The Susan Winter Show

YouTube subscriber Luke writes, “Hi Susan, I was wondering if you could possibly address why we may suddenly miss an ex out of nowhere, especially after it seemed like we've been doing so well for so long in moving on from them. It's a very confusing and defeating feeling, and I'm hoping you may have some insight to help reconcile these feelings. Thank you so much for everything that you do! You'v...

Oscar writes, “Good Day. Susan, I'm 40 and having issues with my relationship. I've come to find out that the woman I've been with for 8 years has been having some secret accounts on FB for her to chat with men (even my small brother). So now everything is a mess. She tells me that she wants to move out. I told her fine. But she's still in the house. I want to move on with my life.”

Vivien writes, “Hi Susan, I am a huge fan of yours from Hungary. My boyfriend has just broken up with me 2 months ago saying that he feels he is not in love with me anymore and we should not waste time. Knowing that everybody's personality is developing, my question is: How do you know that you truly do not fit your partner or is it just about being together at the wrong time? Thank you, Vivien”

New couples go through the awkward phase of determining who and what they are to each other, and if what they've got is viable.  Where do you stand with this person? And if you have anything with them, is it viable? Here's how to handle this phase of new love.

Emma writes, “Hello Susan, I really like and feel strong chemistry with this guy. And he tells me he feels the same way. He can be very affectionate and open with sharing his life. However, he tells me he doesn't want a relationship. Last time I saw him I told him I want a relationship. I haven't heard from him but if I do how should I react? Thank you for your empathetic and intelligent advice, E...

Lisa writes, “Dear Susan, THANK YOU for all the time and talent you share with all of us!  Your videos are awesome! Is an emotional affair worse than a physical affair? And does an emotional affair generally lead to that slippery slope and blurred line of inevitable intimacy? Thank you for taking my question.”

Sarah writes, “Why does a Narcissist play hot and cold in a love triangle? I have told him what I have concluded in his behaviour and patterns, and now I'm no longer priority but the other female is. Help. Your videos are fantastic, knowledgeable and by far helpful. Thank you thank you thank you thank you.”

R G writes, “Dear Susan, I've heard many people say, including myself, that they stayed too long in a relationship. How long should a person give a relationship to really evaluate their partner and their future together? For example, would you agree not to give a relationship more than two years, maybe less, to seriously evaluate whether you're on the same track for a future? Thank you for all you...

Melissa writes, “I've been with my partner 4 years, living together for 1. My partner is cautious when it comes to making ANY decisions. I know he loves me and is fully committed to me in every way, BUT he said he's not ready for marriage yet and doesn't know when he will be (35 yr. old male). How do I communicate my relationship expectations/needs (as I'm 33 years old and want kids), without issu...

Aaron writes, “Hi Susan, thank you for your videos it really help me a lot. Susan my boyfriend broke up with me because he wasn't ready for a commitment and decided that we should just stay friends.  I got really hurt, but I accepted the "Friendzone" situation because I love him.  Now I don't know where this thing's going? I'm confused and don't know what to do, do I just leave this situation? Tha...

Are you stuck in torment due to your breakup? You can't move forward, and you're not sure how to get them back. Confused, immobile and waiting for a sign to guide you, you're stuck. So you wait. And wait. Here's the real price of fearing to take action.

Dylan writes, “Hi Susan, I'm a big fan of your work and find your content extremely helpful and inspiring. My question is how do you begin to approach an older woman if you're only experienced in the ‘similar age' bracket of dating/having a sexual partner? Many thanks, Dylan.”

Kate writes, “Hello Susan! Thank you so much for all the educative videos! I have a question about cheating: once a cheater, always a cheater – true or false? All of your videos have been truly helpful! Thank you again! Best Wishes, Kate”

Taylor writes, “Hi Susan. I was wondering what your thoughts were on trying to build a serious relationship with an ‘Overlapper.' Particularly, if you are the "other" man or women stealing them away from their current partner? Is it possible that you two are different or will they always be looking for that next someone. Thanks!”

Roger writes, “Hi Susan. Your help has made a tremendous impact on my dating life, but there's something really tough going on. I met this young woman. She got really damaged by some guy 6 months ago who she heavily fell in love with. Now she tells me that it made her insensitive to someone else and she doesn't know if she'll ever feel again. She likes me and I know her for months, but what can I...

Bea writes, “Hi Susan,I just met a much younger guy. I am 44 and he's 27. He seems to be quite serious, a quiet type which suits me a lot. He has a very demanding job - he's a firefighter. So I sense he's a strong, manly man. He's also 6'6 and fit. I wonder if in our relationship I'd still be the one who's dominant, just because of my age? I don't fancy this idea. Is it possible he would be the le...

Erika writes: “What are your thoughts on the law of attraction and its role in getting an ex back? I've read that some people have used it to get their exes back with great success. However, it sounds like this method involves giving them all the power. Won't this have the opposite effect as that person feeds off that energy? You mentioned your ex only reached out to you when you had decided it wa...

Ed writes, “Hello Susan, Here are my thoughts on a video request. As we experience the grief from a heartbreak, we also have a variety of emotions to deal with (as you have discussed in videos). One huge additional thing I'm not sure you have covered is the reality of how to deal with the thought and feeling of knowing your former Lover is having sex with someone new or will be having sex with som...

Monica writes, “Hello Susan - I LOVE your videos and amazing advice. My issue is that, in a relationship (from 9months-3yrs), the guy will lose interest or momentum, and realise later what they've lost. All of my old boyfriends have confessed their love for me long after the relationship has ended. This is incredibly frustrating. Is there anything I can do to prevent this from continuing to happen...

Ann writes: “How to finally move on and be happy with yourself again? I've always been single and happy until I dated someone who was into me at first, pulled away, and went back to his ex. He lied to me about it and blamed me for feeling that way. It's been a year and I feel pathetic for being still sad about it and haven't met anyone, yet he has moved on with his happily ever after. Help:(“ 

Are you obsessed with getting your romance back on track? Here's why your partner is frustrating you so, and how to handle the desperate need to try over and over to recapture the first blissful days of togetherness.

This is the double bind where if you speak up to bad behavior or voice a complaint, it's all ‘too much' for your mate. Partner's who play the ‘no drama threat' box you into compliance and insist upon your silence by pulling away as punishment. No complaints are allowed. Therefor, no healthy relationship can be formed.

Linda writes: “I have a crush on someone and although I don't know what the outcome will be, it seems there is chemistry and I get the feeling he likes me. However, when we bump into each other he is either pretending not to remember our last conversation to play it cool, or he's really not paying attention. I on the other hand remember EVERY DETAIL of our conversations.  Is this a gender thing? T...

Viewer Chris writes, “Do you believe in love at first sight?” This is a question that many people ponder as they sense an immediate attraction to another. Is it real? Is it imagined? Here's my take on the subject.

Do you find yourself wondering what ‘could have been'? Obsessing over an imagined love life can make you miss what's right in front of your eyes. Here's how to either dispel the myth of the ‘perfect love lost,' or seek out your missed connection and make it a reality.