The Menopause Mindset

"Menopause is not something to be fixed, it's an experience" said Susan.  I often wonder if much of the menopause misery we see is down to the fact that the deeper meaning of menopause is not truthfully being shared. Slapping on a bit of HRT might help short term, but if that's all we're focused on, we're missing out on the true gold of the whole experience.    Sympto...

My podcast guest today, Lucy Rowett, is passionate about exposing some of the predatory practices in the coaching world that seem to poke at our pain and rub at our trauma.  She says "This conversation is so on point right now". Lucy is an entrepreneur and a Clinical Sexologist and as such, she knows a thing or two about sex, trauma and selling.   So, this is a two pronged conversation. ...

Julie Angel, who has a PHD in Cine Parkour, explained to me that ageing sets in when we stop playing, and parkour is the ultimate in child's play.   Remember when you were 7 and you threw yourself behind the sofa to avoid being caught in a game of hide and seek or you flung yourself across those monkey bars to avoid being tagged by your sister? Like, why did we stop all of that?   Julie says...

On 17th December we had a lovely afternoon tea party for my mums 70th Birthday.  All of her 70 something friends were there.  We got talking about menopause (obviously) but one lady said "in my day we didn't talk about it, we just got on with it."  I flinched but I was grateful for her comment (even though I could sense she thought I was being too open) because it made me realise ho...

In many cultures, we are shown that a display of sadness and grief is unpalatable and unwelcome.  As people that go through menopause, this is bad news.   Grief occurs when we experience any kind of loss or change.  It is not limited to death and bereavement.  So a rising of grief during menopause is natural.  Learning how to navigate this internal change can often mean allowing ourselves to exper...

Men can’t be the heroes in our story if they are traumatised and hen pecked.   We could harp on about feminism and the patriarchy all day, but ultimately, if we want better menopause care, we must find ways of harmoniously working together, and that involves learning.   As women (cis and trans), understanding men and the wounds they carry, I believe, holds the key to healing a broken system, a sys...

Childlessness can be a black cloud for people approaching menopause and you'll notice it has been missing from this podcast.  There's a reason for that.   It's because, up until now, I had no idea how to talk about it (and I'm childless!)  So can you imagine how people WITH children must feel?  We skirt around the edges or worse still unconsciously insult and shame childless pe...

Have you ever tried running 72k?  No?  Don't worry you're in the majority.  It's not something that I am ever likely to do (never say never), but I do like talking to people who voluntarily put themselves through their paces, because we can learn so much from them.   In today's episode I talk to Linda Bonnar, author of Just Three Things and a corporate wellbeing consultant. She...

I'm not going to sit here and tell you that getting pregnant during peri is skipadedoo easy, it's not, but as my guest today says, it IS possible. So in today's episode of The Menopause Mindset Podcast I speak to nutritional therapist Kirsty Harrison. We cover: ➡️ How to become pregnant in peri menopause ➡️ How to improve egg maturity and sperm health ➡️ The stress trap of ‘trying’...

Pain is such a pain!  But when does the pain of staying stuck become worse than the pain required to change?  That's a question we all have to ask ourselves sometimes.   In today's episode I address this issue.  Now you might be thinking, what's a growth mindset got to do with menopause, isn't that kind of subject reserved for the entrepreneurial world?   Actually no.  If you&a...

Whether it's drinking more water, going to bed earlier, or softening the thoughts in your head, change is something that many of us want but don't know how to get long lasting.  I recently attended a talk with Alex Cornwell founder of Revolution Fitness and it reminded me about something that had slipped to the back of my mind.  The best motivational coach in existence is the one in your...

Divorce rates are higher than ever because today we have the luxury of refusing to accept subservience, unhappiness and abuse.  Having said that divorce is not easy especially at midlife when we are navigating all sorts of internal changes too along with a loss of confidence.  In today’s episode I talk to Martha Bodyfelt, founder of the Lionheart Method and divorce recovery coach about the D word....

In today's episode we discuss what emotional bypassing is, the consequences of it and how we can heal from it.  As a child if you ever experienced statements like 'oh dust yourself off' or 'you'll be fine just carry on' or if you ever felt ignored and unseen despite being relatively 'happy', this episode is for you.  Emotional bypassing in childhood has real...

The love that we feel about ourselves is largely down to the way that we look.  This standard of validity has been imposed upon us by a diet industry that makes millions preying on people’s need to ‘fit in’.   When menopause hits and the weight goes on, many women and people exhaust themselves in an attempt to maintain those unrealistic standards of beauty, just to feel like they belong.   Belongi...

Has menopause mades you shrink and stay safe?  Our physical, mental and emotional needs go up at menopause and many of us are busy controlling our environment to maintain that sense of safety.  But sometimes what our soul is calling out for, is expansion. We can hear it but it's the fear that stop us from acting on it.  Expansion is the ability to look up and out and get a refreshing new pers...

Going through menopause isn't just about HRT or lifestyle solutions.  It's about becoming authentic and real.  I this episode I do just that.   On the day of recording this I was feeling exhausted, emotional and reflective and instead of faking it, to bring you ' my 10 tips on how to have a happier menopause', I decided to turn my feeling into a piece of spoken word.   This is...

At midlife we are being called to STOP our self betrayal, but it can be very hard to do for many reasons. Firstly, we might not even realise that we're doing it. Or we might feel very defiant about budgeting for our kids wellbeing but not our own.  Self betrayal can occur in a big way, for example staying in toxic relationships, or they can occur in a small way, for example, those daily compr...

When was the last time someone told you that they see how hard you try?  The thing is, we ALL need to hear that we are important from time to time, even the most hardened individuals.  Menopause requires a lot from us.  It takes our energy, our drive and our va va voom.  So that's why I thought it would be nice to bring you a very reassuring message.  A note from the Universe.   So if you nee...

Dyna Vink is is a certified health and nutrition coach who refused to give in after her doctor, dietician and trainer gave ineffective advice on how to navigate peri menopause.  In today's episode we discuss;  Why we shouldn't lose weight to get healthy; what the doctors aren't learning (and what WE need to learn); why healing through menopause is not just about food;  why taking th...

We are tired.  Tired of menopause, tired of the pandemic, tired of thinking about what to cook for dinner... even our tired is tired.  Rest would help.  It would give us that sweet relief from the intense heaviness of the grind.  But do you rest?  Do you find time for it?  Or does guilt descend the minute you park your butt? If so, you're not alone.  The absence of rest is part of the grind c...

Join me as I chat to Fiona Clark, founder of Harley Street Emporium.  In today's episode of Fiona and I talk about: Relationships: The dangers of throwing the baby out with the bathwater HRT:  Who can really take it and who can't.  Why WE should be part of the decision making process when it comes to HRT Bio Identical HRT vs Body Identical HRT The dangers of large unregulated Menopause F...

Just because something is 'incurable' it doesn't mean it's untreatable.  When you're told that an auto immune disease is incurable, what do you do?  Do you blindly accept your fate from the doctors or do you start to advocate for yourself?  My guest today decided to do the latter.   In today's conversation with Rachel Turner (an EFT practitioner and Functional Medicin...

Let's change the conversation from how can I lose my meno belly to how can I fall in love with my new meno body!  That's what your soul has been longing for.   Kate Codrington is a menstrual and menopause mentor, workshop facilitator, writer and has been a therapist for more than a quarter of a century.  It’s her mission to change the way we regard menopause and she wants to show people...

Elizabeth Joseph is a stay at home mum who speaks candidly about her midlife transition on her instagram account @elizabethjosephnavigating   It’s funny and extremely honest as she goes around putting different products and services to the test and writing about them.  What I love about Elizabeth is that she’s a self confessed 'non expert' in peri menopause, although she is an expert in...

At menopause, heightened emotions can make the symptom roller coaster even more dippy.  Common sense tells us to bury painful feelings but what do we do when that's no longer logical?  In this episode, I'm going to give you my 6 step process that helps me and my clients transmute pent up, built up, difficult emotions. Sally's Links [Free] Relaxation Hypnosis Recording:  https://bit....