The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering Divorce

Episode 64: Okay y'all, this one’s for the women leaning toward staying—but not the old way. In this episode, I share the rest of the 7 powerful shifts that can transform your marriage into one built on truth, safety, and mutual thriving 💫💥 We cover everything from the myth of “two halves make a whole” 🙅‍♀️ to rewriting your marriage rule book 📖, and even how separation can be a healing t...

Ohhh my GODDESS, y’all! 🌞🔥 Is it just me, or is summer turning up the heat in all the best ways?! This week, we’re making a juicy pivot from covert narcissism (y’all blew me away with your responses, thank you 🙏) to something that’s been simmering in the background for a long time... STAYING. Yup. This one is for all my stay-girlies 💖. And hold UP—did Mayim Bialik really email me?! 😱 Y’all. N...

In this second deep-dive into covert narcissism, I unpack the remaining techniques and traits that make this kind of abuse so uniquely painful… and so hard to name. From gaslighting and emotional blackmail to the crazy room and love bombing, I break it all down—raw, unfiltered, and straight from lived experience 💔. I’m not holding anything back in this episode. I share real-life stories—mine and...

Episode 61: This one’s been a long time coming, y’all. I can feel it in my bones—this is some of the work I’m most proud to bring into the world. In this two-part series (yep, there’s more coming next week!), I’m diving deep into covert narcissism —what it is, how it operates, and how it might be silently shaping your relationship. This week, we’re laying down the foundation: I’m sharing the two c...

Episode 60: Hey sis! 👋💞 Before diving into today’s episode, I took a moment to feel into all of you — whether you're cooking dinner 🍳, running 🏃‍♀️, or driving 🚗. Just know: I SEE you. You are not alone. 🤗 This episode is a bit of a soul drop-in. I'm sharing some of my most recent and raw inner work 🌪️ — specifically, a powerful metaphor that came through during deep shadow work. I...

Episode 59: Wow y’all… this one is a wild ride . After the energy of being on Mayim Bialik’s Breakdown, Quinn and I just had to circle back. You know those moments when you’re like, “Wait! I wasn’t done!”—yeah, this episode is all that and more. 😅✨ We’re diving into the real talk that didn’t get airtime—reading through your 🔥comments, confronting trolls 🧌, and expanding the convo on divorce, i...

Episode 58: Oh y’all… this episode is straight from my still buzzing heart 💓 because I just got done recording with Mayim Bialik and Jonathan Cohen for the Mayim Bialik's Breakdown podcast!! 😱✨ Yes. THAT one. It was magical, it was real, and it was absolutely a moment I’ll never forget. So naturally, I had to jump on the mic and share the aftermath glow with all of you—while still in my po...

Episode 57: Hey loves 💕—this one is a powerhouse episode that’s been a long time in the making! I finally get to sit down with the incredible Carmina Becerra (activating your voice coach, truth-teller, and all-around force of nature 🌪️🔥). This conversation is deeply personal for both of us, and I want to lovingly name upfront—it’s got a LOT of Go energy in it. For those of you still in the Stay...

Episode 56: Hey my beautiful loves! 💖 In today’s episode, I’m pulling us back into a softer, more mystical vibe 🌙 — one that feels like curling up with a cozy blanket for your soul. After some heavier episodes, I was aching to share the deeper practices that have truly carried me through all the ups and downs of my journey. 💫 I'm inviting you into one of my absolute favorite rituals — my N...

Episode 55: Hey my loves 💕 This week, we’re keeping things punchy and powerful as I break down something I see all the time in my community and my coaching sessions—when you know a relationship isn’t right for you, but you just can’t seem to leave. Whether it's your spouse, your affair partner, or both, this episode is a loving and truth-filled deep dive into the real reasons why letting go...

Episode 54: Whoa 😮‍💨 this episode came in hot , y’all. It was not the one I had planned—but sometimes the universe throws something at you that cracks your heart open in just the right way, and you’ve got to go with it. 💥 So today, I'm taking you inside a real-time nervous system ride—from receiving a message in my DMs that hit me right in my childhood wounds, to processing an emotional fl...

Episode 53: Hey y’all 💛 I am beyond excited to share this juicy episode with you because we are going all in on a topic I feel SO passionate about—what actually makes a marriage GREAT. Not “fine,” not “meh,” not “just surviving”—but truly great . ✨ In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my own love story 💕, share how my definition of a great marriage has radically changed, and break d...

Episode 52:🔥 Buckle up, babes! In this raw and radically honest episode, I’m teaming up with my soul sister Quinn for a full-on, no-holds-barred intimacy chat. We're diving DEEP into the orgasm gap, the tragedy of hetero sex myths, and what it really means to reclaim your body and your pleasure—especially after divorce. 💦 We’re pulling back the curtain on everything we were never taught to...

Episode 51: Buckle up, babe—this episode is a straight-up download from the universe ✨ and I am OBSESSED with what came through. Today, we’re diving deep into something so many of us as women struggle with: putting everyone else first…and losing ourselves in the process 💔. I’m unpacking why you’ve got to put your oxygen mask on first 🛑✈️ before trying to change the blueprint for your kids, your...

Episode 50: Hey loves! 💕 Oof, what a week. Between spring break chaos and some big personal shifts (more on that later 😘), I feel like I time-traveled and landed back in my body just in time to record this super juicy episode. And let me tell you—it’s a goooood one. 🔥 If your brain is in total overdrive trying to figure out whether you should stay or go, this episode is for you . I’m diving dee...

Episode 49: Ladies, get ready for a deep, juicy, and transformational conversation! This week, I’m bringing on my gorgeous and radiant friend, Ranelle Chapman , a transformational coach and founder of Tantra Maha. 🌿✨ We are diving into something that so many women struggle with but rarely talk about— desire, embodiment, and the power of reconnecting with your body . If you've ever felt disc...

Episode 48: Hey my lovelies! 💛 Let’s get cozy and take a deep breath together because today’s episode is a game-changer . I’m sharing a powerful tool that I created this week—one that has already been giving me massive shifts. And now, I’m passing it on to YOU! 🎉 Here’s the deal: So many of us are just coping —putting out fires, managing chaos, running on fumes. But what if instead of constantly...

Episode 47: I’ve been getting messages asking me to “just talk about divorce” and leave politics out of it. But here’s the truth: personal power is political. 🔥 The same fire that helps you leave a suffocating marriage is the fire that makes me speak up. 💥 In this episode, I share my own messy awakening—how I went from staying small to reclaiming my voice. And why I refuse to shrink for anyone....

Episode 46: Ever feel like you’re living a life that doesn’t actually feel like yours ? Like maybe the decisions you’ve made—your marriage, your career, your whole damn life—were handed to you rather than chosen by you? If so, you’re not alone, and this episode is exactly for you. 💡 Today, I’m diving deep into The Voice of Knowledge by Don Miguel Ruiz and unpacking the life-changing concept that...

Episode 45: Y’all, this episode is something truly special. I’ve been hinting at it for a while, and the moment is finally here—I’m joined by the incredible Allison Alexander ! 🎉 Allison’s story is powerful, raw, and so deeply resonant for anyone who has ever questioned whether to stay or go. She takes us through her journey, from the moment she first felt the whisper that something wasn’t right...

Episode 44: Okay, y’all… this episode has been weighing heavy on my heart, and I need to talk about it today. 💔 A new bill in Oklahoma is trying to repeal no-fault divorce —and it’s just the tip of the iceberg. Christian nationalism is gaining power, pushing laws designed to trap women in unhealthy marriages, and if you think this won’t affect you… think again .  But this isn’t just about politic...

Episode 43: Hey there, lovely listeners! 💛 This week’s episode is a big one—I’m diving deep into the phrase “Your thoughts create your reality” and unpacking all the nuance behind it. If that statement has ever made you feel overwhelmed, shamed, or even a little stuck, you’re in the right place. 🌀 We’ll explore the emotional traps of shame and spiritual bypassing, and why simply swapping your th...

Episode 42: Oh, y’all, this episode is buzzing with energy because I’m back in my flow! 🌊 After a few weeks of slowing down and leaning into the ebb, I’m here to share what it feels like to embrace the natural rhythms of life—and how that can completely transform the way you approach challenges like divorce or deep personal decisions. 💫 This week, I’m diving into three foundational principles th...

#41: Hey there, loves. This week’s episode is raw, real, and deeply personal 💔. I’m diving into something I’m currently in the thick of—navigating the waves of depression through the lens of complex PTSD and the abandonment depression cycle, inspired by Pete Walker’s incredible book. I share how a tough week with my oldest son has brought up layers of emotional triggers that connect back to deep...

#40: Welcome to the first episode of 2025, y’all! 🎉 I’m already obsessed with this year. In this episode, I’m reflecting on the magic of 2024—the year that showed me just how life-changing healthy, secure relationships can be. 💖 From deep personal growth to experiencing what it’s like to truly thrive in love and partnership, last year was a game-changer. And yes, I’m spilling all the details, in...