The Susan Winter Show

He couldn't wait to see you. She melted in your arms. What happened? Welcome to the dating game of pursuit and retraction: #mixedmessages #pullingaway #hotandcold You're hooked — not by who they are now, but who they were before.  The guy who texted you every morning and couldn't wait to see you. The woman who showed you affection and said she'd never felt like this before. What happened? It's the...

Why would a #partner resort to #ghosting as a form of #breakup? Here's the mindset of an escape artist, and how you can turn the tables:

  How can you tell a player from a prospective mate? If you want a committed relationship, here's what you need to know: #players #love #partnerselection 
Maria writes, “Hi Susan. First and foremost, thank you for your advice and open dialogue on each and every video.  Those of us who actively want a serious committed relationship and be there 100% have encountered and met partners who are there f...

Not sure if you can be friends with someone you've #loved in the past? The right action depends on the answer to this question: #ex #breakup #friends

Alex writes, “Is it possible to become friends with an ex-- with someone you once loved? I can't help but think: Why waste love? Why become strangers? I long for her in my life. We broke up due to incompatibility (age) and it was a loving breakup. E...

If your #partner say's they need time, should you wait? If so, how long? Here's how to know if your #relationship is worth the wait: #video #wait #moveon 
Skyler writes, “Met this guy on a hook-up site. It's been a few weeks now we regularly spend time together, in and out of the house. We cuddle and kiss but he will not have sex with me again. Says he's in a time of transition and doesn't want to...

  At one point, your #date couldn't get enough of you. Now, they've pulled away.  Here's why they've lost interest (and what you can do about it).#video #datingadvice #pullingaway   Your partner thought you were exciting. Now you've lost your lustre, and you're no longer a priority. Why are you suddenly devalued? Here's what happened, and here's how to reestablish your worth.

Susan writes, “Hi Susan. I want say a big thank you to you first. I had a big awakening experience after I watched your videos. I allowed people who I loved to walk over my feelings, devalue me, and I'd always forgive them. I suffered and kept quiet. I decided to walk away from the guy that I'd been dating for a year who kept hurting my feelings. A question: how to become a receiver rather than al...

Cliff writes, “Hi Susan, I love your videos. They are really helpful to me and I enjoy watching them. My question I would like you to answer in the video is about the ex bf. I like a girl, but I fear her ex bf is still on her radar and keeps appearing on all her social media, liking and commenting on every post. How to I deal with this to not let it bother me? Thank you.”

Your partner was into you but now they're pulling away. ‘Pushing' for reconnection won't work. Here's how to engage the internal shift that allows your partner to shift in correspondence, and without resistance.

Franzi writes, “Dear Susan,I was dating a young man I thought I would end up in relationship with. A year ago he was dating a woman who treated him badly. She suddenly contacted him and he decided to give it another try with her. Can feelings just reappear? Or is it something else that led him to return to her, even though she's already treating him badly again? Thanks in advance.”

YouTube subscriber Luke writes, “Hi Susan, I was wondering if you could possibly address why we may suddenly miss an ex out of nowhere, especially after it seemed like we've been doing so well for so long in moving on from them. It's a very confusing and defeating feeling, and I'm hoping you may have some insight to help reconcile these feelings. Thank you so much for everything that you do! You'v...

Oscar writes, “Good Day. Susan, I'm 40 and having issues with my relationship. I've come to find out that the woman I've been with for 8 years has been having some secret accounts on FB for her to chat with men (even my small brother). So now everything is a mess. She tells me that she wants to move out. I told her fine. But she's still in the house. I want to move on with my life.”

Vivien writes, “Hi Susan, I am a huge fan of yours from Hungary. My boyfriend has just broken up with me 2 months ago saying that he feels he is not in love with me anymore and we should not waste time. Knowing that everybody's personality is developing, my question is: How do you know that you truly do not fit your partner or is it just about being together at the wrong time? Thank you, Vivien”

New couples go through the awkward phase of determining who and what they are to each other, and if what they've got is viable.  Where do you stand with this person? And if you have anything with them, is it viable? Here's how to handle this phase of new love.

Emma writes, “Hello Susan, I really like and feel strong chemistry with this guy. And he tells me he feels the same way. He can be very affectionate and open with sharing his life. However, he tells me he doesn't want a relationship. Last time I saw him I told him I want a relationship. I haven't heard from him but if I do how should I react? Thank you for your empathetic and intelligent advice, E...

Lisa writes, “Dear Susan, THANK YOU for all the time and talent you share with all of us!  Your videos are awesome! Is an emotional affair worse than a physical affair? And does an emotional affair generally lead to that slippery slope and blurred line of inevitable intimacy? Thank you for taking my question.”

Sarah writes, “Why does a Narcissist play hot and cold in a love triangle? I have told him what I have concluded in his behaviour and patterns, and now I'm no longer priority but the other female is. Help. Your videos are fantastic, knowledgeable and by far helpful. Thank you thank you thank you thank you.”

R G writes, “Dear Susan, I've heard many people say, including myself, that they stayed too long in a relationship. How long should a person give a relationship to really evaluate their partner and their future together? For example, would you agree not to give a relationship more than two years, maybe less, to seriously evaluate whether you're on the same track for a future? Thank you for all you...

Melissa writes, “I've been with my partner 4 years, living together for 1. My partner is cautious when it comes to making ANY decisions. I know he loves me and is fully committed to me in every way, BUT he said he's not ready for marriage yet and doesn't know when he will be (35 yr. old male). How do I communicate my relationship expectations/needs (as I'm 33 years old and want kids), without issu...

Aaron writes, “Hi Susan, thank you for your videos it really help me a lot. Susan my boyfriend broke up with me because he wasn't ready for a commitment and decided that we should just stay friends.  I got really hurt, but I accepted the "Friendzone" situation because I love him.  Now I don't know where this thing's going? I'm confused and don't know what to do, do I just leave this situation? Tha...

Are you stuck in torment due to your breakup? You can't move forward, and you're not sure how to get them back. Confused, immobile and waiting for a sign to guide you, you're stuck. So you wait. And wait. Here's the real price of fearing to take action.

Dylan writes, “Hi Susan, I'm a big fan of your work and find your content extremely helpful and inspiring. My question is how do you begin to approach an older woman if you're only experienced in the ‘similar age' bracket of dating/having a sexual partner? Many thanks, Dylan.”

Kate writes, “Hello Susan! Thank you so much for all the educative videos! I have a question about cheating: once a cheater, always a cheater – true or false? All of your videos have been truly helpful! Thank you again! Best Wishes, Kate”

Taylor writes, “Hi Susan. I was wondering what your thoughts were on trying to build a serious relationship with an ‘Overlapper.' Particularly, if you are the "other" man or women stealing them away from their current partner? Is it possible that you two are different or will they always be looking for that next someone. Thanks!”

Roger writes, “Hi Susan. Your help has made a tremendous impact on my dating life, but there's something really tough going on. I met this young woman. She got really damaged by some guy 6 months ago who she heavily fell in love with. Now she tells me that it made her insensitive to someone else and she doesn't know if she'll ever feel again. She likes me and I know her for months, but what can I...