The Sex, Porn & Love Addiction Podcast

Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre For example, the highest download of porn is between the hours of 9am and 5pm. What are those hours? Where are most people, during those hours? What do most contracts say about being caught having downloaded such material at work? What consequences flow from exposure? Then why take that level of risk? Don&a...

Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre "Objectification" is not that you noticed the person. It is, that you linker longer or go back for a second or third look. " I am just appreciating God's creating ", doesn't cut it! What a nightmare then, for Porn Addicts, are these Paris Olympics (and the holiday abroad in the...

Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Porn-Blockers won't stop those who are determined to act out. Their use is, however, essential for those serious about achieving sobriety. It buys you time. It might get you through that day and enable you to add one more day to your sobriety count. Here are some Porn-Blockers: Chrome BlockX/Blocker X,...

Send us Fan Mail Snippet of an interview with Caroline Brown of “This Crazy over 40s Life”: Sex with no strings attached - Part 5 - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Worth listening to “Sexual Intelligence: More Science stuff” episodes – to recognise that there are consequence for Sex, Porn, Love Addiction patterns of behaviours. Watch out for the psychosexua...

Send us Fan Mail (Snippets from an Interview by Caroline Brown of "This Crazy over 40's Life Podcast") - Part 4 - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Something shifted during Covid-19 lockdown. Many women enticed to use phones, computers and tablets during lockdown, crossed their own "values" boundaries, as it seemed reasonable to do so...

Send us Fan Mail (Snippets from an Interview by Caroline Brown of "This Crazy over 40's Life Podcast") - Part 3 - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Sameness and/or difference attracts and are bonded together; but something shifted somewhere along the journey. Falling out of love visited the couple, Something about Core Emotional Needs being met...

Send us Fan Mail (Interviewed by Caroline Brown of This Crazy over 40's Life Podcast) - Part 2 - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Navigating life is challenging. Navigating partnered/couple relationship is even more challenging. Add Sex, Porn, Love Addiction to the mix - when you are still trying to understand self. What are the things hindering you fro...

Send us Fan Mail (Interviewed by Caroline Brown of This Crazy over 40's Life Podcast) - Part 1 - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre You can break free of the (perhaps) generational baton of inherited compulsive behaviours and decide - " it stops with me " Here is one such past Kairos Centre client's description of her journey: " A clie...

Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (10) What do you want from Therapy? Where does your view come from? Is it your view or a “hand me down”? Therapy won’t work until you are ready. But if you take too long (as the masses do), then the hand grenade may go off in your face and...

Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (9) Take your eyes off others and do your own battles and fights ….then, after sorting self, maybe you will have more energy to pick up other things and fulfil your best potential in that area, as you become the best that you can be and le...

Send us Fan Mail - On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (8) " What! I no longer need to do traditional 'Talk Therapy', to address my past impactful stuff of life? Tell me more! " Call it a little “t” trauma – that I cannot even see in my lovely family upbringing or big &quot...

Send us Fan Mail Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (7) “Mirror, Mirror on the wall, who is the fairest or them all”?  How do you answer that question for you? Learn to love self, before you can love others. I use that thing called EMDR to work on the distorted image of self. (I am an Accredited EMDR Practitioner in the UK). What is this thing called EMDR? It is E...

Send us Fan Mail On-Demand Programme Link - https://mailchi.mp/bb2a7b851246/kairos-centre Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (6) Have I said this already - " Childhood has a lot to answe r"? Maybe just a few times hey! But are you getting it? Don't start at step 5 or 6 with a Recovery Programme or 12 Steps Support. They are absolutely needed, but no...

Send us Fan Mail Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (5) What’s a “Russian Doll” (or is it called a Babushka) got to do with Sex, Porn, Love Addiction? I thought you would never ask! “ I haven’t bought into that nonsense “Big boys don’t cry”, when I was growing up”. At least, I don’t think so ”! That guy called John Bowlby in the 1940’s dared to put together some s...

Send us Fan Mail Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (4) Men are “Wild at heart”. The book (by that title) by John Eldredge – maybe is on to something. (Worth a read guys - and gals). Where there are some things that were not done “good enough” during childhood development,  the brain then sets about trying to fill the deficits. Sometimes with coping strategies, su...

Send us Fan Mail Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (3) Big up the women So much more practical in finding solutions. Teach us please ladies. We need you.  Us men have become emasculated by a society. What does masculinity mean? Aren’t there two roles – Masculinity & Femininity? Aren’t they different? Don’t they complement each other, to create a balanced soci...

Send us Fan Mail Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (2) Impediments to having great relationships  Disruption in the bonding in early childhood development with the significant caregivers (usually parents), is a key factor. The male (a father) plays a very important role. Masculinity cannot be supplemented by a mother. It is not " do as I say ", it is &q...

Send us Fan Mail Interview by Damian Andrews of SHAIR.care: What it means to be a man (1) What is Man-ness? There is still a caveman instinct inside of us as men. Has the image got distorted as men try to metamorphize ourselves to fit what society tells us a man should be. Trying to fit what we are really not, is hard work. At some point there may be an increased desire to self-soothe and escape i...

Send us Fan Mail Interview with Roman Mironov of NOFAP (4) Root causes of negative impact on the brain, to cause it to gravitate to self-soothing behaviours? What do you think were the issues which caused your brain to gravitate to self-soothing from those negative impactful behaviours, during those early developing younger years of life (often before puberty)? Bullying, abuse, sexual abuse, paren...

Send us Fan Mail Interview with Roman Mironov of NOFAP (3) Is porn bad or inherently bad for the brain? I don’t want to be seen as moralising about anyone’s personal values, ethics, standards or morals. What we do know is that experiments demonstrate that porn viewing can do permanent damage to the brain. (We are dealing with lots of porn use over lots of hours; no short periodical or ad hoc use)....

Send us Fan Mail Interview with Roman Mironov of NOFAP (2) This Insecure Attachment thing, has a lot to answer….. Stuff set up in childhood development, has its tentacles in how we are doing our adult lives and relationships. Picture the image of a “Russian Doll”; the layers of the Russian Doll has the smallest version deep inside. That represents the Inner child. Stand up the real you. Which one...

Send us Fan Mail Interview with Roman Mironov of NOFAP (1) Don't think about having truly achieved sobriety until one year from the last acting out. “ A bit arbitrary Gary. Rather too long, don’t you think ?” My reply is that the compulsive and addiction behaviours usually have a few decades start on you. In other words, many clients have been doing the behaviours for decades – often since ch...

Send us Fan Mail Interview with Marci Warhaft of "How to ruin your own reputation" Podcast (5) Getting help is not a sign of weakness. Repeated Negative patterns of behaviours, give a glimpse of a problem. I take me into the relationship and is me being me, doing life how I do life – “ What’s the problem ?”; the problem must be you. There is no problem if there is no problem; but when yo...

Send us Fan Mail Interview with Marci Warhaft of "How to ruin your own reputation" Podcast (4) You are not weaker and less robust than others. It is a lie. The behaviours are all about managing emotions, in response to issues in the past - still operating the same way in the present. Once repeat behaviours set in, you are on the hamster wheel and it is difficult to get off.  What’s all t...

Send us Fan Mail Interview with Marci Warhaft of "How to ruin your own reputation" Podcast (3) Seriously!! The highest download of porn during the day is between the hours of 9am and 5pm. (Let me spell it out -- OFFICE HOURS!) “That’s crazy!” Not so crazy for some. The brain has decided that the “Feeling-state” that it gets from the behaviour ie the lushness, is worth the massively high...