anxiety, this episode is for you. We'll explore why this happens, what your "scanner part" is actually trying to protect, and how old wounds can make attractiveness feel threatening long after the original pain is over. Most importantly, we'll look at how to stop making beauty...

Send us Fan Mail After 20 years of trying to fix herself, Emerson had reached a point where she believed nothing would truly change. The anxiety, the hypervigilance, the patterns in relationships — they felt too deep, too ingrained. In this conversation, she shares what shifted when the work stopped being something she understood in her mind… and became something she experienced in her body. We ta...

Send us Fan Mail What does it actually take to move from insecure to secure attachment? In this episode, I lay out the roadmap. Not the simplified version you often hear online — but the deeper process that rewires how you relate. We look at the three layers that shape how you relate: mindset, emotions, and your nervous system. And why secure attachment isn’t something you think your way into — it...

Send us Fan Mail Secure attachment isn’t the absence of reactions. It’s the capacity to move between closeness and space without spiraling in survival mode. It’s the moment when something that once felt life-threatening simply becomes… workable. In this episode, I walk through the five signs of insecure attachment we explored earlier in the series and show you what they look like on the other side...

Send us Fan Mail This week in the attachment series, I sit down with Jessica to explore the anxious strategy—what’s really happening beneath the urge to reach, pursue, obsess, and “make it safe” when someone feels distant. Jessica describes the somatic reality of anxious attachment: the hyper-attunement, the meaning-making in the gaps, and the visceral panic that can erupt when a text doesn’t come...

Send us Fan Mail I’m joined by my friend Pontus for an honest conversation about the pattern many people label “avoidant”—the push–pull between longing for connection and needing space. If you’re the one pulling away, or if you’re on the receiving end of someone creating distance, this episode offers a rare, compassionate look behind the curtain. Pontus shares what it’s like when the body says no...

Send us Fan Mail Want tangible ways to move from an insecure to a secure attachment? Follow along in my new series! In this first episode, I lay out five signs of insecure attachment and show how each one points toward your power when met with presence. Along the way, I offer a compassionate reframe that builds self-esteem rather than diagnoses it away. We practice separating sensations from narra...

Send us Fan Mail An unprocessed wound shows up as control, people-pleasing, blaming or shut-down in relationship situations. It's the spiralling in hurt when you think you don't matter to them. The doubting yourself and your worth. Or what keeps you from letting someone in. The key to healing relationship wounds at the root is to feel what you're most afraid of feeling. But the how...

Send us Fan Mail There’s a lot of dating advice out there saying the “right” love should feel calm, steady, and like home. No butterflies. No activation. No intensity. Just safety. But love is not meant to keep you comfortable. Love is disruptive. It opens the rooms inside of you that haven’t been met yet. It asks you to expand, to feel more, to grow. Nervous system regulation isn’t the end goal....

Send us Fan Mail What happens when you ask your partner for reassurance, comfort, or safety — and instead of bringing you closer, it pushes them away? In this episode, I take you deeper into the classic question from Ep 130, “Is It Me or Them?”   We’ll explore why our nervous system reverts to child–parent dynamics in moments of fear, how to recognize when a younger wounded part is activated, and...

Send us Fan Mail Have you felt frustrated that certain essential life skills—like feeling your emotions, regulating your nervous system and create connection—weren't taught to you as a child? I've heard this countless times from clients, and I've felt it myself. But what if this perspective is making things heavier than they have to be? In this episode, I invite you into a revolutio...

Send us Fan Mail What if you could transform jealousy from a shameful reaction into a powerful tool for relationship growth and self mastery? This episode dives into a listener question about navigating jealousy after infidelity and feeling shame about emotional outbursts. Rather than viewing jealousy as problematic, we explore a revolutionary perspective: jealousy as a protective mechanism for yo...

Send us Fan Mail This episode guides you into a mindset shift that changes everything. The journey toward secure relationships begins with us becoming loving with ourselves. When we operate from the belief that we're fundamentally broken and need fixing, we erode our self-esteem. Each setback becomes evidence of our failure rather than an opportunity for learning and growth.  Imagine approach...

Send us Fan Mail This episode dives deep into transforming how we relate to ourselves and others by flipping destructive narratives that keep us trapped in cycles of self-improvement. True self-esteem doesn't come from eliminating uncomfortable feelings but from growing your capacity to be with them while believing you deserve happiness. I share my journey meeting with two touchy experiences...

Send us Fan Mail We've all been there wondering: "Am I growing and healing, or just reinforcing old patterns?" Whether you're questioning if you should stay or leave, set boundaries or be understanding, there IS a compass to guide you.  And I tell you all about it in this episode. So that you can practice what truly builds better relationships (to yourself and others). The path...

Send us Fan Mail Ready to transform your relationship triggers into pathways for healing? Join me in this episode to discover how your "crazy" moments are your greatest teachers on the journey to secure connection. Welcome to the Relationship Revolution, where we're flipping the script on emotional triggers in relationships. Your nervous system activation isn't a failure—it&apo...

Send us Fan Mail Ready to reimagine everything you thought you knew about relationships? Season 3 of the Uncover You podcast turns conventional self-development upside down. For too long, you've told yourself that you need to "fix" yourself to deserve love. You've internalized the belief that success means you've "healed enough" to have a good relationship. This...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever experienced that you want to do things differently in relationships with yourself or others - but the old programming is strong? Stopping you from doing that new thing. To break old patterns and start doing something new, you need a strong why, a motivation. “I should be doing that” just isn’t strong enough to overcome old survival strategies. In this episode, I shar...

Send us Fan Mail Two years ago, after starting the most secure relationship Kate had ever had, she noticed anxiety about being enough or too much. Her system wasn’t used to consistency, kindness and support, and her body wasn’t sure it could trust it. Kate was often worried Ben would leave for someone “more attractive”. And when her fear and hurt would show up, she feared she was ruining everythin...

Send us Fan Mail We often have this idea that healing means we’re NOT having conflict. That the lack of conflict is a sign of a successful relationship or life. When we actually need to get more comfortable BEING in and moving through conflict in a way that heals and has us grow. If you’re avoiding conflict (scared of how it will make you feel) or creating conflict (a survival response that has ke...

Send us Fan Mail I want to get to the bottom of our reactive relationship patterns and what’s driving them. Because when we do we can heal and shift things at the core. One thing that I found hiding behind other emotions or protective patterns - on my own journey and working with a lot of clients - is shame. Shame is not just an emotion, but a full body-mind-emotion, and even soul, experience. In...

Send us Fan Mail Since I’m all about embodied, turned-on living and relating, I keep exploring what else can support my body in more aliveness. When I find things that have a big enough impact, I bring them into my programs. In the past year, I’ve focused on hormonal health and cyclical living and experienced HUGE benefits. Dr Maria Tedim is a female hormonal health specialist who has guided me in...

Send us Fan Mail Guiding others to real embodied shifts makes me really excited. Because I’m passionate about what works, I also get to see what doesn’t work. In this episode, I share where I see us get stuck when working on our relationship patterns, and how those places are opportunities to get the shifts you long for. — You find show notes in this post on my website Check out these related epis...

Send us Fan Mail If relationships have been the source of conflicts, reactive patterns, pain, and confusion for most of your life you might be wondering - how do you know if you’re healing and what does that feel like? In this episode, I share a perspective on healing in relationships that will give you laser focus on why you’re doing all your inner work. Plus what will get you there in 2025. — Yo...

Send us Fan Mail The last tale of our Yuletide saga, about falling in love with something you rejected. A series of 5 storytelling episodes over 10 days. Keeping you warm through the Holidays and reminding you of your wild heart. What if you could have everything you long for? What if 2025 could be that year..? Let me be your Morpheus, breaking you out from your gorgeous creation of fear and prote...