The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

Patrick Lencioni's book, The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, helps you understand what makes for ineffective and effective teams. This episode tells you what you can do about it. Show Notes: The Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick Lencioni Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails.

We use psychological avoidance to manage anxiety, yet it actually makes things worse. Here's how to recognize it and address it. Show Notes: Avoidance, not anxiety, may be sabotaging your life by Luana Marques Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails.

Taking responsibility for self means not making assumptions about others are thinking. Here's what that looks like and how to do things differently. Show Notes: How Anxiety Distorts Your To-Do List by Kathleen Smith Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails.

Self-differentiation is complicated. My own experience with my mother illustrates this. Show Notes: Hiroshima survivor tells her story as G7 world leaders meet in the Japanese city - CBS News

Knowing the characteristics of a chronically anxious system, as well as the principles of leadership through self-differentiation makes all the difference. Show Notes: ⁠A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix⁠ by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠⁠Two for Tuesday⁠⁠  emails.

Edwin Friedman's last book, A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix , challenges us to lead differently. Here's how. Show Notes: A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails.

I'm not a fan of New Year's resolutions. I AM a fan of getting better each year. Here's why and what has helped me. Show Notes: Get a FREE copy of One New Habit, One Big Goal: Change Your Life in 10 Weeks. Get information and register for the FREE Friedman's Failure of Nerve Book Study . Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tu...

Overfunctioning and Underfunctioning go hand in hand. Here's what that looks like, as well as how you can find the sweet spot that creates healthy emotional space. Show Notes: Find out about Friedman's Failure of Nerve , a free course for non-anxious leaders. There will be no episode on Christmas Day. The next episode will drop on January 1, 2024. Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxiou...

Leadership and social norms are the two most important factors in organizational culture. Here's what you can do to improve yours. Show Notes: How to Fix a Toxic Culture (mit.edu) Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails.

Guilt is not necessarily a bad thing. Knowing when it is or isn't can help you better self-differentiate. Show Notes: About Guilt - Emotional Intelligence for Life (ei-forlife.com) by Miriam Bross Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails.

Seventy-six percent of people nearing the end of their lives say their biggest regret was living their lives according to other people and their expectations. This is surrounding togetherness pressure. Here’s what you can do about it. Show Notes: My apologies, as there are two spots in the episode where one channel drops out briefly. The experience of regret: What, when, and why  by Thomas Gilovic...

Self-differentiation doesn’t happen automatically. It’s even harder during the holidays when surrounding togetherness pressure can be high. This episode covers a four-step process that can help you remain a non-anxious presence when you express what you believe, feel, want and need. Show Notes: Alison Cook, Ph. D. Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ...

You can't make another person responsible. If you're trying, you're likely doing it wrong. Here's why and how you can do better. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue  by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails.

The family systems concept of symmetry can help you observe and even predict patterns of functioning in a relationship system. It can also point toward where to find answers about system anxiety. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails...

Relationship systems get stuck when surrounding togetherness pressure makes it difficult for people to disagree. Here's what that looks like and how non-anxious leaders can create a culture of healthy disagreement. Show Notes: Emotionally Intelligent People Use a Brilliant 2-Word Phrase to Speak Up and Get Results by Justin Bariso Solomon Asch Conformity Line Experiment Study by Saul Mcleod, P...

What do you do when you respond to another in ways that are hurtful? This episode shows that you can not only repair the relationship, you can make it better. Show Notes: Becky Kennedy: The single most important parenting strategy | TED Talk Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails.

Self-differentiation means that you are able to manage your own anxiety without involving others. This episode unpacks what this does (and doesn't) look like. Show Notes: Being the Captain of Your Own Ship by Kathleen Smith Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails.

Nobody lives in a vacuum. Surrounding togetherness pressure influences people in both negative and positive ways. Here’s how you, as a leader, can use it to make things better. Show Notes: The Lazy Way To An Awesome Life  by Eric Barker Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails.

Leadership through self-differentiation is counterintuitive. Here are five evidence-based reasons why it’s effective. Show Notes: 5 insights from behavioral science that can make you better at influencing others  from Fast Company Thinking, Fast and Slow  by Daniel Kahneman Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails.

A paradox in leadership is that we think we can control more than we actually can. This leads to micromanaging, which is more damaging than helpful. This episode shows how leadership through self-differentiation is different and more effective. Show Notes: How to Solve the Leadership Paradox | Inc.com by David Finkel Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekl...

The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. Show Notes: Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems Thinking in Psychiatry and the Sciences. 13, 2, 2018  by D...

The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. Show Notes: Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems Thinking in Psychiatry and the Sciences. 13, 2, 2018 by Da...

Your self-talk is important. It can either hold you back or move you forward. Self-differentiation can increase when you change these five phrases. Show Notes: A Neuroscientist Explains Why These 5 Phrases Are Holding You Back and What to Say Instead | Inc.com by Minda Zetlin Check out the FREE  Family Systems 101 Course . Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my...

Whether it's raising kids or leading an organization, a non-anxious leader is interdependent, not independent. This episode covers why that matters and how you can do better. Show Notes: Forget independence. Teach your kids this instead. By Jennifer Breheny Wallace Check out the FREE Family Systems 101 Course . Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly ...

There is a sweet spot in self-differentiation between defining self and staying emotionally connected. When we go astray, we end up trying to change others or letting others change us. This episode shows you how you can do better. Show Notes: The Space Between Changing Each Other by Kathleen Smith Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠...