The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

As you know, we cover just about EVERYTHING a married couple deals with in marriage in our podcast episodes. There are a lot of things to remember, and sometimes it can get very overwhelming. In this episode, we decided to keep it simple and share, based on all the feedback we receive from husbands and wives, what men need and what women need in marriage to be happy. We recognize that this isn’t u...

Think about how powerful our five senses are. What we see, feel, hear, smell, and taste makes life so gratifying and amazing! Take away any one of those, and life becomes a completely different experience. So how many of us shut down our senses when it comes to foreplay and lovemaking? Many of us turn the lights off, removing our sense of sight. We try to be quiet instead of verbally expressing ho...

We had someone message us stating that we sounded like we were fighting in one of our previous podcast episodes, and they asked if we were okay in our marriage :) Amy and I laughed when we got the message and decided that we needed to do this episode on why it is healthy to have disagreements or to see things differently in marriage, and the difference between fighting and having disagreements. Be...

In this episode, we dive into playful and creative ways to initiate sexual intimacy with your spouse! Whether you're looking for fun ways to break the routine, build anticipation, or make the moment fun or special, we've got you covered. From lighthearted flirting to exciting surprises, we share practical ideas that will help you reconnect emotionally and sexually. Join us in this episod...

We spend a lot of time talking about how, when a couple has a good emotional connection, they are much more likely to have a good sexual connection! Emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy really do go hand in hand. Unfortunately, what often happens is that when a couple's emotional connection starts going downhill, the sexual connection almost always follows, and vice versa. We hear from so m...

There are so many crazy things going on in the world. We are facing wars, an invasion of our country, inflation, potential port strikes, division like we have never seen before, natural disasters, and so much more! These are things that we spend so much time worrying about, but have very little control over. What we should be doing is focusing on improving the things that we can control such as ou...

Ever felt like you're doing all the heavy lifting in your marriage? You're not alone. This episode discusses the signs you are in a "one sided" marriage, and what you can do about it. Sometimes a spouse may stop putting forth any effort because they have resentment, have been hurt or something has happened and they do this intentionally, but other times it is done unintentional...

This is part 2 of the ways men and women are wired so differently when it comes to sex. In this episode we continue our discussion and offer insight as to why men and women are so different and why instead of looking at it in a negative way, you should look at the differences in a way that can bring you closer together. If you haven't listened to episode 302 (part one) first, we recommend you...

When you look at how men and women are wired so differently when it comes to sex, it is easy to understand why it is a source of contention in so many marriages. Couples don't understand, nor do they talk about the ways they are wired differently. If couples better understood how each spouse is wired when it comes to sex, and talked about it together, marriages would be so much different... a...

When we go on date night, it is astonishing to look around and see how many people are on their phones instead of talking to their spouse. Is it because they don't want to talk to their spouse? Or is it because they don't know what to talk about with their spouse? We don't know the answer, but we hope it is the latter. In this episode, we give you 20 things you should be talking to...

Establishing boundaries with extended families and friends is vital to a happy marriage. Most couples state that extended family and friends cause issues in their marriage. In this episode, we'll dive into practical strategies for setting boundaries that honor your relationship while still nurturing connections with extended family and friends. Whether you're dealing with overbearing in-...

It is amazing how certain words can be so triggering for some spouses and the word "help" is one of these words that can have good intentions, but can also be very triggering. For example, when one spouse says, "How can I help?" it may unintentionally create a hierarchy where one spouse is the "manager" and the other the "assistant."  When a spouse offers to...

What does it mean to "pursue" your spouse emotionally and sexually? There are so many things in life that we pursue. We pursue better jobs, pursue our hobbies and interests, pursue better things in life. What happens if we stopped just stopped pursuing those things? How would our lives change? If we stopped pursing things we would probably loose excitement, ambition or even purpose in ou...

It is amazing how many people reach out to us, saying things like, "I want to do _________ in the bedroom, but my spouse isn't open to it or doesn't want to try new things. What can I do?" It is important to recognize that we all come from different backgrounds and have different experiences growing up (or even as adults) that shape our thoughts, beliefs, and comfort levels whe...

In today’s fast-paced world, many couples face the challenge of balancing career demands and family life, often leading to a shift in traditional gender roles. As a wife who has experienced this firsthand, I’ve come to realize that toxic masculinity and toxic femininity are not just abstract concepts but real issues impacting our marriages. When I started working full time and juggling the respons...

In this podcast episode, we talk with Nate Whitson, the founder and owner of Get In The Fight, an organization that helps men become better husbands and fathers, and also overcome addictions and struggles. Nate shares his journey and experience, and what inspired him to build this company focused on helping men realize their true purpose and become better in every way. Whether you are a husband or...

You hear us talk about sex ALL the time on the podcast and the things couples can do to have an amazing sex life. So many couples look at sex completely differently and have a hard time understanding the things they can do to have a better sex life. Nick recently heard a lady give a 6-minute talk on YouTube about how treating sex like a hobby can completely change your sex life with your spouse. S...

We do podcasts on all sorts of subjects and issues that most couples face... and there are a ton of them. For many of us, it may seem overwhelming thinking of all the things we as couples need to do to have a great marriage! We hear a lot of couples say they feel like it is just too much and they don't think they can do everything, or ever get to having the marriage they want. While all good...

We got some emails back from our audience on our newsletter and podcast episode 282 where we answered many of your tough questions. Some of you didn't like the way we answered some of the questions, and we also got a bunch more questions that you wanted us to answer... so in this episode, we respond to your emails, and answer more questions. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultim...

Ever wondered how political differences can coexist within a loving relationship without causing constant conflict? Our latest episode promises to equip you with the tools and insights needed to navigate these challenging waters. Join us as we uncover the secret to maintaining respect and open communication when political views clash. You'll learn how focusing on common values, such as mutual...

We talk quite often about the negative consequences of a wife having no sexual desire, but what about the negative impacts on a wife when the husband has no sexual desire? We hear from many women that their husband doesn't have any sexual desire, and therefore they aren't romantic, don't fulfill emotional needs, don't pay compliments, etc. For many men, their sexual desire driv...

We got this idea and topic from someone who emailed us about something they are struggling with. This is absolutely a topic we can discuss because we are both very career-driven, love to work hard, and we work together EVERYDAY. It is often very tough to balance things when life gets extremely busy and when you are both career driven. For a while in our relationship, we didn't have things bal...

Okay, before we jump into this episode, we do recognize that there are women out there who just don't want to have sex and do have AMAZING husbands. We totally get that, and our hearts break for the husbands because sexual intimacy is so vital and important in marriage. But... what if there are things that some husbands are doing (that they don't realize) that are causing their wives not...

Have you ever wondered how unresolved emotional pain can manifest into destructive habits like pornography addiction? Today, we welcome back Austin Ellis, a dedicated therapist specializing in sexual addiction recovery, who shares his intimate journey from personal struggle to professional savior. Austin’s deeply personal anecdotes and professional wisdom provide a roadmap for couples grappling wi...

We get so many of you reaching out to us with questions and concerns or stating things that you are facing in your relationships. The 4-5 questions or statements we get are almost always the same things that couples are navigating or seeking answers and solutions to. To help us answer these important topics, we wanted to bring on a marriage expert who deals with thousands of couples that also stru...