The Susan Winter Show

Stella writes, “Hello Susan. I have been dating a man 11 years older than me for 2 years. Both divorced. I'm 40. He has had past failed relationships. I have ddated, nothing serious. He told me from beginning he wasn't boyfriend material?? He acts like a boyfriend when we are together. He won't commit to anything. My gut tells me he's the one and he's afraid of being hurt. Am I kidding myself?”

Charles Belfort writes, “HI Susan, could you please make a VIDEO on the logic behind "it's just and doesn't mean anything", while the person is holding back with someone they date and like in all sorts of ways? In other words whatever has the potential of turning into something meaningful and romantic is put on hold, while casual sex here and there is fine - up until the actual dating started or e...

We're all afraid of being hurt. But the unbelievable remorse of staying silent is to miss the opportunity to experience love with the person who also loves you. Here's how to speak your truth and embrace the love that is awaiting you.

Jessie Magliocco writes, ”Do people run hot and cold when they're on the rebound or when an ex is trying to get back into their lives?”Here's the answer to that question and how to handle hot and cold in general.

Marko writes, “Hi Susan, greetings from Europe. What is your opinion on male-female friendships when in a relationship? To give it more context, how are you suppose to react to your partner spending time in private, late at night, with friends from an opposite sex? Especially when you have never been introduced to them in a relationship that's lasted for more than 6 months. Wish you all the best,...

Future Faking is a form of mental/emotional seduction that lures a dater in the gate. It's the bait of what's wanted; exclusivity, a future together, family, children, lifestyle… whatever it is that rings your bell will be offered in lip service only. Learn the red flags of this specific dating game to be one step ahead of the manipulation.

Viewer Fiona writes, “How do you date when your career is in shambles or ‘in process?' It's not ideal, but if the career is not a 6 month fix, should you abstain from the dating market? I have met interesting men in the past two years. Despite an initial attraction, all evaporate. I've been very unsuccessful on the career front and wonder if the two are related? Is my disappointment with career ac...

Shanewrites, “Dear Susan, Enjoying your videos and website, finding your perspective refreshing and insightful. I have a question that's recently crossed my mind. For us younger men who are attracted to and/or seeing an older woman what would you say is the most common mistake we make with an older woman?”

Hot and cold isn't always what it seems. Though we're savvy to this dating game, what if we're wrong? Could our partner be having a reaction to our reaction? And could two loving people become distanced simply due to fear? Here's how to discern between your partner caring, and one who's only playing a game.

Viewer Gary H writes, “In your opinion, when is it the best time to let someone know that you like them. Can it ever be too early to do so? Thanks, Gary.“  Here are several options to let someone know you're interested, with the proper timing.

As a self-empowered dater, you may seem ‘too good to be true.' Honest, open and real, your demeanor may throw off a new partner. Here's why being real looks like a game to the disempowered, and how you can remain calm while they warm to your truth.

Viewer Lana writes, “Dear Susan. Thank you so much for your helpful videos. My friends claim that a man knows very quickly whether the woman is girlfriend material or not. Perhaps just after few dates. Could you make a video about this topic? I was seeing a guy who played hot and cold on me, and my friends explained that it is because he knew from the beginning that I am not girlfriend material. T...

Marlena writes, “Hi Susan. Hope all is well. I've been watching your videos and you're really awesome! My question is; I'm in a 9-year relationship off and on. My partner told me he needed time to see other people this year in order to make a decision at the end of the year to formalize our relationship. How would you handle a situation like this??! I am frustrated and confused....”

We'll never be free to love when our focus is the fear of getting hurt. That outlook negates happiness as it keeps our guard up and locks love out. Here's how to make smart choices and trust yourself.

Viewer Lola writes, “Hi Susan! How do you move on from rejection and not let it affect your self worth?”  Though your ego is bruised, one person doesn't determine your worth. Here's how to process what occurred and move forward.

Jelena Gavranovic writes, “Dear Susan, Nearly all men I date send out a strong signal that they want to take me to bed. I'm sometimes at a loss in finding the balance between taking time to get to know someone, or the instant attraction (happened once) where it all went too quickly and after 3 months he said he wasn't ready to commit. Must attraction be there from the very beginning? And if so, at...

Viewer Torrie T writes, “Hi Susan. I've held this question in my heart for many years and would love to hear your advice. How do you move forward in dating/relationships after a history of sexual trauma (any type). I know this is a touchy subject, but I believe that you give wise, insightful counsel. I would truly appreciate your input. Thanks!”

We've all heard the phrase, “Love conquers all.” That can be true — when both partners are unified in their goals and dreams. Love is not enough when the price you pay is compromising your own goals and dreams. Here's how to know when you've given too much.

Viewer Erica K writes, “Hi Susan. Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us:) I have been dating a guy from Tinder for 8 months now and he recently asked to be exclusive and ”more serious”. I asked him if he still uses Tinder, he said no.(I deleted my profile a long time ago) Yesterday I found out that he still is on Tinder and it really is bugging me and I feel really sad. How do I confront him w...

Viewer Maryam writes, “How to deal or empower yourself when you finally find someone you think you deserve, but you keep doubting yourself and your ability to secure happiness?” Thanks Maryam! Here's the technique I use to eradicate limiting thoughts and rewrite my inner directives.

Viewer Sam King writes, “Do you think you can make us a video regarding why do we still love people who do not love us back ??????? i love your work , you are awesome in every way. “ Learn how you can turn the pain into strength by spinning a win from your loss.

Viewer Maryam writes, “How can I avoid getting down and depressed when I experience challenge after challenge in dating, and see that most of my friends have found their match much easier. “ Here's the antidote to this negative thought and how to avoid feeling despair.

George Wolf writes, “Hi Susan! I have a suggestion for a video — haven't seen it covered on your channel yet. How to handle dating in the workplace? Should it be avoided? If we are to proceed, how would you handle it? Many thanks and wishing you the best!”

Has your partner become complacent? Are they taking you for granted, bored or losing interest? Here's how to reboot your relationship and reactivate their passion, interest and desire.

The nagging question of self-love leaves many daters feeling defeated. What if we don't fully love ourselves? Does it exclude us from finding love? Remove the pressure to be perfect and learn how this natural process occurs throughout life (to aid you in all your goals).