The Non-Anxious Leader Podcast

Dr. Kathleen Smith is a therapist, author and faculty member at the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. In this episode, we discuss the importance of mini-steps, the nature of doing your own work, why connection matters in leadership and the anxiety of progress. Show Notes: ⁠Everything Isn’t Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down⁠ ⁠True To You: A T...

Dr. Kathleen Smith is a therapist, author and faculty member at the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. In this episode, we discuss managing anxiety, embracing discomfort and how overfunctioning and underfunctioning are related. Show Notes: Everything Isn’t Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down True To You: A Therapist’s Guide to Stop Pleasing Oth...

Dr. Kathleen Smith is a therapist, author and faculty member at the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family. In this episode, she shares how she got into Bowen Theory, as well as suggestions for how people can do their own family of origin work. Show Notes: Everything Isn’t Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down True To You: A Therapist’s Guide to Stop...

Robert Kegan's five stages of adult development are analogous to the process of self-differentiation. Here's my take. Show Notes: Adult Development Theory: How Can Leaders Grow As Adults? Part 1 – Context Professionals How To Be an Adult: The 5 Stages of Adult Development (sourcesofinsight.com) Podcast - The Non-Anxious Leader (thenonanxiousleader.com) Read the Full Transcript on The Non-A...

Understanding the difference between worry, stress, anxiety and excitement can help leaders remain a non-anxious presence in the most challenging moments. Show Notes: The Difference Between Worry, Stress and Anxiety  by Emma Pattee A Bundle of Nerves  – Choiceology Podcast with Katy Milkman Get Excited: Reappraising Pre-Performance Anxiety as Excitement  by Alison Wood Brooks Subscribe to my weekl...

This episode continues with an explanation of Positive Intelligence and covers the three strategies to increase your PQ so you can be a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential AND HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOURS  by Shirzad Chamine Take the Saboteur Assessment | Positive Intelligence Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tues...

Positive Intelligence is a practical approach to help you be your best through self-regulation and self-differentiation. This two-part series explains what it is and how it can help you. Show Notes: Positive Intelligence: Why Only 20% of Teams and Individuals Achieve Their True Potential AND HOW YOU CAN ACHIEVE YOURS by Shirzad Chamine Take the Saboteur Assessment | Positive Intelligence Read the...

It's getting harder and harder for us to work together across differences. Here's a family systems take on why, as well as what you can do about it. Show Notes: Can We Just Coexist? by Dennis Sanders Future Christian Podcast Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

The Eightfold Path is a core set of Zen Principles that can help you grow as a non-anxious presence. Show Notes: What is the Eightfold Path? | Zen-Buddhism.net Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Self-differentiation has a certain "Zen-ness" to it that I think is worth exploring. Here is my take. Show Notes: Seeing People as They Are - by Kathleen Smith (substack.com) What do Zen Buddhists Believe? (zen-buddhism.net) Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Leadership through self-differentiation is counter-intuitive. Here are five things that well-intentioned leaders do, that non-anxious leaders do not. Show Notes: 5 Well-Intentioned Behaviors That Can Hurt Your Team by Nihar Chhaya Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Self-management, self-awareness, social awareness and relationship management are all aspects of emotional intelligence that can help you be a non-anxious presence. Here’s how. Show Notes: Improving Emotional Intelligence (EQ) Emotional Intelligence Toolkit Quick Stress Relief Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Emotional intelligence and self-differentiation go hand-in-hand. This episode explains how it relates to family systems theory. Show Notes: EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: AN OVERVIEW  Dr. Manoranjan Tripathy Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Leading change inevitably involves dealing with resistance. Non-anxious leaders create healthy emotional space for difficult conversations. Here’s how. Show Notes: Calling People Forward Instead of Out: Ten Essential Steps  by Justin Michael Williams and Shelly Tygielski How We Ended Racism: Realizing a New Possibility in One Generation by Justin Michael Williams and Shelly Tygielski Episode 264:...

Leading change inevitably involves dealing with resistance. Non-anxious leaders create healthy emotional space for difficult conversations. Here's how. Show Notes: Calling People Forward Instead of Out: Ten Essential Steps by Justin Michael Williams and Shelly Tygielski Find out more about the  FREE Jenny Brown Book Study . How to be a non anxious person in this political season w/Jack Shitama...

Daniel Goleman is known for his Emotional Intelligence work. He described six leadership styles and when to use them. This episode interprets them from a family systems perspective. Show Notes: Leadership That Gets Results by Daniel Goleman 6 Common Leadership Styles — and How to Decide Which to Use Whe n by Rebecca Knight Find out more about the FREE Jenny Brown Book Study . Subscribe to my weekl...

The polarized presidential election is a major source of anxiety this year. Here's how you can buck the trend. Show Notes: How to survive another Trump-Biden election by Amanda Ripley Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Non-anxious leaders know how to take a healthy stand with those who make them anxious. Understanding non-violent communication can help. Show Notes: Cup of Empathy - Marianne van Dijk Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Emotional intelligence and self-differentiation go hand-in-hand. Here are six ways EQ can help you be a non-anxious leader. Show Notes: 6 Super Effective Ways to Show Your Emotional Intelligence  at Work by Marcel Schwantes Episode 122:  How Emotional Intelligence Helps You to Be a Non-Anxious Presence (Part 1 of 2) Episode 123:  How Emotional Intelligence Helps You to Be a Non-Anxious Presence (P...

Learning to self-differentiate in anxious situations doesn't come naturally. Understanding the science of performing under pressure can help. Show Notes: Thinking About the Consequences in the Moment of Decision from Admired Leadership Field Notes The science of performing under pressure with Sian Beilock from the Re-Thinking Podcast with Adam Grant The Science of Choking Under Pressure by Aly...

When we diagnose others, we avoid taking responsibility for self. Here's what that looks like and how we can do things better. Show Notes: Here's What Happens When We Stop Diagnosing Each Other by Kathleen Smith Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Many leaders who want to make an impact are people pleasers. Yet, this leads to over commitment and overwhelm. Here's how to stop. Show Notes: Cup of Empathy - Marianne van Dijk Podcast Episode 230: How to Say "No" as a Non-Anxious Presence Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Non-anxious leaders have a confidence that is based in knowing their goals and values, as well as embracing humility, curiousity and courage. This is both attractive and influential. Here’s how it works. Show Notes: 5 habits of confident people  by Stephanie Vozza Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

Complaining is not helpful to you or those you lead. Here's how to stop. Show Notes: The Happy Way to Drop Your Grievances by Arthur C. Brooks Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newsletter.

This episode explores why parents are so annoying to their children from a family systems standpoint. Understanding how to do things differently will make you a better parent and leader. Show Notes: What makes parents so annoying, even to their middle-aged children? by Carolyn Hax Read the Full Transcript on The Non-Anxious Leader website. Subscribe to my weekly  ⁠Two for Tuesday⁠  email newslette...