The Reinvention Era

Send us Fan Mail "This isn't the story of the year everything finally worked out. It's the story of the year I stopped waiting for it to" A year ago, I thought I was redesigning my business. I wasn't. I was redesigning the woman leading it. Over the last twelve months I've broken my arm, needed major surgery, battled a post-operative infection, left a job I'd spe...

Send us Fan Mail Why "I'm Becoming Her" Might Be the Most Comfortable Lie You Tell Yourself  On language, money scripts and the identity you're building every time you open your mouth This week's episode came together from about four different places, and I'm not going to pretend it didn't. But it's also all kind of about the same thing: the words we use, th...

Send us Fan Mail There's a version of you who already knows exactly what she wants to do next. She's not waiting for the conditions to be perfect nor waiting for the fear to disappear. She's not waiting for a sign either.  She's just waiting for you to stop asking the wrong part of yourself for bloody permission. This week I'm getting personal, because I think this is one...

Send us Fan Mail A gorgeous human put her hand up at an event a couple of weekends ago, and asked if she was too old to change her career, start a business, and go after what she actually wanted. She was 47 years old. Forty-f*cking-seven. And I watched her ask it with genuine uncertainty on her face, the years of conditioning sitting right there in the room with her, whispering in her ear that she...

Send us Fan Mail Right, so this one started as a thought I had while driving with the roof down, which, for the record, is when literally all my best ideas happen (well, that and the shower!) I'd been thinking about legacy, and how we widely perceive it. Because we talk about legacy like it's something you build and leave behind. Whether it’s the career, or the body of work (or even the...

Send us Fan Mail You know that feeling when you've done absolutely everything right... and yet it still doesn't feel right? Yeah I see you. Well, you're not someone who just "can't have nice things".... You are basically running on a frequency that was built a long time ago, in a version of your life that no longer fits you anymore. And until that changes, you can wor...

Send us Fan Mail You've done it, haven't you? The career. The salary. The title. The financial independence that your grandmother couldn't even have dreamed of. You've built the life that ticks every box that society handed you, and you've done it f*cking brilliantly. So why does it feel like you're living someone else's life? This week's episode is for the...

Send us Fan Mail This episode is where the whole Reinvention Era identity series finally comes together. And honestly? If you’ve spent the last few weeks listening thinking, ‘OK Sare… but how do I ACTUALLY use this in real life?’ THIS is the episode for you. Because this is where we stop talking about identity theory… and start talking about what actually changes when you consciously redesign who...

Send us Fan Mail This episode is THE one. If you listen to nothing else this week, listen to this, because this is the one where everything clicks. Over the last few weeks, here on the Reinvention Era, we’ve gone all in on…. Your Inherited Self; who you were taught to be before you even knew about it. Your Survival Self; who you consequently became to operate and cope…. but also succeed. Your Sove...

Send us Fan Mail You’ve built a life that works on paper, right? You’ve handled all the responsibilities and all the shizzle. You’ve achieved the things.  You’ve become the version of you that people respect, rely upon and basically admire. So explain this. Why does it sometimes feel like you’re slightly disconnected from your own life? In this week’s episode, we go even deeper than the Inherited...

Send us Fan Mail You’re the one who gets sh*t done aren’t you? Whether it’s because you’re the capable one, or the reliable one, or just generally the one that everyone looks at and thinks…’ooooh, she’s got her life together.’ And to be fair… you do, right? So explain this. Why do you feel so f*cking exhausted all the time? Why does it permanently feel like something is slightly off? Why does succ...

Send us Fan Mail Just as an FYI, you don’t have a motivation problem. Or a motivation problem either. And you definitely don’t need another podcast, book, or morning routine to “fix” yourself. What you actually have…Is an identity that was handed to you…  … and you never questioned it. You say, ‘this is just who I am’ But is it? Is it really? Or is it instead: what you were taught what you watched...

Send us Fan Mail There’s this part of reinvention that no one really tells you about OR prepares you for. It’s not the breakdown itself that led to the reinvention…. Or even the rebuild that follows. It’s what happens after … When your life still looks the same on the outside. But inside, something has shifted so deeply, you can’t unfeel it. You know the vibe right? You’re sitting in a conversatio...

Send us Fan Mail This episode is about something that used to really piss me off when people said it to me. ' Take responsibility for your life ' Because when you're hurting like hell, when you've been through trauma, loss, betrayal, burnout or any other big life transitions, the absolute last thing you want to hear is someone telling you to "stop feeling sorry for yoursel...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m sharing something that really landed for me while I was forced to slow down after my arm surgery (which, if you know me, you’ll know doesn’t come naturally!) When I stopped doing , I started seeing . And what I noticed was just how much we all follow the crowd… even when we say we want to stand out. I talk about why our brains are wired for belonging rather th...

Send us Fan Mail Most women think they’re completely failing at change, and f*cking it up altogether. They’re not. They’re just trying to build a new life with an old identity and, in doing so, living on autopilot. In this episode I’m talking about why reinvention feels so bloody hard… especially when you’re a high-performing woman who’s used to being the one who just gets on with it. Because the...

Send us Fan Mail We’ve all been there. You open your wardrobe. It’s full. Rails completely crammed with clothes. Dresses you forgot you owned (maybe even with the label still on it). Jeans in three different “goal weights.” The blazer you bought for the promotion in your last job. The hoodie from the heartbreak season you just wanted to disappear. And yet the thought appears: I’ve got absof*ckingl...

Send us Fan Mail You’ve built a life.  The career. The marriage. The house. The reputation. The identity that everyone recognises you by. From the outside it looks solid AF. Successful. Impressive even. But inside? You’re secretly questioning….. Is this it? In this episode, I’m going all in on one of the most powerful psychological traps that keeps high-performing women stuck way too long after so...

Send us Fan Mail You did everything right, didn't you? You worked hard. You coped with all sorts of sh*t. You carried people. You survived things no one even knows about. On paper? Your life looks solid. Respectable. Successful. But inside? It feels… flat AF. Not unhappy exactly. Just not fully alive either. And the loving truth is, you’re not actually stuck or failing or any other BS. You’re...

Send us Fan Mail In this episode, I’m talking about something most women never actually do. We resign from jobs. We leave relationships. We move house, change careers, reinvent our wardrobes and our routines. But we almost never resign from the identities we built to survive those eras. So we leave the marriage but stay the fixer. We change the job but stay the over-functioner. We start a new chap...

Send us Fan Mail You know when you wake up already braced for the day before you even have time to press snooze? Your brain is switched on before your feet hit the floor. You’re thinking about what needs doing. Who needs you. What might go wrong. You call it strength.  But what if it’s actually control? In this episode of The Reinvention Era, I’m breaking down the hidden cost of living in constant...

Send us Fan Mail Valentine’s Day isn’t actually the problem. Friday the 13th isn’t actually unlucky. And self-love isn’t meant to be outsourced either (whilst I’m on Sare’s Soapbox 🤣) This week’s episode is for the high-achieving woman who’s done everything “right”.... but somehow still feels like she’s been living in the background of her own goddamn life. If Valentine’s Day makes you roll your...

Send us Fan Mail Anyone else think that January felt about 467 days long…  and February still has the freaking audacity to exist?! If you’re a high-achieving, capable woman who’s still getting everything done (but subtly feels flatter, duller, or slightly disconnected from herself anyway) this episode is for YOU. This isn’t a “light a candle and wait it out” conversation. And it’s definitely not a...

Send us Fan Mail So many women are exceptional at what they do… and yet still feel invisible. In this episode, I walk through the quiet, deeply ingrained pattern many high-capacity women live in; which is being competent, capable AF, relied upon… AND still unseen. This isn’t a confidence conversation. It’s an identity conversation. If you’ve ever felt like: You’re respected, but overlooked You’re...

Send us Fan Mail Most high-achieving women don’t lack confidence. Not at all.  They purely lack the right version of themselves in charge. That’s it. If you’ve ever found yourself thinking: “I know I’m capable… so why the hell do I doubt myself?” “Why do I feel confident in some rooms but invisible in others?” “Why does ‘just be yourself’ suddenly feel like terrible advice?” This episode is for yo...