The Messed Up Counsellor

Episode 67:  Letters to help connect to your younger self, when we go through trauma when we are younger sometimes to emotionally protect ourselves, we can split from the actual trauma physically being experienced. The process discussed today will help to heal and reconnect those parts of us.

Episode 66: Time to find yourself again, when detaching from a relationship you need time to reconnect with the parts of you that have been in hibernation.

Self destruct behaviour and the drives to make your world secure. Why do we put our relationships under pressure seemingly destroying them and making the very thing we fear become a reality.

Living with conflict and keeping yourself emotionally safe: why do we live with conflict what does it give us.

Manipulation and why people derive pleasure from creating pain, seeing them through different eyes the doctor Jekyll and Mr Hyde process.

Molly and the challenge of being a young freelancer, coping with the pressure of proving yourself in the digital world. Coping with burnout and relationships and the fear of missing out.

Why does it go wrong? What can help to help smooth the waters? Today I’m looking at the obstacles that can prevent different generations understanding each other and explore some ways to achieve a better connection.

I’ve found that people look at the things which go wrong don’t often think of the things that go right. If 20% of our world is in turmoil or in a negative spiral, why can’t we consider the 80% which is going well.

How do we manage with all the pressures we bear? How can we make time for ourselves and instal some restrictions that might help?

This week I explore this interesting question in the counselling room. Is it a mirage or fantasy to be, or feel like, we are in control?  

In this episode I discuss my experiences growing up, and how I learnt to express myself. Was I the black sheep or the instigator of exploration? Sometimes someone has to shake things up.

Happy new year! In this episode I discuss how to keep your resolutions on track by staying motivated.

Family gatherings can be problematic. Effective communication can often help. In this episode I explore why problems arise, and what you can do to make things easier.

We use this word a lot in our language, and I wonder if it’s a word which helps or hinders us. We strive for it, but do we ever achieve it? Can we ever achieve it? Does it create satisfaction or increase anxiety and depression?

Alistair from Wingmen shares his experiences as an anxious person. We discuss how anxiety impacts his personal and professional life, and we learn what the group, Wingmen, is all about. https://www.wingmen.org.uk

In this episode I talk to Ella from Open Country about how being disabled can affects people's lives. We discuss how getting out and about can help build confidence and encourage disabled people not to hide from the world. www.opencountry.org.uk

Does anxiety ever make you freeze? What’s it all about and how do we cope with it? Does it keep us safe or create distance? What can others do to help?  

Why do we do that, and what do we do about it? In this episode I talk about my newly released audio book.

How can sex and intimacy can be used to affect the balance of power in a relationship. Withdrawal of it can sub-consciously be a way to display our power in a relationship.

On this episode I discuss how feelings of loss can sometimes lead to other painful feelings and emotions arising.

In this episode I explore the anxiety, fear and worry that can stem from not knowing who is watching us, or saying things about us which we can’t control or stop.

Today I explore the feelings of being invisible; getting pushed by in queues and not getting served at the bar. Sound familiar? Why is this and what can you do to change it?

I can still remember the pain I went through in my teenage years. 50 years later I explore the affect it had on me.

Is how we parent our children influenced by our own parents, and how they raised us? Once we become parents, how can we learn from our past to do the best by our children?

There is much humour to be found in observing human interactions. In this episode I talk about how watching humans never ceases to amaze and fascinate me.