The Problem Was Me

Addiction: Problem, the Solution, and How to Work the Solution | The Problem Was Me with Tom Gagliano: Break the cycle of negative thinking leading to addiction, infidelity, & self-sabotage. The Super Bowl is one of the most exciting events of the year in our country. Unfortunately, many lives will be destroyed by gambling excessive amounts of money and this will have devastating consequences. A g...

The Super Bowl is one of the most exciting events of the year in our country. Unfortunately, many lives will be destroyed by gambling excessive amounts of money and this will have devastating consequences. A gambling addiction, or any addiction, is so powerful that the addict forgets the pain it causes themselves, and those they love. The addiction feels like a form of oxygen to the addict where t...

We will discuss the ways to create healthy boundaries in our lives, in the work place, as well as with our significant other, friends, parents, and children. We will discuss why it is importnat to understand the difference between selfishness and self-care when setting boundaries. This difference can be confusing if you come from a childhood that didn't model healthy boundaries between the caregiv...

We will discuss the ways to create healthy boundaries in our lives, in the work place, as well as with our significant other, friends, parents, and children. We will discuss why it is importnat to understand the difference between selfishness and self-care when setting boundaries. This difference can be confusing if you come from a childhood that didn't model healthy boundaries between the caregiv...

"Is Your Subconscious Fear Causing You To Fail, Even Before You Try?" It happens this time every year. Many of us start the New Year with willingness, but seem to lose the zest within a few weeks or months. We set resolutions yet very few see them through, only 8 percent. Will this be yet another year where you make and then break your Resolutions? The truth is, if you make a New Year's Resolution...

"Is Your Subconscious Fear Causing You To Fail, Even Before You Try?" It happens this time every year.  Many of us start the New Year with willingness, but seem to lose the zest within a few weeks or months. We set resolutions yet very few see them through, only 8 percent. Will this be yet another year where you make and then break your Resolutions?  The truth is, if you make a New Year's Resoluti...

What are the characteristics of a narcissist? How does the narcissist destroy their partner's self-worth without them knowing it. What personalities do the narcissist attract? How do narcissist eventually separate their partner from family and friends. What is gas lighting? How and why does a narcissists gaslight those closest to them? Why do they do this to those they love. What is the bill the p...

What are the characteristics of a narcissist? How does the narcissist destroy their partner's self-worth without them knowing it. What personalities do the narcissist attract? How do narcissist eventually separate their partner from family and friends. What is gas lighting? How and why does a narcissists gaslight those closest to them? Why do they do this to those they love. What is the bill the p...

The holidays are a great time of year for many of us but the holidays can create a great deal of stress as well. Who did you want to throw the turkey at this Thanksgiving. Let's discuss the holidays and the unneeded stress we put upon ourselves when we go back to our family of origin. We play roles in our adult life that were created by the messages we received in childhood. What inner voice is co...

The holidays are a great time of year for many of us but the holidays can create a great deal of stress as well. Who did you want to throw the turkey at this Thanksgiving. Let's discuss the holidays and the unneeded stress we put upon ourselves when we go back to our family of origin. We play roles in our adult life that were created by the messages we received in childhood. What inner voice is co...

Breakups can be one of the most painful experiences in our lives. After a breakup, many times we go through the grieving stages of denial, anger, sadness, and finally acceptance. It's not healthy to jump into the next relationship until we have time to heal and to take inventory of our last relationship in order to avoid making the same mistakes. Take this opportunity to self-reflect and learn les...

Today's youth have received confusing messages, which has led to distorted values and cultivated an anxiety-ridden society. They have gone thru a Covid, a virus that shut our country down. Multiple wars going on in other countries and now hurricanes of unbelievable magnitudes. Many of us have learned to escape with social media. What are the benefits and the cost associated with this. Social media...

Join me this Tuesday October first on Transformational talk radio at 10 Pacicific 1 Eastern discussing the ways to fix a broken relationship. Many times relationships are destined to fail due to fears of intimacy, poor communication, and lack of healthy boundaries, which are all created by childhood messages and are acted out in adulthood. If there is betrayal in a relationship, it takes courage,...

Unfortunately, many men and even women are so afraid of intimacy they sabotage their own happiness by subconsciously pushing their partner away. This approach begins with strengthening the most important relationship we have, the one we have with ourselves. We are the common denominator in all our relationships. The keys to healing and growth is building self- awareness so we can choose healthier...

Unfortunately, many men and even women are so afraid of intimacy they sabotage their own happiness by subconsciously pushing their partner away. This approach begins with strengthening the most important relationship we have, the one we have with ourselves. We are the common denominator in all our relationships. The keys to healing and growth is building self- awareness so we can choose healthier...

Addiction and Intimacy: The Missing Link | The Problem Was Me with Tom Gagliano: Break the cycle of negative thinking leading to addiction, infidelity, & self-sabotage   90% of addicts begin their addiction before the age of. This presentation will reaffirm that without healthy emotional connection in childhood, the individual will trust addiction as their coping mechanism instead of trusting peop...

90% of addicts begin their addiction before the age of. This presentation will reaffirm that without healthy emotional connection in childhood, the individual will trust addiction as their coping mechanism instead of trusting people. Watch https://www.transformationtalkradio.com/watch.html  

In this podcast we will discuss seven key parenting skills designed to enhance self- awareness. Strengthening self- awareness will help bring the best of ourselves to parenting to help raise healthy, strong, confident children and grand children. Understanding which area of our parenting skills is strong and which areas need attention. The listener will be given poll questions to rate himself or h...

This podcast will discuss the ways childhood messages impact every aspect of our lives, to the intimacy we have or don't have, our parenting skills, the careers we choose, even the roles we are set up to play in adulthood. Verbal and non verbal messages create the people pleaser role, the caretaker role, the invisible role, the defiant role, the perfectionist role, as well as the addictive role. A...

Join Tom as he is interviewed by Robb Thompson of Lifestyle 360 Podcast. Tom has worn many hats throughout his career. As a young man, he soon became a successful entrepreneur with a proven track record in small business ventures in the greater New York area. Tom has also been a high profile leader in addiction and self-help therapy. He helped develop unique methods and procedures which have helpe...

This podcast is not about criticizing anyone's parents. Rather its important to build enough awareness to know which messages we received in our childhood that have helped us in our lives and recognize which messages need to be challenged in order to enhance our happiness. By building self- awareness we can then look at those upswept corners of our lives through clearer lenses. This, in turn, will...

The podcast will discuss the similarities and differences between sex addiction and other addictions. Through out all of my podcast, childhood messages will be discussed as the key ingredient towards healthy adulthood. In addiction, neurons that are fused together in childhood will stay together in adulthood, and acted out with various addictions. The podcast will explain the steps needed for the...

We are not responsible for our childhood wounds but we are responsible to heal them or at least manage them if we are to find happiness in  our lives. The release of the documentary, Leaving Neverland , has triggered an important conversation regarding sexual abuse. Including Oprah Winfrey stating, "Stop staring into the sun and do what is necessary to heal our children and heal ourselves." This d...

This podcast explains what a narcissist is and will answer the following questions. How is a narcissist different from someone with a lot of self-confidence? What is gas lighting and how and why does a narcissist gaslight those closest to them? Why do they do this to those they love?  Do they really love them or is it all about manipulation? How does a codependent partner work well for a narcissis...

In this podcast we will discuss the ways to get through a painful divorce or breakup. When should you start to date again? What does the grieving period feel like when you end a relationship? What did you learn from a failed relationship if you want your new one to last?  Remember, if we don't look at ourselves honestly we will find the same personality traits we chose before. The definition of in...