The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

Margaret Marcuson is an ordained minister, author, coach and longtime family practitioner. In this episode she discusses how to manage triangles and why productivity is overrated. Show Notes: Home Page – Margaret Marcuson Sustainable Ministry: How to Lead (and When to Nap) * by Margaret J. Marcuson Leaders Who Last: Sustaining Yourself and Your Ministry*  by Margaret J. Marcuson Money and Your Min...

Margaret Marcuson is an ordained minister, author, coach and longtime family practitioner. In this episode she shares the difference between leadership and administration, as well as what to do if you are an overfunctioner. Show Notes: Home Page – Margaret Marcuson Sustainable Ministry: How to Lead (and When to Nap) * by Margaret J. Marcuson Leaders Who Last: Sustaining Yourself and Your Ministry*...

Margaret Marcuson is an ordained minister, author, coach and longtime family practitioner. In this episode she discusses her three-part definition of self-differentiation and shares a great technique for lowering anxiety in meetings. Show Notes: Home Page – Margaret Marcuson Sustainable Ministry: How to Lead (and When to Nap) * by Margaret J. Marcuson Leaders Who Last: Sustaining Yourself and Your...

Margaret Marcuson is an ordained minister, author, coach and longtime family practitioner. In this episode she shares how she first got into family systems theory and what she learned when studying with Edwin Friedman. Show Notes: Home Page - Margaret Marcuson Sustainable Ministry: How to Lead (and When to Nap) * by Margaret J. Marcuson Leaders Who Last: Sustaining Yourself and Your Ministry* by M...

Self-definition is essential to leadership through self-differentiation. This episode unpacks the challenges and benefits. Show Notes: Resisting Definition — Center for Action and Contemplation by Cassidy Hall. Check out The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Family Systems Coach. Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

The Family Systems Concept of Symmetry will help you understand the unseen emotional process that increases anxiety and makes change difficult. This episode explains how you can recognize it and what you can do about it to lead as a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman* Check out  The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Famil...

The Family Systems Concept of Symmetry will help you understand the unseen emotional process that increases anxiety and makes change difficult. This episode explains it in understandable terms. Show Notes: Generation to Generation: Family Process in Church and Synagogue by Edwin Friedman* Check out The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Family Systems Coach. Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Su...

If you want to lead through self-differentiation, you need to understand the difference between values and ideology. This episode covers that and what to do with it. Show Notes: The Best Decision-Makers Are Value-Driven But Not Ideologically Committed - Admired Leadership Check out The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Family Systems Coach. Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my wee...

Leading as a non-anxious presence is hard. This episode shows how you can increase your capacity in this and all aspects of your life. Show Notes: Don’t Get Too Comfortable. Your Quality of Life Depends On It by Moshe Bar Check out The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Family Systems Coach. Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Self-distancing is a way to better self-differentiate in anxious situations. This episode explains what that is and how to do it. Show Notes: Distanced self-talk changes how people conceptualize the self by Izzy Gainsburg and Ethan Cross Check out The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Family Systems Coach. Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsl...

Relationship systems, like people, only have so much energy. This episode will help you understand how this works and what you can do about it. Show Notes: Why Groups Choose What Doesn't Work - by Kathleen Smith Check out The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Family Systems Coach. Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

When we make our well-being dependent on someone else’s functioning we set up a conflict of wills. “Soaring” from Friedman’s Fables can help us understand why. Show Notes: Friedman’s Fables Check out The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Family Systems Coach. Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

This episode looks at the pseudo-self vs. the basic self, as well as the three-legged stool of self-differentiation. Show Notes: Differentiation of Self: To Be or Not to Be? A Presentation by Mindy S. Reynolds Check out The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Family Systems Coach. Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

This look at self-differentiation comes from the Bowen school of family systems theory. I give my take on how it can help you grow as a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Differentiation of Self: To Be or Not to Be? A Presentation by Mindy S. Reynolds Check out The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Family Systems Coach. Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠...

Trust is a key factor in effective leadership. This episode shows how leadership through self-differentiation makes this possible. Show Notes: 7 common qualities of credible people  by Gwen Moran The SPEED of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything  by Stephen M.R. Covey Check out The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Family Systems Coach. Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my...

Murray Bowen and Michael Kerr wrote that when anxiety rises, relationship systems automatically find ways to "bind" the anxiety. This episode covers what that looks like and what you can do about it. Show Notes: ⁠Anxiety Bound⁠ by Kelly Matthews-Pluta Check out The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Family Systems Coach. Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two f...

Murray Bowen described open and closed relationship systems. This episode explains the differences and how it applies to leadership. Show Notes: An Open-and-Shut Case? by Rev. Jennifer Long Check out The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Family Systems Coach. Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Complaining is not helpful to you or those you lead. Here's how to stop. Show Notes: The Happy Way to Drop Your Grievances by Arthur C. Brooks Check out The Non-Anxious Life , a FREE AI Family Systems Coach. Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Moral foundations theory proposes that human moral judgment is built on a small set of innate psychological intuitions that different cultures and individuals prioritize in distinct ways. This episode applies it to political polarization and shows how a non-anxious presence can make a difference. Show Notes: Moral Foundations Theory | moralfoundations.org Moral foundations theory – Wikipedia Jonat...

Moral foundations theory proposes that human moral judgment is built on a small set of innate psychological intuitions that different cultures and individuals prioritize in distinct ways. This explains these foundations from a family systems perspective. Show Notes: Moral Foundations Theory | moralfoundations.org Moral foundations theory - Wikipedia Jonathan Haidt: The moral roots of liberals and...

When relationship systems are stressed they get anxious. Here's what that looks like and what you can do as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: When the Family Tightens Up - by Kathleen Smith Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Grandparents often interfere with the parenting by their own adult children. Understanding these five mistakes from a family systems perspective can help you grow as a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: 5 common mistakes grandparents make, according to a pediatrician by Perri Klass, MD Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Knowing the characteristics of a chronically anxious system, as well as the principles of leadership through self-differentiation makes all the difference. Show Notes: ⁠A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix⁠ by Edwin Friedman Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Edwin Friedman's last book, A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix , challenges us to lead differently. Here's how. Show Notes: A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix by Edwin Friedman Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails.

Whether you're a parent, pastor or president, favoritism is unhealthy. Here's the research behind it and four things you can do to interrupt the pattern. Show Notes: Do Parents Have Favorite Children? Of Course They Do. - The New York Times Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.