The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

We hear from so many spouses who tell us they don’t feel like their spouse respects them. Of course, what respect looks like can look very different for every couple, depending on their unique dynamics, values, and needs. However, one thing remains true: when a spouse doesn’t feel respected in the relationship for ANY reason, it can lead to severe consequences—both emotionally and sexually. Respec...

There are so many hidden poisons out there that have profound negative impacts on our relationships, and for many of us, we don't even recognize that we are being poisoned. For example, how are the movies or TV shows we watch influencing us? Do the things we consume on social media poison our relationships? We think they do! What we consume absolutely shapes our views about our relationships,...

Have you ever wondered what makes some couples seem effortlessly happy while others struggle with constant dissatisfaction? The truth is, it often comes down to a few key habits and attitudes that happy couples practice consistently.  These behaviors foster deeper emotional connections, better communication, and more fulfilling intimacy. On the flip side, unhappy couples tend to fall into negative...

We hear from spouses all the time that the bar is set too high and that their spouse requires too much from them before being willing to be intimate. If you want to be happy in your marriage, you should naturally be doing things like providing emotional intimacy and connecting as a couple. There shouldn’t be certain achievements that must be met in order to experience the intimacy you should alrea...

If you find yourself constantly unhappy in your marriage or dissatisfied with your sex life, it might be time to take a hard look at your attitude . While external factors like busy schedules, stress, and unmet expectations can contribute to intimacy issues, your mindset and approach toward your relationship play a far bigger role than most people realize. Here’s the truth: Your attitude shapes yo...

We did a podcast like this a few years ago, but we felt is was such an important topic that we needed to do it again. In a video on social media for the men titled “the reasons your wife doesn’t want to make love to you” we heard from a lot of the women that it is because their emotional needs are not being met . In one of the comments from the video, a husband stated:  “A man’s emotional needs ar...

We often do things in our marriages that have profound impacts without even recognizing we are doing them. Sometimes we do them unintentionally, and other times intentionally. When it comes to our kids, it is not uncommon for spouses to prioritize their kids over their relationship with their spouse. This can, of course, have a big impact on the relationship. Join us for this episode where we talk...

As the 2024 year wraps up, we decided that we were going to set some new goals to help our marriage thrive in 2025 and we think these goals can really help your marriage as well. However, these goals don't have to just be new years goals, you could set them anytime of the year! Some of these goals include: Daily physical touch such as holding hands, hugging etc Do an adventure together monthl...

My parents got divorced when I was about 15 years old. As that happened over 30 years ago, I have been able to reflect and look back on the things I noticed that had caused the marriage to fail. I also learned valuable lessons of what "not" to do in my relationship. In this episode Nick shares the things he learned from his parents divorce and the vital things couples should do to keep t...

If you want to have amazing sexual intimacy and connection in the bedroom, there are certain things you need to do not only in the bedroom, but outside of the bedroom. Good emotional intimacy typically equals good sexual intimacy. In this podcast episode we dive into the 10 things you need to do as a couple to have amazing intimacy in the bedroom. So.. If you are couple that wants to have a better...

Many of us get stressed out and busy with life, and our intimacy takes a back seat to everything else going on in our lives. Soon, we realize there is no romance or passion in the relationship and wonder, "How did we get here?" For many of us, we become complacent. We stop going on date nights, sharing interests or hobbies, and doing things together. We start leading separate lives, and...

Ok, let's be honest, it really isn't that difficult to make your man feel like a stud :) But.. we still wanted to share our poll answers from the husbands and let you hear directly from them as to what they need from their wive's to feel loved and appreciated. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App in the app stores, or at ultimateintimacy.com to find &q...

In this episode of the Ultimate Intimacy Podcast , we dive into what it truly means to make your wife feel beautiful—not just in how she looks, but in how she feels valued, cherished, and seen. The things you do and say play a huge role in helping her see the beauty you see in her every day. We share the poll answers we received from wives about what they want from their husbands to feel more beau...

Rebuilding your marriage... what does that mean? About half way through our marriage, our marriage was broken and at rock bottom. We decided that our marriage wasn't working and we weren't going to last that way as we weren't happy, nor was our marriage what we wanted it to be, and so we rebuilt our marriage to the marriage we wanted to have instead of staying with the current marri...

Words hold incredible power, especially in marriage. The things you say to your spouse can either build them up or tear them down. Every conversation has the potential to strengthen your relationship or create distance. Your words matter a great deal in your marriage. Here are some of the reasons why: Words shape emotional intimacy Words can heal or hurt Words often reflect your heart Words either...

The Christmas season is an amazing time to focus on Christ, your family, and your spouse, to be grateful for all you have, and to give meaningful gifts that show your spouse how much you love them. But for many of us, this can be a very stressful process. If you’re like me, it’s so hard to find that perfect gift for your spouse! If you want to give your spouse the perfect gift, you first need to k...

The holidays are just around the corner—a time filled with family, festivities, and endless to-do lists. But while the season brings joy and excitement, it can also bring stress, exhaustion, and a surprising amount of disconnect for couples. With so much going on, intimacy often takes a back seat, leaving both spouses feeling distant during a time meant for togetherness. In this episode, we’re div...

We all know that sexual intimacy plays a vital role in a happy, healthy marriage. It’s a way to connect on a deeper level, to build trust, and to keep the spark alive in your relationship. But let’s be real—life can get in the way. Stress, misunderstandings, and even distractions can creep in and slowly chip away at the desire for intimacy. In this episode, we’re tackling a topic that every couple...

In this episode, we’re talking all about foreplay—both the physical and emotional kinds—and why it’s such a game-changer in your marriage. Whether you’ve been married for a few months or a few decades, this conversation is one you don’t want to miss. We dive deep into the physical side of foreplay, exploring what husbands and wives really want and need when it comes to getting in the mood. We’ll t...

In Outwitting the Devil , Napoleon Hill describes "drifters" as those who go through life (or marriage) without purpose, direction, or decisive action, often becoming controlled by external forces. They just go wherever the wind blows them so to speak. We see a lot of people like this not only in life, but in their relationships. They assume that their relationship or marriage will just...

It seems like we all get so busy with life that we forget to do the little things daily that greatly improve emotional intimacy... which also improves sexual intimacy. These include being physically present when you're together, expressing gratitude for the small things, showing daily acts of love—such as sending a simple text to tell your spouse how much they mean to you—or ending the day wi...

In the past few episodes, we have talked about what men need and what women need in marriage, and we also discussed how men and women are so different when it comes to sex. When you can understand how men and women are so different and what each spouses needs are, then you can implement things to help your relationship. In this episode we discuss the difference between "needs" and "...

It is amazing how many of us don't do the things that could drastically improve our relationships, that are pretty easy to do. Whether we get lazy, fall into bad habits or whatever it may be, we stop doing the simple things that would make our marriages so much better. In this episode, Nick and Amy talk about the things that couples should do at least once a year to have their marriage flouri...

Sexual intimacy for most women is not a need but a want, and let's be honest, for many women, it's not even a want. Their bodies are typically wired completely differently than a man's body. They react to sexual intimacy completely differently than most men do. For most women, they are only going to want sex or be willing to have sex if their emotional needs are being met and when t...

It drives us crazy when we hear wive's say "my husband just wants sex!" and they treat it as if it is something strictly physical for him. Nothing could be further from the truth. If sex for a husband (man) was just a physical want, and not a need, he would just "take care of himself" and never bother his wife for sex ever again, and would he be content and happy in the ma...