The Susan Winter Show

We've been culturally programmed to automatically default to the position of a victim.  This serves no one– certainly not those of you seeking love. Here's the way out of that mental rut, and the tools to redefine your experience for the better.

Time constraints intensify the dating and mating process. How can you effectively date when you're busy? And, how do you date a busy person? Here are the key components that must be in place for romance to occur, and continue.

Anyone who's been dumped feels wounded, betrayed and undesirable. The first logical move is to regain our power and even the scales. Learn when rebound sex works, and when it will fail you. My interview in Babe: Is the best way to get over someone actually getting under someone else?https://babe.net/2017/09/05/babe-investigates-is-the-best-way-to-get-over-someone-to-get-under-someone-else-13076

You've just noticed your partner noticing somebody else.  Is this cause for alarm? What should you do? Here's how to counter your partners wondering eye with acumen and confidence. For more on this topic: My interview with International Business Times TV/Medical Daily: The Wandering Eye: Why We Check Other People Out In Front Of Our Partner http://video.ibt.com/wandering-eye-why-we-check-other-peo...

It's far too easy to get into a fight via text message.  The truncated nature of texting creates too much room for error in your partner's interpretation (as well as yours).  The best way out of a jam is to call your partner. Hearing each other's voices reconnects you — as you work your way back to understanding each other properly and honest communication.

Partnership requires great communication. Also, picking one's battles wisely. Here are new techniques for boundary setting and behavior modification that don't involve directly addressing the issue.

How can you tell your partner what you need without sounding demanding? What if you're physically attracted to someone with a horrible personality? In these two viewer questions I explain how to effectively communicate your needs by using incentive rather than by demanding, and how attraction occurs (even when it's irrational).

We're always more lax in the beginning stages of a new relationship. We want to engage our partner, rather than appear difficult.  We don't want to be demanding, but we do need to let our mate know if they've overstepped their boundaries. Here's how to do that tactfully.

Can you trust yourself?  This is where the seat of your power lies. People are human, and humans make mistakes. When you trust yourself, you trust your ability to make smart decisions and to be resilient in times of relationship challenges.

How do you handle having a crush on your friend's partner? And what if two friends are fighting over you (or you're in competition with your friend over the same person)? These are the viewer questions answered in this video along with detailed analysis on why these things are occurring for you, and to you.

When we like someone, we often become self-conscious and question our choice of response. We wonder how to answer a text message, or edit ourselves in a new dating scenario. This leads to confusion and the erosion of our confidence. Here's what you can do to regain mastery of any unexpected situation.

This style of ‘fake fight' is a variation on a long-standing classic. But this dating game isn't crafted to create a breakup. It's designed to keep you in place, through control. The orchestrator of this technique seeks to hook you into a loop of insecurity so that you'll never leave. Here's how to turn the tables.  Here's how to discern real love, from the fearful state of insecurity that masks a...

When confused, we hesitate to do the obvious; just ASK. We fear confrontation.  But mostly, we fear the answer we may receive. Here's how to get back to natural communication without feeling intrusive or insecure.

How can you tell your partner what you need without sounding demanding? What if you're physically attracted to someone with a horrible personality? In these two viewer questions I explain how to effectively communicate your needs by using incentive rather than by demanding, and how attraction occurs (even when it's irrational).

All breakups hurt, but The ‘Honeymoon Phase Breakup' is the most emotionally torturous. It occurs when our love is new and our hopes are at their highest.  We haven't had time to see our mate' s imperfections — so we feel we're losing ‘the perfect partner.'  Here's how to offset the pain and recover your emotional stability.

Sex with your ex is common as you uncoil from your relationship. When is it positive, and when is it negative? Here are the signs that show you where you stand and what move you should make for your wellbeing.

How do you know if they're a hot and cold player, or just a nervous dater? Trust your gut. And decode the signs that clarify if you should walk away or give them another chance.

Desperation and insecurity can ruin any relationship (whether it's yours, or your partner's).  The desperate lover claims that all of the emotional chaos is due to their overwhelming love.  Here's how to discern real love, from the fearful state of insecurity that masks as love.

After breakup, a fight or any kind of hurt your man can quickly go from loving to being cold as ice. We, as women, don't know how to process this. We begin to wonder what's real. Did he ever care? Here's the real story of the male ego in peril and why he shuts down.

In theory, they're the perfect partner.  They check off every category on our ‘list'.  And, we're everything they're looking for.  Why doesn't it happen? Here are some of the reasons ‘looking good' relationships don't take off.

Singles can often feel an overwhelming sense of guilt; guilt for not being partnered and guilt for not caring to be partnered.  Relationships are supposed add quality of life. But what if we already have quality-of-life with our friends and support group? Is that enough?

Is there a way to tell if your mate can make a positive change? Yes. It's born of consistency and desire. Here's the way to know for sure if there's hope for your relationship.

Are you obsessing over someone and can't seem to gain control of your thinking? Here's how to break free from the loop of obsession and gain forward traction in your life.

Balancing give-and-take in a relationship can be a tricky thing. Often times, we tend to get into locked roles. The over-giver feels superior and will be resented by the taker. The taker feels disabled and infantilized and resents the giver. Here's how to get into a balanced flow.

Traditional formats oftentimes fail modern couples — but that doesn't mean you can't stay together. Before you consider breaking up, brainstorm for creative solutions to preserve what works by reconfiguring your romantic design.