The Lilli Bewley Podcast | Self love, Self-Compassion, Trauma, Abuse, Codependency, Relationships

Today, in Episode 42, we are back on the last leg of the Control Series, Part 7 of a 10 part series all focused on control. Here’s a good one today, we are talking about asking for help. Do you have trouble asking for help? What does that mean from a codependency standpoint? And, does that have anything to do with control? Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback...

Today, in Episode 41, we are back on the last leg of the Control Series, Part 6 of a 10 part series all focused on control. Specifically, today, trying to control outcomes in relationships, how that looks, and how taking on a burden (yours or someone else’s) could do more harm than good. Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me...

Today, in Episode 40, a little break in the control series for a bonus episode about mental health during the corona isolation and quarantine, a little update about what’s been going on with me. And just an overall check-in. But, before we get into the discussion, don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podca...

Today, in Episode 39, Part 5 of a 10 part series all focused on control. Specifically, today, I wanted to talk about something that I’m calling shame transference. Basically, the way it so easy for us to feel other’s shame even when they may not feel it themselves, what that looks like, and a little bit about what that has to do with control. But, before we get into the discussion, don’t forget to...

Today, in Episode 38, Part 4 of a 10 part series all focused on control. Specifically, today, a little bit about the codependent trait of absorbing other’s responsibilities and making them your own. Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at epiphanyvault.com Remember, you can share anonymously; it i...

Today, in Episode 37, Part 3 of a 10 part series all focused on control. Today, I wanted to discuss abuse in a broad sense right now. Now that I think about it, I may do another series on the different types of abuse, but today, I wanted to cover abuse and it’s relationship to control. But, before we get into the discussion, don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedbac...

 Today, in Episode 36, Part 2 of a 10 part series all focused on control. Today, specifically, I wanted to talk about prioritizing others and other’s needs before yours and explore a little bit about what that has to do with control. Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at epiphanyvault.com R...

 Today, in Episode 35, Part 1 of a 10 part series all focused on control. Today, specifically, in reference to confrontation and how that plays out in a codependent scenario and maybe some triggers or warning signs you may see in yourself or in others. But, before we get into the discussion, don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d...

Today, in Episode 34, I have been thinking a lot lately about leveling up, about getting better in every aspect of my life and why, if I’m honest, I might feel tremendous weight (like debilitating weight) when actually trying to take the steps that will help me get there. So, I wanted to talk today about that and perhaps some strategies that have been working for me to give myself the best the I d...

 Today, in Episode 33, a super personal and sensitive topic for me that has been showing up and showing out. That’s sex and what does it have to do with codependency.   Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at the epiphanyvault.com

 Today, in Episode 32, New Year’s Resolutions and why I think resolutions are bunk. But, before we get into the discussion, don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at the epiphanyvault.com Remember, you can share anonymously; it is a safe place and I would welcome the discussion.

Today, in Episode 31, an epiphany that I had recently that has completely transformed my way of thinking. Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at www.epiphanyvault.com Remember, you can share anonymously; it is a safe place and I would welcome the discussion.

Today, in Episode 30, a little bit about self-love. Before we get into the discussion, don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at the www.epiphanyvault.com Remember, you can share anonymously; it is a safe place and I would welcome the discussion.

Today, in Episode 29, a codependent characteristic that I found while reading some of Melody Beattie’s work and that is that codependents cover up, lie, and protect the problem. So, I wanted to explore that a little bit today. Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at www.epiphanyvault.com Remember,...

Today, in Episode 28, an affirmation that has been helping me through lately. Before we get into the discussion, don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at the www.epiphanyvault.com Remember, you can share anonymously; it is a safe place and I would welcome the discussion.

Today, in Episode 27, some thoughts about negativity and how it’s been showing up for me lately. Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at the www.epiphanyvault.com Remember, you can share anonymously; it is a safe place and I would welcome the discussion.

Today, in Episode 26, a listener by the name of Cristal wrote into the Epiphany Vault about where she is in her journey. Before we get into the discussion, don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at www.epiphanyvault.com Remember, you can share anonymously; it is a safe place and I would welcome the...

I thought that every 25th Episode or so I will replay the most popular episode, and that would be the one about What is Codependency. This one has had the most downloads so far. Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at www.epiphanyvault.com Remember, you can share anonymously; it is a safe place an...

Today, in Episode 24, something that I’ve been thinking about lately is expectations. Expectations on us and expectations of others and the way that expectations weave such a tangled web in our lives. don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at www.epiphanyvault.com Remember, you can share anonymously...

Today, in Episode 23, a listener wrote into the Epiphany Vault. And we talk about self-love and how to capture that and own it. Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at www.epiphanyvault.com Remember, you can share anonymously; it is a safe place and I would welcome the discussion.

Today, in Episode 22, an excerpt from my journal and a reflection on an entry I wrote about 4 months ago. Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at www.epiphanyvault.com Remember, you can share anonymously; it’s a safe place and I would welcome the discussion.

Today, in Episode 21, I wanted to discuss a codependent trait that I noticed as I dug myself out of the hole of codependency and that is the diminishing of the importance of tools to keep yourself aligned. Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts at www.epiphanyvault.com Remember, you can share anonym...

Today, in Episode 20, an affirmation that was straight out of my journal: The Here and Now captivates me. Take this affirmation into your day and if you feel your self bubbling up with unease and disconnect, remind your self that The Here and Now captivates me. Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything you’d like me to cover on future podcasts...

Today, in Episode 19, I wanted to talk about something that completely transformed the way I feel about myself and how those thoughts came about. This was one of two MAJOR turning points in my life and coming to the place of peace that I am now. And that is the feeling of loneliness and of being alone. Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts about this episode, any feedback you have, or anything...

Today, in Episode 18, I wanted to touch on the two different personality types that are present (typically) in a codependent relationship. One of the dominant and one of the submissive. Think you may be either dominant or submissive? I would recommend this resource to start: http://coda.org/index.cfm/meeting-materials1/patterns-and-characteristics-2011/ Don’t forget to let me know your thoughts ab...