The Reinvention Era

Send us Fan Mail 💔 Why does it feel like they’re living their best life while you’re just trying to survive? Divorce can feel like the ultimate injustice… especially if you’ve been betrayed. While your ex seems to move on with ease (and maybe even a smug grin), you’re left picking up the emotional, financial, and social pieces of a life you thought would last forever. In this episode, we’re divin...

Send us Fan Mail 💡 "If it’s not serving you, hit unsubscribe." Your inbox isn’t the only thing clogged with spam….your mind is too.  From guilt and people-pleasing to outdated beliefs about what your post-divorce life should look like, you’re probably unconsciously “subscribed” to a whole load of mental junk you never actually signed up for. So in this episode, we’re hitting ‘unsubscrib...

Send us Fan Mail 💡 “If you don’t believe you’re the person who can live your dream life, you’ll sabotage yourself every time.” You’ve created the vision. You’ve started taking action. But here’s the kicker… if you still see yourself as the struggling, heartbroken version of you, you’ll keep making choices that pull you back into that identity. So today, we’re going deeper.  🔥 In this episode, I’...

Send us Fan Mail It’s January, it’s grey and cold, and if you’re anything like me, you’re on your third cup of tea before noon and wondering if it’s socially acceptable to hibernate until April.  Post-Christmas blues, crap weather, and the lingering chaos of divorce…. it’s not exactly the vibe , is it? BUT… (and there’s always a but)… there’s a way out of this dreary rut, and it starts with a choi...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce is tough… there’s no sugar-coating it.  But here’s the truth no one tells you: it’s also a chance to start over, to wipe the slate clean, and to create a life that feels unapologetically YOU. This week on The Divorce Chapter podcast, we’re diving into exactly that: how to create your next chapter after divorce….. a chapter filled with joy, purpose, and a vision that lights...

Send us Fan Mail Ah, Twixtmas. That magical time of year when no one knows what day it is, we’re all living off leftovers, and PJs become acceptable all-day attire. It’s my absolute favourite week…. but it’s also the time I left the ex-husband. December 28th. A day etched in my memory. For me, it was a whirlwind of grief, anger, relief, and uncertainty. For him? I imagine it was completely differe...

Send us Fan Mail It’s Santa Season again…. the season of tinsel, turkey, and to-do lists longer than a John Lewis queue on Christmas Eve. And if you’re anything like me, you’re probably feeling the energy drain kicking in already. Because let’s face it… Christmas post-divorce is a lot . There’s the emotional rollercoaster, the endless logistics, the awkward family gatherings, and let’s not forget...

Send us Fan Mail Ah, Christmas. A time for joy, tinsel, turkey… and a little extra emotional chaos if you’re navigating the post-divorce version of Santa Season 🎅 Let me guess: The Ghost of Christmas Past is haunting you with memories of matching PJs, burnt turkeys, and that one year your ex bought you a hoover (romance is NOT dead, apparently). The Ghost of Christmas Present is waving a to-do li...

Send us Fan Mail Yep, it’s that time of year…. The smell of cinnamon everywhere, matching PJs (even on the dog) and Mariah on f*cking repeat…. but if you’re navigating Christmas post-divorce, it can feel more f*ck f*ck f*ck than ho ho ho.  I get it.  Whether it’s the thought of solo family get togethers, lonely nights, or new traditions, this season hits different . But here’s the thing…. differen...

Send us Fan Mail In the spirit of “Santa Season,” this episode looks at one of the most frustrating, nerve-shredding parts of divorce: trying to communicate with the ex . Yep, the person you once shared years of conversations and traditions with now feels like a complete stranger….or worse, someone who couldn’t give a sh*t about you. And then Christmas comes along, with its extra sprinkling of cha...

Send us Fan Mail Are you ready to ditch the numbing traps and face the emotional rollercoaster of divorce like an absolute boss?  In this episode of The Divorce Chapter, we’re going into the concept of emotional sobriety….aka your new divorce superpower.   ✨ We start with a sprinkle of inspiration from Wicked in honour of the movie coming out in the UK, because, yes, even Elphaba has lessons to t...

Send us Fan Mail Divorce can feel like a battlefield, but nothing cuts deeper than when an ex manipulates your own children to turn them against you. In this follow-up episode of The Divorce Chapter, we’re tackling one of the most painful and complex issues in high-conflict divorces—when your ex uses your own children as weapons.  Last week, we talked about exes who manipulate family and friends....

Send us Fan Mail Welcome back to The Divorce Chapter where we rewrite the divorce plot twist ✍️  In this episode, we’re tackling something that can make divorce feel like a never-ending battle….when your ex tries to turn family, friends, and mutual acquaintances against you.  Divorce is hard enough, but dealing with an ex who manipulates those around you takes it to a whole new level. This episode...

Send us Fan Mail Hello Queen 👑 Have you ever found yourself obsessing over someone?  You’re not alone.  This week on The Divorce Chapter podcast, I’m diving into a topic that many of us have experienced but may not fully understand: limerence. Limerence is that intense, almost obsessive desire for someone, often built on fantasy rather than reality, and it can seriously mess with your emotional h...

Send us Fan Mail Hello and welcome to this week’s episode where I’m super delighted to introduce you to Amanda Bell.  Amanda is a divorce lawyer by background, and with her co-founder Victoria, has created an AMAZING, affordable platform designed to help you navigate the entire divorce process with confidence and clarity. Whether you’re facing legal challenges, co-parenting with a high-conflict ex...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m unpacking what a trauma bond is, how they form, and—most importantly—how you can break free from one.  If you’ve ever felt trapped in a toxic relationship where you know it’s bad for you but you just can’t seem to let go, this episode is for you. Trauma bonds are emotional ties that form in abusive relationships, keeping you hooked even when you know it’s hurt...

Send us Fan Mail In honour of World Mental Health Day on 10 October 2024 and the theme of:  “It is time to prioritise mental health in the workplace” In this week’s episode, we’re looking at a topic that doesn’t get nearly enough attention: how divorce can impact your work and career. If you’ve ever felt like you’re expected to just "keep going" at work while dealing with the emotional s...

Send us Fan Mail If you’ve ever felt lost, wondering “Who am I now?” after your marriage ended, trust me…you’re not alone. Let’s be real: divorce can shake us to our core, leaving us feeling like we’ve lost sight of who we truly are. We spend years filling roles like ‘wife,’ ‘mother,’ or even ‘perfect partner,’ and often forget the badass woman we once were. But here’s the good news: divorce is yo...

Send us Fan Mail In this week’s episode of the Divorce Chapter, I dive deep into the topic of emotional affairs and the ‘silent’ betrayal. While physical affairs often steal the spotlight, 'invisible' emotional betrayal can be just as devastating, if not more so.  I explore how these affairs often start as innocent friendships, slowly evolving into something more significant, ultimately...

Send us Fan Mail Have you ever felt like you’re stuck in a loop after your divorce? Replaying the past over and over again? Wondering why it’s so hard to let go and move forward? In this episode, I get real about the emotional and psychological blocks we face post-divorce—fear of loneliness, guilt, shame, and that never-ending “what if” thinking. I’ve been there, too. I know how hard it can be to...

Send us Fan Mail OK so this week is a bit of a hopefully powerful, but definitely no-holds-barred conversation about reclaiming your strength and exposing male privilege in relationships. I may go ever so slightly off-piste on my soapbox (!) but I genuinely feel that it is important that we talk about this stuff. We talk in the episode about how male privilege impacts not just relationships, but s...

Send us Fan Mail Ever wish you could rewrite the past? Sadly, we can’t turn back time, but we can definitely rewrite our future—and that’s exactly what we’re diving into today.  In this episode, I break down Dr. Ramani Durvasula’s game-changing book, “It’s Not You”. This book is an absolute MUST-read if you’ve ever found yourself tangled up with a narcissist, whether it’s an ex, a parent, or even...

Send us Fan Mail After a divorce, many of us expect the worst of our emotional struggles to be over. But, as I've come to understand through my own journey and conversations with others, the first relationship after a divorce can bring a heartbreak that’s unexpected and uniquely f*cking painful. In this episode, I dive into why this post-divorce heartbreak can feel even more intense than the...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode of "The Divorce Chapter" podcast, I reflect on the challenges of coping with anniversaries after a divorce. As someone who's been through the utter shitshow of a marriage ending, I know first-hand how difficult these days can be, especially in that first year.  Anniversaries, such as your wedding date or other significant milestones shared with your...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I look into the often-overlooked signs of abuse in relationships (after touching on Betrayal Blindness too). Abuse isn't always obvious; it can be subtle, manipulative, and deeply damaging. That’s why I’ve highlighted 15 key indicators that you or someone you know might be in an abusive relationship. 1. Physical Violence 2. Verbal Abuse 3. Emotional Manipulat...