The Menopause Mindset

My guest today, Emma Cooksey, was diagnosed with obstructive sleep apnea at the age of 30, after more than a decade of unexplained health problems. Once diagnosed, she felt incredibly alone while navigating life with sleep apnea and adjusting to CPAP therapy. After learning a great deal she began hosting a weekly podcast, “Sleep Apnea Stories.” By sharing her journey and encouraging others to tell...

If  you had to choose between quitting a job you've been working towards your whole life or staying there even though your meno symptoms make it hell on earth, what would you choose? My guest today couldn't believe she was at that crossroad in her life when no 'third option' presented itself. Stunned at the discrimination and lack of understanding, she decided to take matters i...

I want you to be happy.  Really happy.  I want you to be able to harbour so much love, joy, freedom and happiness. But can you? Do you really want it? You might be thinking, what a stupid question!  Of course I want happiness.  Doesn't everyone? And the answer to that might surprise you.  In today's episode of the menopause mindset podcast we discuss something called Cherophobia or fear...

Today's episode is personal.  I give you a peek into how I'm dealing with some personal trauma PLUS my thoughts on our incredible female football athletes.  It's a feisty one! Link: https://www.wellnessrevolutionfestival.com/ Menopause Wellbeing Practitioner [£74.99] https://bit.ly/menowellness Send me a direct message Support the show

They make mine look flat.   No I'm not talking about my boobs!  I'm talking about my moods compared to the highs and lows experienced by someone with Bipolar.    Sadly the wellness industry is full of practitioners who have been 'red pilled' into preaching a 'pill free' dogma, but without medication, my guest today (who is a wellness practitioner herself) simply would...

What have you given yourself this weekend?  Go on be honest.  Did you cram your diary to avoid fear of missing out?  Did you avoid delegating to escape difficult conversations?  Or did you just forget to schedule some precious time in for yourself?   Either way, maybe today's the day, to take a breath and re-set, my love.   If you're a human with a heart,  you're going to LOVE today...

Why do we keep going back for more s**t even when it goes against what we want for ourselves? The answer? LEARNED HELPLESSNESS. Case in point.  Yesterday I was sat on a train up to London complaining about the noisy youth who were disrespecting young girls and playing their music really loud.  I was banging on about this for at least 30 minutes until I realised I had a choice to move.  But I only...

Brain fog, hot flushes, joint pain and anxiety are not just a normal part of ageing.  If you have these, it's likely that you are in a pro inflammatory state.  And you deserve better. You deserve to know what's going on in your body and mind and you deserve to know what to do to help you.  Because I know that if you felt better you'd be happier and so would the people around you.  ...

Recently I witnessed a menopause practitioner being derogatory about the DUTCH test online. It shocked me but ultimately everyone is entitled to their opinion.  What I found difficult though was the unwillingness to broaden their perspective and listen to all sides of the story.  Any contradictory opinion was simply shut down with a response such as 'I stand by my original opinion.'  Thi...

Is your mental health suffering as a result of the HRT shortage?   This shortage is incredibly invalidating as a woman or person who takes it and I've no doubt is rooted in hidden misogyny.    Needless to say, anxiety is on the rise as a result but .... Now might be a good time to introduce you to a radical idea. And that's the idea that anxiety is not caused by an oestrogen and progeste...

It’s so hard, let's not sugar coat it.  Looking after ourselves is hard and sometimes (truth bomb) I really don't want to do it.  I can often show up kicking and screaming to meal prep, meditation and exercise but.. Jennifer reminded me of something.  She said "when you feel like shit, you still show up for your dog or your kids though don't you?  Why is that? BECAUSE YOU LOVE...

So you've decided that that's enough work for one lifetime.  You're done.  Your body and brain is tired and you want to go at a slower pace.   But you still need money... so how are you going to generate it?   A retirement plan is a sensible thing to be thinking about during midlife but many of us don't know where to start.   My guest today is The Female Money Doctor . Dr Nikki...

"I don't feel safe" That's the sound of a body who's histamine levels can't be regulated properly.  Yeah, that was a penny drop moment for me too!  I had no idea that fear, stress and anxiety stimulated histamine and prevented it from being eliminated properly.  As we know, at menopause, very often our stress hormones are sky high.  But there's something else tha...

Hello?  Do you SEE me?  If the menopause has made you feel invisible you are not alone.  The latest stats show that over a million have either quit their jobs or are thinking of doing so because of menopause.  This is a tragic and unnecessary loss of talent. When organisations fail to address menopause they are basically saying, you are not important to us and that hurts. It really hurts. My guest...

What does sex and the Chinese language have in common?  Answer:  You can learn them both. When it comes to pleasure, did you know that many of us have a lid on our capacity to harbour it?   Our pleasure set point can diminish with age, unless we decide to reclaim it, work with it and expand it.   But many of us don't realise that's even an option.    Lucky for you, my guest today, Mangal...

Am I going mad?  That's the question on many women's minds who are struggling to leave narcissistic relationships.   Trigger warning - the content in todays podcast might stir up a few emotions so only listen if you're feeling strong and ready to fight the good fight.   My guest today is an ex family solicitor who helps people struggling to leave abusive relationships and litigate i...

Over the years we've come up with many euphemisms to describe it... 🩸 The painters are round  🩸 Aunt Flow has arrived  🩸 It's rag time    Many of these are said lightly and in jest, but the truth is, we find it hard to say the real thing.      "I'm menstruating".      Silence always perpetuates shame, which in turn perpetuates the problems that women and people with ova...

I was hanging by a thread, like a piece of over rip fruit about to fall from the tree and go splat on the floor.  Heavy and lethargic.  No energy to lift a finger let alone think about what to cook for dinner.  Energy is a precious resource, but the good news is, it's renewable, unlike time.  Once time is gone, it's gone, you can't get it back but energy can be renewed.  All we have...

It's not everyday you reach 46 years old, at least it wouldn't be in the 1900's, where the average age of death for a woman was 45.   It makes me shudder to think about it, if I'm honest.  But fast forward to the year 2022 and life expectancy of a person with an ovarian system has gone up to around aged 83.   Whether you like it or not, we are living the privilege of medical ev...

The lack of touch made my heart & muscles harden.    I couldn't explain the feeling very eloquently, but it was like my body just needed to know itself.  It needed to experience itself, and it couldn't without bumping up against another human.   I'm talking about the time my husband and I broke up.  It was very disorientating.   When infants are starved of touch their physical a...

In today's episode I talk to Dr Michelle Gordon, who recognises that behaviour change is hard especially during menopause, but is absolutely fundamental to the thing that most women in menopause want... WEIGHT LOSS. Dr G  is a retired surgeon who closed her multi million dollar practice during Covid 19 and turned towards her real purpose, helping people with menopausal weight. Building her pr...

Is cake ok or not ok when you're menopausal?  After diving into a few anti diet books, I started seeing the broader picture as to how the diet industry was playing with our mental health and honestly....... I used it as a reason to have my cake and eat it. I'd been hearing that BMI was a flawed measurement; weight wasn't the big health concern we thought it was and sugar wasn't...

I was being so negative for about a month. I languished in it until my husband (who wouldn't say boo to a goose) said, "oh my gosh, you've got to snap out of this, you are depressing to be around and half the stuff you're telling yourself is a complete lie."It was a jolt. It was the wake up call I needed. And in that moment, I did.  I snapped out of it because I was embarr...

When they're going well, we have our mojo, our focus and our equilibrium but when they are not so going well, we lie awake at night, we can't concentrate and we're all topsy turvy inside.    I'm talking about RELATIONSHIPS of course. Relationships have been a hot topic this week as it's been Valentine's Day but that's not why I'm bringing you this. I'm...

When was the last time you slept consistently well for a whole week or even month? In today's episode we talk about why it's hard to sleep during menopause and how we can tap into that ever more elusive slumber. In essence, we'll be covering HEAT and STRESS: What increases heat in the body and what decreases it? What increases stress in the body and what decreases it? You'll fi...