The Ultimate Intimacy Podcast

We always talk about emotional intimacy needing to be strong before sexual intimacy, but we also say that sometimes sexual intimacy needs to be prioritized too! Which one comes first? What does emotional intimacy coming first even mean? What does this balance even look like, and how do we find it in our marriages? So many couples struggle with this because a lot of husbands say that the emotional...

Have you ever considered how destructive our devices can be to our marriages and relationships? You've heard many of the social media polls we have done that offer shocking insight as to how many couples are negatively impacted by our screen time/devices.  And how addictive our devices can be. In this fantastic podcast episode, Nick and Amy interview Nate Klemp who is the author of the 80/80...

It’s human nature to want to be right. We all crave validation. However in relationships, striving to be right at all costs can lead to conflicts and strain in your marriage. We have all either been in, or have seen couples argue about the most small and ridiculous things. And instead of letting it go and moving on, the argument escalates and turns into something HUGE because one of the spouses ha...

Have you ever wondered what the different stages of marriages are, and why some seasons seem to be so much more difficult than others? Why does intimacy change and why is it so hard to keep intimacy strong during the different seasons in life? In this episode, we discuss the different stages in marriage and why each stage is unique, and how it can negatively impact intimacy. We also share the ways...

We always talk about the importance of both emotional intimacy and sexual intimacy in a marriage. Both go hand in hand and are VITAL to a happy and successful marriage, and good sexual intimacy. However, they are both extremely different! One's needs can often be met and satisfied outside of the marriage, while other needs cannot. So how does this impact a relationship? For most women, they n...

In about 90% of marriages, there is a high-desire spouse and a low-desire spouse, meaning there are typically differences in libido or sexual desire in the relationship. This discrepancy can cause a lot of issues between a couple. Don't believe us? Just listen to the poll results and comments we received about this topic in this episode. Most couples just assume that "this is the way it...

Are you wondering what the temperature of your marriage is, or how your spouse feels about certain things? Does your spouse feel the same way about your marriage (or different aspects of your marriage) that you do? In this episode, Nick and Amy share questions to rate your marriage and then discuss with your spouse to gauge the temperature of your marriage, and prompt great conversations. They als...

For most couples, during the early years of marriage things are passionate and sex seems to happen often. But as time passes on, sex in the relationship dwindles and couples stop having frequent sexual intimacy and the passion wears off. This is a very common theme for MANY couples. According to experts, couples that find themselves in this type of relationship have around an 80% of ending in divo...

Valentines Day is approaching, and if you are like many couples, it is difficult to find that perfect gift for your spouse. Many couples often struggle with what to get their spouse for V - Day, but finding that perfect gift might not be a hard as it seems. In this episode, Nick and Amy share how to find your spouse the perfect gift that will sure to please your spouse using their love language. S...

For many couples, they think that once the excitement of the relationship (or the infatuation stage) wears off, they are falling out of love, or the relationship is not good. This is why so many people have affairs, or you see single people jump from relationship to relationship. They think that infatuation means love. It does not, there is a big difference. In this episode Nick and Amy talk about...

It is staggering how prevalent anxiety and depression are, affecting individuals at varying levels and profoundly impacting marriage, including emotional and sexual intimacy among couples. In this podcast episode, Nick and Amy dive deep into this crucial topic with Dr. Wyatt Fisher. They explore the far-reaching effects of anxiety and depression on relationships, but more importantly, unveil effec...

We all have expectations when we go into marriage. Some expectations are realistic and others are very unrealistic. When we have unrealistic expectations, we often get disappointed and have resentment when those unrealistic expectations are not met. This can cause great disconnect and unhappiness in the relationship. In this episode we share the realistic and unrealistic expectations couples have...

Most of us totally suck at keeping goals that we set for ourselves and for our marriages, but in this podcast episode, we share the 5 simple game changing goals you should implement (and ones you can actually keep) to transform your relationship into the kind you dream of having. Join us for an important episode that can truly change your relationship. We also share our FREE goal setting files tha...

You've all heard of our NMN (Naked movie night), but what about naked game night? What are the various legit benefits to naked game night? How can naked game night improve my marriage? We answer all of these questions in this podcast episode talking about the benefits of implementing naked game night into your relationship. If you haven't already, go check out the Ultimate Intimacy App i...

How often do we feel our own issues are "are own" issues and we don't stop to think how our issues or struggles impact our spouse. For example, If you are a spouse that suffers from depression, do you recognize the impact it can have on not only yourself, but your spouse? Or for a spouse that has past trauma they are working through. This not only impacts you, but also your spouse....

Ready to reignite the passion in your marriage? Let us help you rediscover the lost art of flirting and its magical influence on relationships. We'll guide you through the concept of "flirt to convert", and share a list of 20 flirting ideas that can bring back the spark in your relationship. These ideas, rated on a ‘flirt to convert’ scale, range from writing love notes to sending p...

Life’s storms are inevitable, and they often hit our relationships the hardest. However, resilience is a virtue that can shield us from the harshest impacts. It's not a matter of "if" the storms are going to hit, but "when". Sometimes the storms are light and pass over quickly and other times it seems as if the storms will never pass and cause havoc in our lives. In this e...

In our previous episode we talked about the impact of sexual rejection. In this podcast we dive into emotional rejection in marriage. Of course we know emotional and sexual intimacy go hand in hand and it is very difficult to have a great relationship without both! However, there are many more aspects and ways to be emotionally rejected vs sexually rejected. Emotional rejection could include, comm...

You often hear us talk about how there is typically (in most marriages) a low desire spouse, and a high desire spouse when it comes to sexual intimacy. This imbalance can potentially cause a lot of disconnect and for many couples, even leads to divorce. In most of these relationships the lower desire spouse controls "if" and "when" sex happens which can be very frustrating for...

We are going to probably get a lot of blowback from this episode from people declaring that you don't need physical intimacy (or sex) to be happy. And although there might be a very select few instances where both spouses have no sexual desire, for most couples that is not the case. Here is the reason why. In the majority of marriages, there is a high desire spouse (sexually) and a low desire...

Are there small yet infuriatingly childish behaviors in your marriage? Are these behaviors negatively impacting your intimacy and connection? Well.. you're not alone. In this episode we expose how the silent treatment, scorekeeping, and other toxic behaviors can wreak havoc on a relationship. Drawing from our personal experiences and a revealing poll with our listeners, we talk about these be...

In this episode we talk with world renowned urologist Dr. Tracy Gapin about how declining testosterone is becoming a silent epidemic among men and women. Dr. Gapin talks about the causes of why testosterone is dropping and why this decline is such a big concern. He also addressed the symptoms and things to look out for, but more importantly, the things you can do to combat this epidemic. If you ar...

Are you stuck in a rut with your relationship, seeing more yawns than sparks in the bedroom? You are not alone. It is so easy for our marriages to get mundane and boring doing the same thing over and over again. We are managing work, kids, activities and everything else that comes with life. When life gets mundane and boring outside of the bedroom, it also works its way into the bedroom. But it do...

The holiday season can be a very stressful time for many couples. The financial stress of buying gifts. The stresses of family events, parties, inlaws and so many other things. It is not uncommon for couples to argue or have conflict during this time of year with all the demands and stresses they face. But it doesn't have to be this way. There are literally simple things couples can do to tak...

We often hear what the men are going through and the struggles they face with a porn addiction, but we seldom hear how their addiction impacts their wive's, and the struggles and anguish women go through as well because of their husbands addiction. In our last episode 210, we interviewed Jason, a husband who has a porn addiction, lost his job and tried taking his own life. In this episode (21...