The Queer Quest Podcast | Exploring Queer Healing and Transformation

In this weeks episode Christiano shares an interview with a fellow coach on emotional regulation. Regulating our emotions is something difficult for many gay men. Through our process of growing up gay we have learnt to bottle things up instead of actually processing the emotions. This is a much needed conversation so we can all learn to better regulate our emotions and have a more fulfilling life....

In this weeks episode Christiano jumps in and shares both some mindset tips and practical tips that gay men can use when jumping into the world of dating within the gay world. Take a listen and feel free to ask any questions if you need some extra help.

In this week's episode Christiano shares a story from the last 5 years of his life where he went from someone who was lonely, anxious, and partying every weekend in hopes of finding love to someone who went on a deep journey of self discovery in order to not only find long lasting love himself but be able to show gay men how to do it also in a fraction of the time. There are some great stories her...

In this weeks episode Christiano talks all about trauma bonding between a victim and an abuser. You have been in a toxic relationship in the past and maybe you've been in multiple ones. Or you might have been brought up with parents who either were abusive. Understanding what trauma bonding is and how it works is a great way to be able to learn more about yourself and others. It is also a great wa...

WE HAVE MADE IT TO EPISODE 50 WOOHOO As this is a special milestone for Christiano, he wanted to share something that all gay men (no matter where they are in their journey) can get value from. Christiano is sharing 15 life lessons that are specific to gay men and these are from all his own experience but from the experience he has taken from working with 100's of gay men over the years. Take a li...

In this weeks episode Christiano jumps in and talks about how you can incorporate self care into your relationship and all the benefits it can have. Apart from all the benefits you can have as an individual, there are many ways it can improve the health of your relationship with your partner and increase your intimacy. Take a listen and feel free to share your comments or questions below or keep t...

In this weeks episode Christiano discusses how gay relationships differ to straight relationships. It is no secret that there are some major and minor differences between gay and straight relationships and there are also some similarities. Christiano breaks down all the major topics such as money, work, living together, household chores, sex, kids, parenting, family, fun, stimuli, social life, tra...

In this weeks episode of the podcast Christiano decides to do something a little different to the usual stuff he talks about on here. Serena Williams is an icon, a legend, an inspiration, the GOAT, an advocate, and a wonderful human being. Christiano has followed tennis since the start of her career and Serena Williams has always been his favourite player. 23 grand slam singles titles, 16 grand sl...

In this weeks episode Christiano shares an epic part of his recent Gay Men's Relationship Masterclass where he discusses the main reasons why gay men fail at finding love. There are many reasons why some gay men are failing at finding healthy love and building relationships that last. Throughout the ups and downs in life it starts with taking a long look at where we go wrong so we can work out how...

In this week's episode Christiano goes deep into toxic relationships and answers all the following questions. What is a toxic relationship? How do I know I am in a toxic relationship? Can I fix a toxic relationship? How do I end a toxic relationship? How do I heal from a toxic relationships? How do I stop getting into toxic relationships? Have a listen to the episode and feel free to share your co...

In this weeks episode Christiano jumps into the topic of friendship and sex within the gay community. Christiano shares his experiences of where the lines of friendship were blurred when sex was involved and how it affected the friendships. Apparently 85% of gay relationships start from being friends first. It can be hard to determine whether there is something more between friends and what to do...

In this weeks episode Christiano talks about the masculine & feminine energy and how it plays out in gay relationships. The old theory of masculine & feminine energy was men were masculine and females were feminine. We know that in this day and age that this theory is outdated. The more realistic view of masculine and feminine energy is that we all have both masculine and feminine energy w...

In this weeks episode Christiano jumps into a topic that most people have experienced but also don't like to talk about. That topic is falling in love with someone who just doesn't love you back. It can be hard, it can be painful, and it can even be traumatising. It can even leave you broken hearted, closed off, lonely, and depressed. If we don't take the time to heal and learn from this experienc...

In this weeks episode, Christiano jumps into one of his favourite topics Healthy Boundaries. From working with 100's of gay men over the years some of the biggest problems Christiano sees from gay men looking for long lasting love relates to setting and enforcing healthy boundaries. Some of us (including Christiano) have been taught somewhere in the past that boundaries will turn people off and we...

In this week's episode Christiano goes deep on the topic of Perfectionism and how it's affecting gay men in having long lasting relationships. Perfectionism is common in the gay community due to the nature of us believing on a deep level that in order for us to have love and be accepted that we needed to be perfect. This notion has led us to striving to be perfect and for people we date to be perf...

In this week's episode Christiano unveils his brand new upgraded Love Attraction Signature System that he uses for his gay male clients who are looking for love and wanting to attract a healthy, happy, passionate, and loving relationship. Self-Love - Compassion, Clarity, Connection Skills - Confidence, Communication, Courage Strength - Commitment, Control, Congruency Fulfillment, Freedom, Fiercene...

In this weeks episode Christiano shares some secrets that were part of his Gay Men's Relationship Mastery Workshop that he held last weekend. There are many common misconceptions that gay men face when dating and looking for a relationship. These misconceptions hold us back from truly finding love and when we can realise this, we can then do the work to most past them. From here we are able to the...

In this weeks episode Christiano disccuses one of his favourite topics Love Languages.  Understanding the 5 love languages has helped him enhance all of his relationships, especially the one with his partner. The 5 Love Languages are: 1. Words Of Affirmation 2. Physical Touch 3. Receiving Gifts 4. Quality Time 5. Acts Of Service Christiano discusses these in great detail and also how knowing...

In this week's episode Christiano talks about a topic that not many people like to think about and that is being lonely. Are you a gay man and are constantly feeling lonely? Do you struggle to connect to people? Have you found it hard to find a partner? This week we go deep into understanding how common this is within the gay community and the reasons why. The more understanding you have with an i...

In this weeks episode Christiano interviews one of his amazing clients Rob Overall. Rob has been a coaching client for 6 months consistently and they discuss his journey of healing, growth, and finding love. It's been a beautiful journey and Rob described his experience of finding love for himself which then led to him finding a healthy, passionate, and loving relationship in his own life. If you...

In this week's episode Christiano discussed the evolution of his coaching business. Christiano has been coaching for over 17 years and has run his own business for the last 2 years. He has always been serving gay men and it has been an evolution. From identity and uniqueness to confidence and mindset to total transformations to now love and relationships. If you aren't evolving then you aren't lis...

In this weeks episode Christiano goes deep into the age old question - Who Am I? Your sense of self refers to your perception of the collection of characteristics that define you. Our identity is shaped up of our personality traits, abilities, likes and dislikes, our belief system or moral code, and the things that motivate us — these all contribute to self-image or your unique identity as a perso...

In this week's episode Christiano discusses what really being a leader is all about. People often think that leadership is reserved for business or career when in fact it has some fundamental principles that can truly help people across all areas. When you look at becoming a leader of your life you have to look at yourself hollistially and as multi-faceted. When we can break down ourselves into di...

In this week's episode Christiano is joined by a good friend and Love Coach Emmy Hernandez and they have an open and engaging conversation about authentic relationships. They get into the discussion about what authentic relationships are and how you can cultivate them in your life. Relationship problems are the number one cause of stress in the world and people are always looking for better relati...

In this week's episode, Christiano is joined by his good friend and fellow coach Caitlin Winch to talk about confidence in your career or business. Christiano and Caitlin share there own journeys of becoming a coach and how they transitioned from a successful career in the corporate world into a more fulfilling business in coaching. It often looks easy from the outside, but in reality there is so...