The Terri Cole Show

My guest today is Hailey Magee (@haileypaigemagee on Instagram, which is where I found her), a certified coach, educator, and writer who helps individuals set empowered boundaries and break the people-pleasing pattern. It's no surprise I loved her content the moment I saw it, and I had to have her on the show so she could share her unique perspective.  We chat all about setting boundaries with and...

Do you think that people who are generally happy are simply born that way? That it is just in their nature to be glass half full types? I believe it is slightly more complex than that. As a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience, I can tell you that it is possible to purposely build habits that curate more happiness in your life. So if you could use a little more happiness, today's episode is...

I am so happy to have best-selling authors Lisa Garr and Marci Shimoff on the show to talk all about miracles and happiness habits. I look to both of these women for inspiration during tough times and they never fail to deliver.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/469 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you settling in your life?  In your relationships? In your career? Maybe in a friendship or a family situation?  If you feel like you are settling for less than you actually want, for any reason, then this episode is for you. I share a few telltale signs you might be settling for less, a few examples of when I settled in the past, and what to do if you no longer want to settle. Because you des...

I am so excited to welcome my pal Steven Washington to the show. His new book, Recovering You: Soul Care and Mindful Movement for Overcoming Addiction, is full of inspiration, accessible tips, and beautiful stories. It's honestly for anyone, not just those who are overcoming addiction. In this conversation, Steven and I chat about his journey from addicted and numbing to feeling and moving, the to...

When something bad happens to someone you dislike, do you feel a little glee inside? Maybe a lot of glee?  Or do you cheer when the villain in a movie or TV show gets what's coming to them?  There is a German word for the feeling of joy we get from the suffering or misfortune of others: schadenfreude.  The other day, I wondered: is there an opposite of schadenfreude? There is, and it's called freu...

Today I'm welcoming back frequent guest Andrea Owen to chat about the new edition of her book, How to Stop Feeling Like Shit: 14 Habits That Are Holding You Back from Happiness. We talk about aging well, not allowing shame to control us, and recognizing the importance of our own feelings. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/465 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone...

How do you feel about New Year's resolutions?  Do you like them? Do they work for you? Or… do you get to February and realize you've barely made progress on them?  If you aren't a fan of New Year's resolutions, you are not alone. Only 8% of people keep their New Year's resolutions, and nearly 80% fail by February.  Not great odds.  That's why today's episode contains a therapeutically designed pro...

Have you been wondering recently whether your substance use is normal? Do you find yourself drinking more than you would like, smoking every day, or taking gummies every night to help you sleep? How do you tell when using substances to cope with the circumstances of life becomes a problem?  If you have been asking these questions, you're not alone. Recently, so many of my listeners have been writi...

Have you ever been in a relationship with someone who uses fear, obligation, and guilt to manipulate you into doing what they want?  Or are you in that kind of relationship right now?  Then this episode on emotional blackmail is for you. I break down what emotional blackmail is and how to spot it so you can avoid being a victim of this painful, dysfunctional, abusive cycle. Read the show notes for...

Today's episode is super special because I'm talking to my very own friend and strategist, Camper Bull. Back when I was promoting the Boundary Boss book, I was skeptical that working with a strategist would make a difference. When one of my team members recommended I meet with Camper, I was blown away by his expertise and ability to hold space and make it accessible.  Camper worked with my team fo...

Have you ever confided in someone you wanted comfort from only to be told… "It could be worse." "At least it wasn't X, Y, or Z!" "Look on the bright side…" "I don't know why you are making such a big deal…" These are all examples of emotional invalidation. Maybe you've even said these things to others, unintentionally invalidating them. This is common if we're high-functioning codependents and oth...

If you've been following me for a while, you know I am an empath and a highly sensitive person. That's why I was so excited to speak with Alissa Boyer, a mentor who coaches highly sensitive people on their journeys to spiritual growth and greater self love. We chat about how HSPs can be kind to themselves even when the world is set up to overwhelm them and how to avoid people-pleasing when you are...

Do you ever feel mentally exhausted? Foggy-brained? Forgetful? Like even doing the smallest task feels like moving through mud?  If so, cognitive fatigue could be to blame.  In this episode, I break down what cognitive fatigue is and what it might feel like. I also give you some ideas on what might cause cognitive fatigue and what you can do to start healing. Read the show notes for today's episod...

I first met today's guest about 15 years ago, when she was first considering leaving her job as a top Hollywood agent to begin a more fulfilling career. Now, Dr. Elisa Hallerman is a successful drug and alcohol counselor who uses her PhD in Depth Psychology and Somatic Studies to inform her work with clients. She recently wrote her first book, Soulbriety: A Plan to Heal Your Trauma, Overcome Addic...

When you're in the heat of a fight do you have a tendency to explode or say things you don't mean? Or do you withdraw in anger and become silent? Both of these reactions to conflict are very common communication-blocking techniques. Effective communication is something we hear a lot about but often I think the meaning is unclear.  In today's episode, I'm breaking down the top 4 communication block...

Do you ever wonder what self-love actually is, not just in theory or in a meme, but in real-life practice? Self-love isn't a destination or just a feeling. It's daily action steps and more of a way of life.  In this episode, I'll cover how we can organize and break down our behaviors and practices in a way that is moving us into more real self-love. I'll also break down five paths to curate more s...

Have you ever found yourself stuck in conversation hell at a family gathering? Maybe you have a nosy aunt who loves asking you super personal questions you don't want to answer. Or a cousin who manages to dump all their problems on you at every party. Enough! Let's get you some strategies and scripts to create better conversational boundaries! You can keep these in your back pocket for if and when...

Today, I'm chatting with my friend and relationship expert Silvy Khoucasian. We chat about holding firm boundaries to create nourishing, supportive relationships as you go through life– That includes understanding attachment theory, making your own choices about what aging successfully means to you, and setting compassionate boundaries with family even when it conflicts with their cultural expecta...

Do you have people in your life who are so difficult and demanding that speaking your mind feels like it's not even worth the hassle? If you're nodding your head, then this episode is for you. I'm giving you proactive ways to approach impossible people and tips to verbally de-escalate situations so you can protect yourself from being harmed by future interactions! Read the show notes for today's e...

In today's episode, I'm interviewing author and well-being teacher Alex Elle. Her work, including her new book How we Heal: Uncover Your Power and Set Yourself Free , is all about helping others find their voice and create clarity in their lives. Alex invites us to rewrite our personal narratives to heal not only ourselves, but the generations that come after us.  Read the show notes for today's e...

When you make a mistake, how do you talk to yourself? Is it the same way you would talk to a loved one or are you harsh and overly tough with yourself? How much is your worth connected to your productivity and what you can do for others? Do you feel worthy of love simply because you exist?  This episode is all about what self-love actually is and what it looks like in action, because there are a l...

In today's episode, I'm sharing a fascinating conversation with Stefanos Sifandos. I met Stefanos through his wife Christine Hassler, a wonderful life coach and podcast host who I've known her for a really long time. After they got married and had a baby, I started to follow Stefanos as well. He has more than 20 years experience in the personal transformation space, and his work around love, sensu...

Do signs of aging on your face or body concern you? Do you feel pressure to stay looking a particular way (as in, forever young)? If this is resonating, then you, my dear, are not alone.  In this episode, I'm breaking down different aspects of the aging process (it's more hopeful than you think!) and giving you some ideas on how you can age gracefully and gratefully because when you really get dow...

Today I'm sharing a fascinating conversation with Rikki Cloos. Rikki is a writer and content creator with a captivatingly authentic passion for attachment healing. She shares insights and stories about anxious attachment from her own life: How anxious attachment behaviors can damage relationships, how you can stop those habits with work and understanding, and why it can make it so difficult to set...