The Terri Cole Show

Are you a highly capable and successful woman who feels lost when it comes to love and attracting an equal partner? Does it feel like love is the only area of your life you're *not* an expert in? Then tune into this episode with my pal Sami Wunder because Sami's expertise is in helping high-achieving women find lasting love. We talked about what Sami learned about love from her parents, her dating...

Are you expressing anger in unexpected ways? Maybe you've been way more aggressive toward undeserving folks, inanimate objects, or fellow drivers because it feels safer or is the only way to express the anger you're feeling with all the unrest in the world. Or maybe you're guilty of spending hours thinking of the perfect comeback to a snide comment left on a social media post. With all of the glob...

I am so excited to have my new pal, couples therapist and author Dené Logan, on the show to talk about her new book, Sovereign Love: A Guide to Healing Relationships by Reclaiming the Masculine and Feminine Within.  There's a lot of misunderstanding when it comes to the masculine and feminine, and Dené does an amazing job of breaking this concept down.  We also shared our experiences with codepend...

Do you ever wonder when it's appropriate to set a boundary? Or do you wish you knew what boundaries to set? Maybe unhealthy behavior was normalized in your family of origin, making it difficult to know when a request is "reasonable." If so, this episode is for you. It's the second in a two-part series about boundaries and high-functioning codependency (HFC). In this one, we're covering the five ty...

I am so excited to have Selena Soo, my pal and publicity & marketing strategist, on the show to talk about her new book, Rich Relationships: Create a Million Dollar Network For Your Small Business . These tips apply to ALL our relationships, too!  Selena was the person I turned to in the very beginning stages of my online business, and her advice changed the way I looked at building professional r...

Do you struggle with setting boundaries because it feels selfish or wrong to put your preferences or needs first?  Do you inadvertently trample on other people's boundaries? (Hyper-helping, auto-advice giving, etc.) Or are you a newly identified high-functioning codependent (HFC) wondering why it's especially tough to set boundaries? Then you're in the right place. In this episode, I am breaking d...

I'm so happy to have my pal Michelle Chalfant on the show to celebrate her new book, The Adult Chair: Get Unstuck, Claim Your Power, and Transform Your Life! Michelle has been a therapist and life coach for the last 25 years and this book is the culmination of her work and experience with both her clients and herself. The Adult Chair model is an amazing way to cultivate self-knowledge throughout a...

Are you a nice person? Do you think it's possible to be too nice? Or that wanting to be nice is an excuse some high-functioning codependents hide behind to avoid conflict? In my personal and professional experience, it is possible to be too nice, and it's not great for your relationships.  In this episode, we'll explore what it means to be nice, what being too nice looks like, why it matters, and...

I'm so psyched to welcome lawyer, author, and communication expert Jefferson Fisher to the show to talk about his book, The Next Conversation.  Many of you likely know Jefferson from social media, and for good reason- he teaches effective communication in an extremely accessible way. It's why I love his work and invited him to the show.  During our conversation, Jefferson shared the many ways his...

Recently I held an interactive workshop that went too well not to share with you guys. So for today's episode, I'm uploading a special treat: The full 90-minute workshop recording! In it, I give a rundown on over-functioning archetypes, the costs of high-functioning codependency, and the pillars of boundary mastery– Plus, I answer all your boundary-setting questions. I hope you enjoy this episode...

I'm so excited to have Dr. Jessica Zucker, author of I HAD A MISCARRIAGE: A Memoir, a Movement , on the show to talk about her new book, NORMALIZE IT: Upending the Silence, Stigma, and Shame That Shape Women's Lives .  We talked about "the cult of shame" that women are indoctrinated into, from getting your period, to having a miscarriage, to going into perimenopause or menopause: all the things we...

I'm so happy to have Amber Salisbury on the show for an inspiring conversation that you might want to listen to with a cup of coffee in hand! Amber and her husband Andrew founded Purity Coffee in 2016 with the goal of creating healthy coffee you can feel good about drinking, and Amber has also founded Sacred Cups to honor rituals around coffee.  She shares a ritual with us later in the conversatio...

How manipulatable are you? When someone is using fear, obligation, and guilt (FOG) to control you, do you recognize it, or not? If not, or you've never heard of FOG, you're in the right place. This episode is all about the FOG technique, commonly used by narcissists and others to manipulate people to do what they want at all costs. I'm breaking down what it is and sharing real-life examples from m...

I am so excited to have podcaster, actor, and author Amy Wilson on the show to talk about her newest book, Happy to Help: Adventures of a People Pleaser. I felt seen by Amy's essays and reflections, and I think you will, too. We talked about so much– Amy's early introduction to putting others first by caring for her younger siblings, why modern productivity advice often just makes us feel bad, Amy...

Have you ever wondered whether you feel drained because of what you're tolerating in life? Whether it's a cluttered office space, messy car, side table overflowing with paperwork, or something bigger like a one-sided relationship or ineffective communication with your partner, what you're putting up with could be exhausting you more than you think.  So…what are you consistently putting up with tha...

Today I'm so excited to have my friend, money expert Kate Northrup, on the show again. We chat about the relatively new relationship that women have with money, common blocks women have around money, and how you can improve your relationship with your finances. Plus: How creating a feeling of safety in your body can help you make smarter money choices! Read the show notes for today's episode at te...

How curious are you? Are you as curious as you used to be in your 20s when you were having new experiences more often? Or have you become complacent with curiosity or too busy to cultivate it? It recently struck me how important curiosity is to me. My husband, Vic, is the most curious person I know, and my friends are often original thinkers who enjoy questioning conventional wisdom, which I love....

I am SO excited to welcome bestselling author and counseling psychologist, Gay Hendricks, to the show to talk about themes from two of his books, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving. Gay has been a huge inspiration for me personally and professionally, and he makes psychological concepts easy to understand.  We talk about upper limit problems (self-sabotage) first, and then move into how to create e...

Do you get offended if a date doesn't immediately get back to you?  How about when you ask a friend to call you later and they don't? When you pass a stranger on the street and they glance at you, looking annoyed, do you assume their annoyance is directed at you? Or do you cut others slack in these situations, rather than take it personally?  In this episode, I'm sharing what the research says are...

I am so excited to have my pal, award-winning journalist and menopause advocate, Tamsen Fadal, back on the show to celebrate her new book How To Menopause, which I had the honor of contributing to! It has been amazing to watch Tamsen step into being a midlife mentor. She is truly leading the menopause movement we desperately need and I am here for it. I don't know about you, but it wasn't fun goin...

I am so excited to have Breeshia Wade, author of Grieving While Black: An Antiracist Take on Oppression and Sorrow, on the show to talk about fear of future loss and Elemental Grief™. She explains some ideas from the book: The way that fear of future loss has shaped society, and the responsibility that majority groups have to attend to their own feelings of fear so that they do not project those f...

Does it often feel like life is a grind of checking off endless to-do lists, where you barely have a moment for yourself? The emphasis on hustle culture in society has conditioned many of us to believe that rest and reward must be earned through hard work.  It's no wonder "little treat culture," a trend on social media that encourages us to use small rewards to stay motivated, is exploding in popu...

I am so excited to have one of my best friends on the show, Sabrina Soto. You may know her from HGTV, and she's here to celebrate some amazing news: the debut of The Sabrina Soto Show! (I'm a guest on one of the episodes 🙌) This is an inspiring and feel-good episode you don't want to miss. You're a fly on the wall for this girlfriend jam– We share our experiences with empowering ourselves with bo...

Have you ever lost someone close to you?  Or do you worry about the people you love dying? Death and dying have been on my mind a lot because I recently lost a close friend of mine. Knowing that she was going to die brought up a desire to explore and talk about death and dying. Whether you're actively dealing with this or anticipating it, I hope sharing my experience and what I've learned will hel...

On today's episode, I've invited Diego Perez (pen name Yung Pueblo) on to celebrate his newest book, How to Love Better: The Path to Deeper Connection Through Growth, Kindness, and Compassion. We talk all about how to form better connections with everyone you love: How to meet conflict with teamwork, how mindfulness can help you respond rather than reacting, and making space to listen to others wh...