The Terri Cole Show

When you are upset, do you feel like you have to manage your emotions on your own? Maybe you don't need to! These days, emotional self-regulation and co-regulation are hot topics. In today's episode, I'm gonna be breaking down what these terms really mean and taking a stand for the fact that we were really never meant to regulate alone.  It's such a powerful process to be with other people and hav...

On today's episode, I'm lucky to be sharing a chat with renowned feminist theologian Meggan Watterson. She shares the narrative of Thecla, a saint whose story was nearly erased from history, and describes how her story can inspire us to take back our own inherent spiritual authority. Tune in to uncover the transformative power you can claim when you know your own worth and reclaim your spiritual a...

On today's episode, we're diving deep into Amber Rae's transformative journey. She's a best-selling author and speaker who broke free from a marriage that was really a friendship and chose to face real vulnerability instead. We chat about the challenges and triumphs of choosing authenticity over being a good girl. Plus, we chat about her memoir, Loveable: A Memoir, One Woman's Path from Good to Fr...

Are you only as good as your last huge accomplishment? I want you to pause for a moment and think about how you measure your worth. Do you find yourself in that relentless cycle of head-down, go-go-go energy, telling yourself you'll celebrate when you get the big thing done? When you land the promotion, finish the project, and reach the milestone that feels worthy enough of your attention? If this...

On today's episode, I'm so excited to share a chat with Orion Talmay! She shares her personal story: how an abusive relationship shaped her life trajectory and propelled her to her current calling. Plus, she gives some tips for mirror work, inner child work, and manifesting that you can use yourself. We finished the show with some thoughts on the path to self-acceptance and self-love that I really...

On today's episode, I'm sharing an insightful conversation with Vanessa Bennett, a licensed depth psychologist and co-author of It's Not Me, It's You. Together, we delve into the complexities of codependency and relationship dynamics, exploring how societal norms shape our understanding of love and attachment. Vanessa shares her journey from advertising to therapy and how she learned to value auth...

"I'll start dating as soon as I lose those 10 pounds." "I can't go to that event until I find the perfect outfit." "I'll put myself out there when I feel more confident, more ready." Do any of these sound familiar? That little whisper in the back of your head that seems so reasonable, almost protective? I want you to sit with this for a moment: underneath that whisper is a belief that where you ar...

I felt so lucky to record this episode! On today's show, I had my first chance to host world-renowned fitness and nutrition expert JJ Virgin. She's been at the top of the wellness space longer than practically anyone else, and today she's using her expertise to teach us how to age powerfully. I always say that we don't get to choose whether we age, but we do get to choose how we age. If you choose...

Have you been going through life confused about why the people you trust always seem to let you down? Or do you avoid trusting anyone because you aren't sure who deserves it? You might have learned disordered trust patterns from your family of origin. On today's episode, I'm sharing some strategies for identifying patterns that don't serve you and getting clarity on who deserves a space in the fro...

I'm so excited to have Tim Chantarangsu on the show to talk about life as a comedian, being one of the OG content creators (he started *before* YouTube was a thing), family, food, and being a father.  I met Tim on the set of Counsel Culture with Nick Cannon and was immediately drawn to how insightful and humorous he was. I hope you enjoy this interview as much as I did! Read the show notes for tod...

Do you catch yourself saying… I don't want them to think… I don't want them to feel… I don't want to seem difficult… I don't want to hurt their feelings… If so, this episode is for you because it's about becoming a boundary boss without guilt. When we say, "I don't want them to think," or "I just wanted to be nice," we're self-abandoning and not setting boundaries we need to set. It's time to chan...

I'm thrilled to welcome my close pal, Jennifer Pastiloff, back to the show to celebrate the release of her new book, Proof of Life: Let Go, Let Love, and Stop Looking for Permission to Live Your Life. It's a call to arms to stop self-abandoning and no longer wait for permission, which I think is perfect for this community. ❤️ Jen has such a unique voice and wonderful sense of humor, and in this gi...

Do you find yourself saying "I don't want to hurt their feelings" while completely abandoning your own needs? You think you're being nice, but you're actually training people to ignore what matters to you—because you're ignoring it first. In this episode, I break down the hidden cost of people-pleasing and why "being nice" is often just self-abandonment dressed up as politeness. I go over the 5 co...

I am so excited to have dating coach and podcast host Sabrina Zohar on the show to talk about dating, relational issues, and what a secure, emotionally safe relationship looks like.  Sabrina shares the work that she did to get out of unhealthy relational patterns, how she navigates her relationship with her narcissistic father, what her and her partner do to make each other feel safe and secure, h...

Do you say yes when you want to say no? Do you do more emotional labor in nearly all of your relationships? Are you the one everyone counts on, while no one is there for you? (Maybe you don't even allow people to be there for you?) If any of this sounds familiar, this episode is for you.  I had many requests to do another episode on people-pleasing, so let's cover how people-pleasing and self-aban...

I'm so excited to have a new pal, Alana Carvalho, a licensed mental health counselor, on the show to talk about two topics we're both passionate about: codependency and perfectionism! We talk about why these two things go together, our experiences of being in recovery from both, what inspired Alana to create The Codependent Perfectionist brand, how to ease up on perfectionism and codependent behav...

Do you notice micro changes in people's facial expressions and ask yourself, "What did I do wrong?" Are you able to sit with someone in pain without trying to fix them? Are you so emotionally attuned to everything and everyone that you feel exhausted? If any of this sounds familiar, you're not broken; you just lack the skills (boundaries!) needed to embrace your superpower (being an empath). You c...

I am thrilled to have Shannon Watts, author and founder of Moms Demand Action, on the show to talk about her new book, Fired Up: How to Turn Your Spark Into a Flame and Come Alive at Any Age. I was definitely fired up and inspired by what Shannon had to share, and I think you will be, too. If you've been going through life on autopilot (as many high-functioning codependents do), feel like somethin...

Every close relationship hits turbulence at some point. Conflict is inevitable.  That's why the real magic of secure, emotionally mature relationships isn't about avoiding conflict. It's about having the tools to come back together and repair. Repair requires us to be proactive because the work needs to begin long before it is actually needed. You can't build a bridge in the middle of a storm (aka...

Sometimes, it helps to laugh at life's problems– Even the real ones. If you could use some help in finding humor in today's current events, Angie is your gal! Today I'm sharing a relaxed chat with Angie "Pumps" Sullivan, co-author of Life is a Lazy Susan of Shit Sandwiches and co-host of the podcast I've Had It. Somehow, the conversation feels light even as we delve into the reality of mourning dr...

I am so excited to have Dr. Sara Reardon, aka The Vag Whisperer, on the show today to give us the basics when it comes to pelvic floor health. Why? Because the condition of our pelvic floor impacts so many different systems of our body and it changes throughout our life, especially in perimenopause and menopause. During our conversation, Sara breaks everything down in an accessible way and shares...

Did you know that 1 in 4 children in the US grows up without a father? Or that 80% of single-parent homes are led by mothers? These statistics may not come as a surprise, but what we don't talk about are the millions of other kids who may have dads who are physically present but emotionally absent. Dads who are abusive, addicted, sporadic, neglectful, or narcissistic.  As Father's Day approaches,...

Today I'm so excited to welcome Rha Goddess to The Terri Cole Show! She shares what she's learned on her journey, from her origin story rooted in civil rights and hip hop to the personal awakening that led her to redefine ambition and success for herself. Plus, why now was the time to write her book Intentional Ambition and her own personal boundary struggles. Listen for everything you need to do...

I am so thrilled to have my friends and hosts of the popular Almost 30 podcast, Krista Williams and Lindsey Simcik, on the show to talk about their new book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide to a Life You Love for the Next Decade and Beyond.  If you're going through any sort of transition, I think you'll love it, because the big theme of our conversation is how to weather the storm of transitions. Li...

Does everyone come to you when there's a problem because you're known for giving the best advice or being good in a crisis? Do you intervene in family members' situations before they even ask for help? Do you feel anxious or guilty when others struggle? Do you rush to smooth things over? Or do you subconsciously look for people to save? The broken-winged birds? These are all signs you might have a...