The Reinvention Era

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of "The Divorce Chapter" podcast, we welcome the brilliant Chantelle Dyson, a certified life coach, educator, speaker, and podcast host.  Chantelle, who divorced in her 20s after only a year of marriage, shares her journey of self-discovery and personal growth.  She discusses the societal pressures that often dictate life choices, such as marriage and chi...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of The Divorce Chapter podcast, I’ve been a bit inspired by my 52nd birthday tomorrow, and so giving you "52 Things to Do on Your Own." Following my divorce, I had to really relearn being on my own, and this escalated even more in the Panny-D. Now, I want to inspire you to find your own joy in alone time, whether you're navigating life after a breaku...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of The Divorce Chapter, I look at finding "happily ever after" after divorce, particularly focusing on the potential for new relationships and maybe even saying ‘I do’ again.  Inspired by my goddaughter's wedding today, I reflect on the value of love and commitment, even after the heartbreak of a failed marriage. My marriage broke down because my ex-...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we take a look at hyper-independence, a common but often overlooked issue that many of us face after going through a divorce.  It maybe starts as a new found independence and autonomy after breaking free from a co-dependent toxic relationship…. But soon ends up going to the other extreme where we refuse to ask for help, and become SO self-reliant…. To the point it...

Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode of The Divorce Chapter podcast, I had a fantastic conversation with Elisa Lindstrom, a decluttering expert and founder of "Dear Loves Just Breathe." In our discussion, Elisa shares her personal journey, where she began her own decluttering journey amidst a challenging divorce.  Elisa's insights into the emotional and practical aspects of declu...

Send us Fan Mail In this empowering episode, we go deep into the concepts of self-care, self-love, and self-worth, and explore how they are crucial in overcoming codependency, especially in the aftermath of divorce. We cover: 💗The Fabergé Egg Analogy: Learn how to recognise and protect your unique value. 💗Understanding Key Concepts: Differentiate between self-care, self-love, and self-worth, and...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of the Divorce Chapter podcast, I dive deep into the often overlooked and insidious issue of financial abuse.  I share my own experience of being financially controlled and manipulated by my ex-husband and discuss how financial abuse can happen to anyone, regardless of age, gender, or economic status.  You’ll hear about the various forms it can take, from controlli...

Send us Fan Mail On this week’s episode we have the amazing Legally Nik as our wonderful first ever guest on the Divorce Chapter pod. Nik is a trained family lawyer specialising in child protection and she also is a co-parenting, counter- parenting mentor. Bridging the gap between the law and real life, Nik provides not only legal guidance to your personal matters, but equips you with strategies a...

Send us Fan Mail This week’s episode looks at the controversy and scandal of infidelity through the lens of the Ashley Madison documentary now streaming on Netflix (* spoiler alert for those who haven’t yet watched it* ) ( There is also a trigger warning for suicide ) As someone who has navigated the painful path of betrayal and divorce, I watched this documentary with both caution and curiosity....

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of The Divorce Chapter podcast, we talk through an overview of the hugely impactful book "Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life" by Tracy Schorn, aka Chump Lady.  You can find the book here: http://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0762458968/ref=nosim?tag=thedivorceb00-21 This book was highlighted in the Divorce Book Club in May and is an utterly invaluable resource for those...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we explore the often-overlooked topic of pets during separation and divorce. I share my personal experience with my beloved chocolate lab, Jexi, and discuss the emotional and legal challenges that pets face in the midst of marital breakdowns. We dive into the importance of pets in our lives, the concept of a "pet-nup," and practical tips for ensuring the...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we dive into one of the biggest mindfucks of divorce—cognitive dissonance. If you've ever struggled to reconcile the person you married with the person you're now divorcing, this episode is for you. We explore why this psychological phenomenon occurs, how it impacts your healing process, and practical steps you can take to move forward. Key Highlights:...

Send us Fan Mail In this week's episode of "The Divorce Chapter," we're exploring a topic that might pique your curiosity (or else bring out your dubious side) and that is "woo woo" practices and their potential to guide us through the complexities of divorce recovery. You might be wondering, what exactly is "woo woo"? It's a term used to describe uncon...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome to this episode where we dive into the murky waters of dating post-divorce. Whether you're contemplating it, already dipping your toes in, or happily single but keeping an open mind, this one's for you. I'm no dating expert as you’ll hear in the episode 😂 but I've had my fair share of post-divorce dating mishaps, so I figured it's a topic worth ex...

Send us Fan Mail Hey there gorgeous listener, This week, I'm super excited to kick off the new divorce book club with Tracy Schorn's "Leave a Cheater Gain a Life" book. It's a fantastic opportunity to dive into meaningful discussions about navigating all things divorce. If you're not part of the club yet, hop on over to patreon.com/thedivorcebookclub Don't worry...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of the Divorce Chapter Podcast, we explore the theme of confidence after divorce. Drawing insights from the wisdom of the Queen of Confidence, Erika Cramer, we delve into what confidence truly means post-divorce. Whether you're just starting your journey or you've been navigating life post-divorce for a while now, this episode is for you. We'll explo...

Send us Fan Mail How often do your thoughts spiral out of control?  Our minds are incredibly active at the best of times, with an estimated 60 to 80 thousand thoughts per day, but after divorce, it can feel like this is at least trebled right? Which leaves us bloody exhausted.  In this episode, we explore practical techniques to help you regain control of your mind amidst the chaos of divorce. Fro...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce is a journey filled with all sorts of twists and turns, and one aspect that often gets overlooked is its impact on relationships with ex-in-laws.  In this week's episode, we're diving into the complexities of navigating post-divorce relationships with former family members and finding common ground amidst the emotional upheaval. Maintaining connections with ex-in...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m diving into post-divorce tattoos, exploring the rising trend of women getting inked after the end of long-term relationships.  I talk through my own journey through ink and the connections and significance of my tattoos.  Though all but one were post-divorce as the ex HATED the one small sun I had back then - Yes I know far better nowadays than to be dictated...

Send us Fan Mail Breaking up is never easy. Whether it was an amicable parting or a more tumultuous and fucked up split, the aftermath of a divorce can leave us feeling lost, confused, and emotionally drained. One of the most challenging aspects of navigating life post-breakup is enforcing and maintaining no contact with the ex. In this episode we go into the complexities of no contact and provide...

Send us Fan Mail Have you heard the one about the cat who got divorced? He was a cheetah… get it?  Maybe it's too soon to laugh, but could there be a role for humour in divorce? I know that divorce is no joke, especially when it involves betrayal and abuse. But amidst the bitterness and anger, is there a point where we need to learn to laugh again? Humour, especially dark humour, has a psycho...

Send us Fan Mail Are you grappling with loneliness post-divorce? The dread of being alone, especially during long weekends, can be overwhelming.  It’s so damn hard…. Loneliness after divorce is a complex emotion, stemming from various facets of life upheaval.  And it is such a common experience…. But it’s also important to understand that being alone does not automatically equate to having to feel...

Send us Fan Mail Welcome back to another episode of the Divorce Chapter Podcast! This week, we dive into part 2 of "Plotting the Next Chapter" as we continue to create a vision for our future.  In the last episode, we explored the concept of the "end of history illusion" – the tendency to reflect on how much things have changed in the past but how we struggle to envision detail...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, we talk about the process of creating a new vision for the future after divorce.  The devastation of a broken future and the expectations that come with a long-term relationship are very real and really damn hard to navigate right? I explain the concept of the end of history illusion, which further prevents us from envisioning our future selves. But using some of...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever found yourself grappling with terms like "gaslighting," "ghosting," or "trauma bonds," unsure of their meanings or implications?  If so, you're not alone. In this episode, we delve into the complex world of divorce and relationship terminology and lingo…. A bit like an alternative dictionary. There is so much of this language that h...