The Susan Winter Show

Is someone you're dating holding you in place, but not letting you advance? Becoming the “place card” is for their convenience, and rarely means your moving closer to partnership. Learn who plays this game, and how to handle them and yourself.

Single doesn't mean unwanted. Single doesn't mean lonely. Being single is a complete category with full status and merit that needs no justification or excuse to be made. Here's how to know your rights and your worth if you find yourself judged by the ignorant.

Updating your romantic model of love is essential after a divorce. You're not the same person as you were in the past. So, your love can't be built on the same foundation as it was in the past. Here's how to navigate your way to finding a love that works.

Questioning how to handle a dating situation? How do you know what behavior is correct? The best way is to check in with your ‘sandbox rules' to see what's right and wrong — you'll get the correct answer every time.

Red flags are markers we need to heed in dating. Sometimes we ‘imagine' we see red flags in an effort to protect ourselves. Here's how to know if what you saw was an off-colored green flag that signaled a partner how deserves a second chance.

Current dating trends are moving beyond hookups and inching their way toward more rewarding formats. Sexual exclusivity (without the relationship title) is answering the STD dilemma, and serves as a gateway option to counterbalance the emotional fallout of our previous dating models.

Many an older woman has voiced her fear of ruining her younger man's life. This form of projection is based on what society has said is the ‘normal transit of one's life.' However, age-gap love breaks all barriers to be united with the prefect match (regardless of convention).

We hesitate to share the truth of our feelings for one reason only — fear. Will they reject us? Eliminate neediness and activate your power by using “The Monologue Technique” to communicate your emotions.

The first step to getting off the game board is to realize you're on it. Freedom to be yourself can never be had while someone else is pulling the strings. No meaningful relationship can be formed with ‘game' as its foundation. Learn how to set yourself free and turn the tables toward love.

Here are the signs that tell you whether someone has the ability to care (but is hesitant), as opposed to someone who's unable to care and unwilling to be a true partner.

Duty dating is a way to kick-start your love life by expanding your options and pushing past your comfort zone. Whether you've been too lazy or too fearful, a couple of practice rounds will loosen you up while showing you what you like and want.

The emotional rollercoaster caused by a lover's unwanted behavior can be so dramatic that we assume we're in love. Here's the difference between ‘needing to win' control and what we often think is love.

Learn the art of mastering the perfect response to any form of bad behavior when dating. Here's how to find your unique style to effectively correct and reroute your partner.

Frustrated by the lack of thoughtful behavior in dating? Wondering how to make “no rules” dating work for you? Here's one rule that must be honored for you to succeed in finding and keeping love.

The “text message” breakup is a cowardly escape plan that avoids the emotional fallout of having a proper ending. The partner who does this lacks character and kindness. Though you're hurting now, you're lucky to be free. Here's why you're better off in the long run.

How far apart can the power differences be between you and your mate and still result in a happy, functional relationship? Here are the red flags to look for when entering a partnership, and the adjustments that need to be made in an established relationship.

New relationships can experience fits and starts. There's much happening behind the scenes that you won't know (and your new partner may not be telling you). When something feels off, how can you know if it's you, or it's the truth? Here's how to gauge your instincts and also allow room for human error.

When you know yourself, any decision on dating, sex, or relationships results in an effortless answer. Don't preoccupy your mind with, “What do they want?” Reverse the order. Trust yourself to be your best advocate and guide to knowing how to achieve love.

Too short, but just right? Older than you wanted but the perfect fit? Too thin, too full, too dark, too light… what happens when we find our perfect match in an unexpected package? Here's how to get past preconceived ideas as to your “perfect” physical package and embrace the love you've found.

Anyone who's been on the losing end of a breakup fantasizes about gaining the upper hand over their ex. This can only happen when you've taken the time to reinvest in yourself.  Newfound confidence is sexy and enticing, especially to your ex. When you're no longer under their thumb, you've gained the upper hand.

Learning to love is like learning how to drive a car. We need formal instruction and behind-the-wheel training. Here's how to understand your “manual” and prepare yourself for any type of terrain.

Power differences between partners can set the stage for ongoing relationship issues. From insecurity, jealousy and feeling devalued, to feeling a false sense of safety and superiority — trading up too high or down too low in a mate will create internal chaos. Here's how to get the power structure re-stabilized, and to your favor.

The loss of a partner is difficult under normal circumstances. When it's due to death, the devastation is amplified exponentially.  Guilt and fear can keep us frozen in time, afraid to move forward with our lives for fear we're betraying their memory. Here's how to mentally justify wanting to date again, and how to be open to the experience of love.

You've got shared attraction and ongoing communication. You're definitely in the game. But, you're not getting a solid green light for romance. Here's how to pivot to a hard YES with your date, or tally up your odds and adjust accordingly.

You've patched up your relationship. Things are going well. But you're wondering if the issues of the past are really gone. Here's how to make the necessary changes you need to make your love last.