The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

Self-differentiated leaders take responsibility for themselves (and no one else). This will increase self-discipline in a way that helps you in all aspects of life. Here are three strategies to help you do this. Show Notes: Why this type of self-discipline will make you a better leader  by Jody Michael Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email news...

Edge cases don't happen often, but they are predictable. This episode unpacks what that looks like and offers five steps to help you grow as a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Why the Best Communicators Prepare for the Edge Cases - Matt Norman Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

This episode covers a systematic way to improve your life on a regular basis. Show Notes: Get a free copy of One New Habit, One Big Goal: Change Your Life in 10 Weeks Episode 311: The Year End Review (with a Family Systems Take - Rebroadcast) Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Self-differentiation is acting in accordance with your goals and values, especially in anxious moments. This episode shows you how, as well as what to do when you don’t. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety  If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesd...

The emotional intensity that comes from being super-serious can turn a challenge into a problem. Likewise, when we react automatically to the anxiety of others, it can make a bad situation worse. This episode digs into why this is the case and what you can do about it. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety  If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Fam...

Recognizing emotional process will not only help you avoid getting stuck, it will enable you to persist through the inevitable sabotage that comes when you are leading change. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety  If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for...

The key to effective leadership is the ability to remain a non-anxious presence. Understanding triangles, as well as how to manage them, makes this easier. Show Notes: Anxious Church, Anxious People: How to Lead Change in an Age of Anxiety  If You Met My Family, You’d Understand: A Family Systems Primer Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email new...

Understanding what Executive Coach Muriel M. Wilkins calls "Blockers" can help you get unstuck in your family, congregation and organization. This episode covers the final four and how to unblock them. Show Notes: ⁠The Hidden Beliefs That Hold Leaders Back⁠ by Muriel M. Wilkins ⁠Become a Patron⁠ for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠⁠Two for Tuesday⁠⁠  email newsletter.

Understanding what Executive Coach Muriel M. Wilkins calls "Blockers" can help you get unstuck in your family, congregation and organization. Here's what they are and how to unblock them. Show Notes: The Hidden Beliefs That Hold Leaders Back by Muriel M. Wilkins Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Child focus or the Family Projection Process is one of Murray Bowen's eight concepts of Family Systems Theory. Here are five research backed insights that can help you as a parent and/or a leader. Show Notes: Child Focus and the Family Unit: A Comparison of Families with Higher and Lower Child Symptomology by Phillip Klever Family Projection Process — The Bowen Center for the Study of the Fami...

The political, cultural and theological divisions continue to widen. A non-anxious leader understands why AND how to respond. Show Notes: The Center for Family Process Only My Opinion Counts: Myside Bias  by Jamie Hale, M.S. The Bias That Divides Us: The Science and Politics of Myside Thinking  by Keith E. Stanovich Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesda...

Phillip Klever studied the impact of intergenerational emotional connection on families of origin. Here's what he found and what it means to you. Show Notes: Cutoff: The challenge of the parent/child relationship by John Bell, MDiv. Extended Family Relationships: A Comparison of High and Low Symptom Families by Phillip Klever Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠...

When others anxiously provoke you, one strategy is "don't argue, don't agree." This episode explains "Gray Rocking" and how it can work for you. Show Notes: ‘Gray rocking’ is a way to deal with difficult people. Here’s how it works. - The Washington Post Gray Rocking (Definition + Examples) - Practical Psychology Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to m...

This episode explores what "Fogging" is and how you can use it in anxious situations. Show Notes: When I Say No, I Feel Guilty by Manuel J. Smith The Fogging Technique - Assertiveness Skills Articles Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

This episode continues with an explanation of Positive Intelligence and covers the three strategies to increase your PQ so you can be a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential AND HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOURS  by Shirzad Chamine Take the Saboteur Assessment | Positive Intelligence Become a Patron for as little as $5/m...

Positive Intelligence is a practical approach to help you be your best through self-regulation and self-differentiation. This two-part series explains what it is and how it can help you. Show Notes: Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential AND HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOURS by Shirzad Chamine Take the Saboteur Assessment | Positive Intelligence Become a...

Observing the patterns in a system, not just the behavior of individuals, can help you to better self-differentiate. Here's how. Show Notes: When the Family Tightens Up - by Kathleen Smith Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Self-differentiation means that you are able to manage your own anxiety without involving others. This episode unpacks what this does (and doesn't) look like. Show Notes: Being the Captain of Your Own Ship by Kathleen Smith Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  emails.

Courage is the strength to act in the face of fear, uncertainty, or adversity. This episode covers the final four types of everyday courage and how they relate to self-differentiation. Show Notes: 6 Ways to Practice Everyday Courage  by Alex Budak Become a Patron  for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Courage is the strength to act in the face of fear, uncertainty, or adversity. This episode covers the first two types of everyday courage and how they relate to self-differentiation. Show Notes: 6 Ways to Practice Everyday Courage by Alex Budak Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Understanding force field analysis, design thinking and leadership through self-differentiation will help you reduce resistance to change. This episode shows how. Show Notes: Kurt Lewin - Wikipedia Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. Show Notes: Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems Thinking in Psychiatry and the Sciences. 13, 2, 2018  by D...

The functioning of any relationship system is dependent on the level of self-differentiation among its members. In this two-part episode, I unpack a schema developed by Daniel V. Papero of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. Show Notes: Developing a systems model for family assessment. Family Systems: A Journal of Natural Systems Thinking in Psychiatry and the Sciences. 13, 2, 2018 by Da...

According to Edwin Friedman, one of the characteristics of a chronically anxious society is the desire to seek safety instead of adventure. Non-anxious leaders seek adventure and learn to love it. Here’s how. Show Notes: The Light We Carry: Overcoming in Uncertain Times  by Michelle Obama A Failure of Nerve, Revised Edition: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix  by Edwin Friedman Become a Patron...

Understanding emotional process helps you to see how people deal with uncertainty and anxiety. This enables you to be less anxious and judgmental, as well as more compassionate. This episode shows you how. Show Notes: The Circle of Why  by Kathleen Smith Become a Patron for as little as $5/month. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.