The Menopause Mindset

Being single at peri menopause, can be tough! We are dealing with all sorts of internal changes and we can feel very destabilised by it.  And so the idea of a relationship to help stabilise us becomes very alluring.  If you're drawn to this:  Maybe you have a negative narrative going on about your relationship potential?  Maybe you feel that you're not desirable any more?  Maybe you&apos...

“I’d rather have a cup of tea.”   That's what a friend said to me when we were talking about sex.  I have to say, I could relate.   But, when did tea become more exciting than sex?   When did my values change from adventure to security?     It creeps up on you doesn't it.   You're always stressed, you don't fancy your partner much anymore but you have no sexual outlet.  You don...

Laura Shuckburgh, just upped sticks and left a very nice life (right in the middle of Covid) to go a live in a different country, because she needed to answer that call.  Although she was happy, that nagging voice inside her wouldn't let her settle.   I know what she means.   There's something about the comfort zone which just squeezes every ounce of life out of you.  Laura is the founde...

Lorraine Miano is an integrative holistic health coach certified in hormone health and author of the bestselling book “The Magic of Menopause.”  She is passionate about working with women in all phases of menopause who have weight, metabolism and ageing concerns so that they can have more energy, less stress and feel comfortable in their own skin.  In this episode we dive into:  Grandmothers and t...

Remember that scene in Friends …. it’s a flashback where Monica is about 17 and she’s trying to seduce Chandler in her mum’s kitchen and Rachel is coaching her on how to be sexy?  Rachel says ‘just act like everything around you turns you on’  To be honest, Rachel could make a bin bag look sexy, but Monica had to try a little harder.  But that’s the thing about ‘turn on’ - it’s a practice.  When i...

Today I speak to Jane Dancey who is an Embodiment Coach, a Somatic Yoga Teacher, A Rites of Passage Facilitator and a Female Pelvis Educator.  She says when we’re going through menopause the body can become a scary place to inhabit so no wonder we disconnect.   It’s changing, we’re losing the male gaze, it feels pained, awkward and exhausted.   Jane is a person who helps us rebuild a relationship...

"It’s all in your mind".  That’s what was previously thought about the placebo effect, but according to much research, we know that’s not true.  There are real molecular changes that happen in the brain and body when someone is given a placebo.   What we’re really talking about here is the power of 'expectation', and the chemical changes that happen in the body as a result of a...

I’m gonna go out on a limb and say that I believe your mind has the power to affect your experience of your menopause (including your symptom severity).    Unless you’ve been under a rock for the last few years (and I wouldn’t blame you if you had) you’ve probably heard about the power of the imagination.  When it comes to our immune system, our nervous system and our endocrine system (ok, ALL our...

You  are NOT going crazy.  In fact you are doing brilliantly given the fact that you live in a world that doesn’t seem to understand what you’re going through.  There are real chemical changes going on in the brain from peri to post menopause which cause us to forget words,  feel more anxious and lose confidence.   You might FEEL crazy, but you are not GOING crazy, and you’re definitely not to bla...

At menopause many women and people start to feel the stirrings of anger bubbling up, how it’s dealt with is down to your personality type and your childhood programming.  Is it implosive or explosive?   Either way, it’s screaming at you and wants to be heard.   In today’s episode of The Menopause Mindset Podcast, I’m going to reveal my thoughts on the medicinal message of anger at menopause.   Get...

In this episode learn some of my tips and tricks on how to manage overwhelm and anxiety.  We talk about priorities, values, time outs, batching, short term anxiety, long term anxiety, why anxiety is lying to you, the root cause of anxiety, your nervous system and how your perception can help with anxiety. Sally's Links [Free] Relaxation Hypnosis Recording:  https://bit.ly/relaxationwithsally...

Many don't see the link between PTSD and menopause symptom severity and that's why I wanted to create this episode.  In this episode we talk about:  What is PTSD?  Why is it linked to menopause?  What you need to know about Poly Vagal Theory (in the simplest way possible), What you can do to ease PTSD and therefore help your menopause.    This is for you if you have unpleasant peri/menop...

How often do your shoulders just drop?  When you feel heard?  When you feel understood? When you get asked the right questions? My guest today is used to asking people questions because that’s what she does for a living.  She’s a business coach who works mainly with female entrepreneurs.   She knows how to dig a little deeper, she’s naturally curious with a broad frame of reference, so no wonder s...

Have you heard the term brain fog?  It's when you thought you’d sent that text and you realise 10 days later you forgot to press send.  It's when you unpack your big shop but realise you forgot to buy lemons for tonight’s recipe.  It's when the young things around you are bulleting out those witty comebacks but you can’t seem to string a sentence together about what you’ve done toda...

International Women’s Day is supposed to celebrate women and challenge the status quo, and boy were we challenged.  First the shocking Megan and Harry interview with Oprah, then Piers Morgan's ‘man baby’ walk off on GMTV, then the tragedy of Sarah Everard.  It's just NOT ok and I hope you feel the same way because if you're not angry, you're not paying attention. Now more than...

 I knew it all along.  I’m talking about the link between childhood trauma and menopause symptom severity.  What do you do when nothing else works?  Tried HRT?  Insomnia came back!  Tried diet and lifestyle? Didn’t cure my hot flushes!  Sometimes we need to look deeper.  Beyond the obvious.  Stubborn menopause symptoms are a sign that there’s more going on under the surface and if you’re reading t...

Can we talk about men for a second?   Did you know that menopause affects men too, plus, at the same time, men's attitudes can affect our own menopause symptom severity?   Nothing happens in isolation, it's cyclical.   If you think you're exempt from menopause because you're a person without ovaries, this is for you.  In this episode, I'm going to give you 3 powerful reaso...

Having a happy, healthy menopause is good for the world. In this episode we’re going to discuss:  Why is menopause negatively perceived?  Why are these taboos damaging?  Three things that we can all do to break the taboo of menopause!  So if you’re interested in: Reclaiming your right to have a healthy, happy menopause; consciously disrupting the menopause narrative and ending the silence  of sexi...

Silence means being complicit in racism, so we MUST talk about this.  Frankly I apologise for not addressing it sooner!  Why did it take a man's death and global movement to make me see that this needs talking about?  Unconscious bias runs deep.  In this episode we'll look at how being a person of colour can affect your menopause and we talk about some empowering things that people of co...

Are you creaking like a haunted house every time you get up from the sofa?  Moving around like you’re 101 is no fun (especially when you’re only 45)!  Joint pain & stiffness is one of the lesser known symptoms of peri menopause.  This is for you if:  You’re approaching mid life and your joints are aching more than normal.  You’re unaware that joint pain and stiffness is a symptom of peri menop...

Many women at peri menopause start to experience burnout.  In this podcast I’m going to explain why and what you can do about it.  This is for you if:  You’ve lost or you’re loosing your mojo!  You’re whole body feels like a wet lettuce!  You can’t think clearly.  You’re hyper sensitive.  You can’t find the words.  You can’t concentrate.  Your body feels fuzzy.  Join me in this episode as I give y...

Did you know that insomnia makes insomnia worse!   This is exactly the kind of double bind I was in a few years ago when sleep disruption was ruining my life.    😴 I was waking up in the middle of the night frequently unable to get back to sleep.    😴 I was envious of others who could fall asleep effortlessly.    😴 I would ruminate about whether or not I’d be able to sleep as the night drew clo...

Some women call them power surges, I like to call them 'warmer moments' 😂, either way in this episode I give you my 5 tips to ease and manage hot flushes.  This is for you if you struggle with hot flushes but it's also for you if you can't take HRT or don't want to.  In this episode we look at: The impact of hot flushes, the causes of hot flushes and how to ease and manag...

What happens when we climb to top of a hill?  We gain a very useful perspective especially when it comes to problem solving.  That’s why castles & forts are built on higher ground.  We can see the enemy before they see us, we know where they are, we know what obstacles they need to overcome and so this higher perspective put us in a better position.  In today’s podcast, we are going to zoom ou...

Angry and sad.  Those are two of many emotions my guest today felt after realising she had suffered 10 years of needless hell with peri menopause.  What kind of world do we live in where understanding the most natural transition in women’s lives is kept hidden and shrouded in mystery?  (I think it’s a conspiracy but I won’t get into that today).  I found this episode, with the first and only laype...