The Stay or Go Podcast for Women Considering Divorce

Episode 89: Welcome to 2026, my loves. I’m starting this year with one of the most personal and tender episodes I’ve ever shared. In Part One of this two-part series, I’m opening the door to my recent ADHD diagnosis—how it reframed not just the last few years, but the landscape of my entire life. This isn’t just an episode about ADHD. It’s about the slow unraveling of shame. About finally understa...

Episode 88: Two days before Christmas can feel especially heavy when you are quietly considering divorce. The holidays have a way of magnifying everything: the grief, the pressure to perform, the old family dynamics, and the fear of being asked questions you are not ready to answer. In this episode, I pull you in close with warmth and honesty. I share a story I had forgotten until I found it in my...

Episode 87: In this conversation with my dear friend Quinn, we finally do what I wish someone had done for me all those years ago. We open the black box of divorce and lay the process out in a way that is human, honest, and actually useful. Not theory, not legal jargon, but the lived reality of two women who walked very different paths through the same fire. Quinn’s journey into divorce was long a...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit stayorgo.substack.com Episode 86: Ohhhh my loves — this one’s a biggie. 💥 What started as a simple question from one of my beautiful Substack subscribers turned into something so much deeper. In this episode, I finally give the practice of journaling the spotlight it deserves. Not the surface-level, “dear diary” kind of journaling. I’m...

Episode 85: Okay, y’all. This episode has been building all month. After revisiting my journals, hosting powerful conversations in the community, listening to Olivia’s story, and sitting with a few seriously paradigm-shifting insights, I knew I needed to pull it all together and share where I’ve landed. We’re talking narcissism, but not in the black-and-white, overused “therapy speak” way you’re s...

Episode 84: In today’s episode, I sit down with “Olivia,” a woman I worked with one-on-one during the early days of her unraveling a 21-year marriage marked by deep narcissistic abuse. What unfolds in this conversation is one of the most raw, courageous, and unflinching portraits we’ve ever had on the podcast of what it means to wake up inside a marriage and realize: this isn’t love. Not the kind...

Episode 83: This week’s episode feels like opening a sealed box from a past lifetime and discovering not only who I was, but the quiet, determined woman I was becoming long before I could see her clearly. These final journal entries are some of the rawest I have ever shared. They move through the full terrain of my inner world during the months surrounding my separation and divorce, including the...

Episode 82: In this deeply personal episode, I take you back to the earliest days of my own journey—before I made the decision to divorce. Through sharing two intimate journal entries from 2017, you’ll step inside my inner world at a time when my future felt uncertain, and yet a quiet, insistent voice inside me whispered, “You can change your stars.” These entries are raw and unfiltered. One captu...

Episode 81: If you’re anything like I was, you’re holding it together on the outside, while silently unraveling on the inside. You’ve tried therapy. You’ve tried harder. You’ve read the books and done the journaling. But something still feels off in your marriage—and you can’t quite name what it is. In this episode, I sit down with the woman who first helped me name it. My former counselor, Paré U...

Episode 80: This week, I’m bringing you into something that’s been sitting heavy on my heart. It’s a conversation I’ve touched on before, but never like this. I want to talk about what it really costs to follow your soul calls. Not the pretty version, but the actual lived experience. The kind that feels like your life is unraveling and you’re not sure who you’ll be on the other side. Because here’...

Episode 79: There are moments in life when the future feels like a wide-open wilderness—unmapped, uncertain, and at times, terrifying. In this episode, I speak from that raw, unfiltered place. This is a deeply personal and present-time transmission, recorded just after attending a No Kings protest that left me both cracked open and powerfully emboldened. What poured through was more than just refl...

Episode 78: After hosting our first Stay or Go retreat, I sat down with my best friend and behind-the-scenes soul-sister, Quinn, to unpack what we experienced and what it revealed about the kind of connection women are craving, now more than ever. This episode is not just a reflection on one powerful weekend. It’s an invitation to consider what becomes possible when we stop trying to do life alone...

Episode 77: This episode is the culmination of a three-part exploration into one of the most emotionally tangled questions I see women face: Should I stay, or is it okay to leave... even if he’s a good man? If you haven’t read the two preceding articles on Substack, I urge you to begin there. Those pieces lay the emotional and historical groundwork for what we’re unraveling here. In today’s conver...

Episode 76: It’s been six years since I made one of the hardest decision of my life and walked away from my marriage. I didn’t have a roadmap. I didn’t know what the future would hold. I only knew that the life I was living no longer reflected who I truly was. This week, I’m honoring what I now call my Divorceversary by sharing the seven most unexpected truths that have unfolded since that day. So...

This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit stayorgo.substack.com Episode 75: This might be the most personal, profound episode I’ve recorded yet. If you’ve ever found yourself swinging between moments of calm clarity and then suddenly feeling overwhelmed by hopelessness, confusion or dread, you are not alone. You may be experiencing complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD)...

Episode 74: This week, Quinn and I return for one of our most raw, personal conversations yet. If last week was about divorcing a “good guy,” this episode is about the harder truth: what happens when the man you married becomes an unpredictable, even unsafe, co-parent? Quinn opens up about her post-divorce reality—one that began with hopes of peaceful co-parenting and shared holidays, and ended in...

Episode 73: I sat down with my bestie Quinn to unpack one of the biggest emotional hurdles so many of us face but rarely speak out loud: What do I do with the heartbreak of not having my kids with me all the time? This two-part episode was sparked by a powerful listener email that stopped me in my tracks. She put into words the raw grief and fear that can hit you hard when you imagine your childre...

Episode 72: Y’all… this episode is a BIG one! 🎉✨ The anticipation has been real, and I’m finally sharing all the juicy details about the podcast’s move to Substack—plus, a chance for YOU to win a free 90-minute coaching session with me! 🎁🔥 But let’s be real—this episode is about so much more than a platform shift. This is a deep dive into something that’s been transforming my life: RECEIVING....

Episode 71: Hey babes 💛 This one poured out of me on a Friday night with dusk falling outside my window 🌅 because I couldn’t not record it. This episode is my full-body YES to the truth that the life you want most? It's not only possible—it’s happening faster than ever before 🚀💥 I’m opening the door and letting you peek into a totally ordinary, magical day in my life—one I never would’ve...

Episode 70: Hey babe 💛—whether you’re out walking, driving, curled up in bed, this one’s for you . In this week’s episode, I’m sharing the story of my own “roadside test” last week—when my middle son broke his arm at football practice—and the big wake-up it gave me about what happens when we ignore the check engine lights in our lives. 🚨 From cars to life to marriages, those little warning light...

Episode 69: Hey, my loves! 💕 This week’s episode emerged from a comment shared with me by one of my community members and I cannot wait for you to dive into the goodies that came out of it with me. We’re talking about something BIG—moving from an expectation mindset (hello control + perfectionism 👋) into an exploration mindset that gives you SPACE to breathe, play, and actually be human . 🌱 So...

Episode 68: Hello, my loves! 💕 This week, I’m coming to you straight from the messy middle—yep, that foggy, disorienting space where life says, “LOL, nope!” to all your perfectly laid plans. 😅 If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “How the hell did I end up here?” or if you’re navigating the collapsing scaffolding of a life you thought was secure (hello, divorce consideration crew 🙋‍♀️), thi...

Episode 67: Hey loves 💗, This week’s episode is a little different—short, unfiltered, and deeply vulnerable. I hit record right in the middle of my own "tower moment" (yep, for my tarot friends out there, that card 🌩️), where everything feels like it’s crumbling... and I’m letting it. Instead of packaging my process into a neatly wrapped episode with clear takeaways, I’m inviting you in...

Episode 66: This episode is raw, real, and liberating. Quinn and I dive deep into the second part of Jane Ward’s The Tragedy of Heterosexuality , unpacking what it means to live inside a system that was never built for our wholeness. We explore the emotional and erotic numbness so many women feel in straight relationships—and how it’s not your fault. We talk about internalized misogyny, performati...

Episode 65: This week’s episode is a massive eye-opener , y’all. 🤯 Quinn and I dive deep into The Tragedy of Heterosexuality by Jane Ward, and let me just say—holy 💩, our minds were blown.  We unpack the historical roots of heterosexual marriage and how it was never designed with women’s joy, freedom, or wellbeing in mind. From patriarchy and white supremacy to eugenics and post-WWII propaganda,...