The Job

How many times do you honestly evaluate what you have done from a place of learning rather then punishment? I never used to but I have realised that it is what accelerates your progress. Here are some easy questions to ask yourself when you are evaluating anything: 1. What went well? 2. What didn't go well? 3. What did I learn? 4. What will I do different next time/implement next time? Evalua...

This is where the work really starts, but it is so worth it! The hardest thing you will experience when doing this work is learning to not give in to an urge. An urge is then same as desire. It is then sensation you feel when someone cracks open the tub of Roses and you just feel compelled to have one even though you promised yourself that you wouldn't. I am going to show you how to reduce th...

Planning ahead is key. Why? Because when we make decisions ahead of time we make better decisions that will benefit us in the future. When we make decisions ahead of time we use a different part of our brain that takes in all the consequences of our actions. When we leave it to the moment to make our decisions we are guided my our primitive brain that is concerned with one thing - IMMEDIATE PLEASU...

It's getting close to Christmas and it's that time to indulge, but what's it going to be like in January? I used to have a big blow out over Christmas only to have to spend months in the gym trying to get the weight off. I know what you're thinking "Don't talk to me this side of Christmas about cutting out the crap because I don't want to hear it. I wan to enjoy...

We have been conditioned to think that our outside world is what is causing us to feel the way we do and of course this is normal because when we experience a negative emotion our brain focuses on the perceived threat in the outside world. This has helped us to evolve to where we are today but now it is causing us issues because we are waiting for things out of our control, like our work or our bo...

When fear strikes it can be debilitating and can rob us of reaching our full potential. Fear doesn't have to be a problem. It can actually be something that can be used rather than avoided. Here I talk about the Fearometer, a way of measuring your fear and using techniques to get you out of the red and back into action. If you like what you hear in these podcasts and want to sign up to my wee...

So many of us rely on confidence but confidence is something we get as a result of having done something over and over again; its a byproduct. Confidence is nice to have but we can't rely on it for things that we have not done before, because, well, we haven't done them before. When we are doing something for the first time, doing something we haven't done for a long time or steppin...

Why is putting ourselves first so hard to do? We all know that when it gets tough the first thing we should do is take care of ourselves so that we can then be more available to help others. No matter how much we hear this though I bet most of you think that you will have some time for yourself once the job is done. The problem is, another job comes and another and you never take time to recharge...

If we always wanted to do the work it would be easy. If we were always motivated then there would never be a problem. This is not the case though, there is always work that we don't want to do but while we are waiting for motivation to come along the deadlines are getting shorter and the work is piling up. Being able to get the work done that you don't want to do is a gift because it get...

Our emotions are key to our overall sense of wellbeing. The problem is that many of us don;t understand them and don't know how to respond to them. Our emotions are normal, they are not supposed to be masked over with drink and food, we are supposed to feel them. I this episode we will discuss feeling and how to process them so they do not become a problem for you. If you like what you hear i...

Overwhelm is one of the biggest issues in the police and we hear it everywhere. We have been conditioned to think that the overwhelm comes from the work that we are doing and that when the workload has been reduced the overwhelm will go. I have learnt that it is the opposite way around. Overwhelm is created in our brains to stop us doing the uncomfortable work. We need to clear the overwhelm to be...

We don't like disappointment and why should we? It feels bad. But that's all it is, a feeling and when you understand what disappointment is and where it comes from you can use it to your advantage. We fear disappointment and because of this fear we end up disappointing ourselves ahead of time by giving up or not trying in the first place. If you like what you hear in these podcasts and...

In this episode we are going to talk about what it takes to change and how to implement change. When people have the realisation that the only person holding themselves back in them, they want to change it. When they realise how easy that change can be they then start identifying other areas in their life that they want to change and they want to change it NOW! This can cause a lot of overwhelm an...

When I first started int he police a good friend of mine would say "Bevan, stop dithering!" This was because I was indecisive, always second guessing my decisions and found it difficult to make them. I was always questioning whether someone else would have made a different decision and feared making the wrong decision, which ironically meant that I didn't make one at all. Thanks to...

Only you are suffering!   We have all been there. That person in the office that just grates on us and who we just see or hear and immediately want to punch them.   I was like this for 10 years with someone until it was pointed out to me that I was the only one suffering. They were completely unaffected by my anger.    I heard analogy recently that said it was like holding on to a piece of hot coa...

Procrastination affects so many people. We delay things because we feel overwhelmed and then we feel more overwhelmed because we have so much to do. I will share with you in this episode how to break the cycle of procrastination and become more productive. We will talk about where procrastination comes from and share some strategies for moving through it and getting shit done! If you are someone w...

I was never one for setting goals. I always thought if I was setting goals I would be focused on the future and missing out on the present. I have actually found the opposite to be true though. Goals help you move in the direction that you want to go in, not the direction your brain wants to pull you in. When you set goals (especially big ones) you break them down to tiny steps and then instead of...

We cram so much into our lives that often we forget what is really important to us. The people we care about the most get forgotten int he busyness of life. We worry so much about what other people think of us that we forget what our values are and how we want to live our lives. So many people reach the end of their life and have regrets but it doesn't have to be that way. You can turn those...

We have all been sold the lie that we should be happy all of the time and that if we aren't then something is fundamentally wrong. We think that emotions like anxiety need to be eradicated when actually they just need to be understood. In this episode I talk about how to deal with negative emotions and how the problem is not that we feel negative emotions but rather how we deal with them when...

We don't like it but we are going to get it. It is inevitable that in life we are going to get criticised. Sometimes that criticism is meant as feedback and other times it's just because people like to criticise. Whatever the reason behind it, if you can get better at dealing with criticism it doesn't have to affect you and hamper your perfromance. If you learn how, criticism can be...

When we take action we get experience, and the more experience we get the more our confidence grows and the more our confidence grows the more we want to do and the more we progress. But how do we take that initial action when we don't have the confidence to start?  The answer is self-confidence! I am going to talk about in this episode the difference between self-confidence and confidence an...

In CID our jobs are normally complex and are always being completed under the pressure of the clock. Overwhelm kicks in and we are working long hours from a place anxiety, stress and panic and it feels exhausting. In this episode I am going to share with you my method for breaking things down into small manageable chunks which will get you out of the feeling of overwhelm and have you completing wo...

The police attracts perfectionists, especially CID, where the need for the attention to detail is crucial in solving complex investigations. Perfectionism is compounded by the fact that our work is seen and criticised very publicly. Perfectionism leads to burnout though. Perfectionists spend a lot of time in overwhelm, which leads to procrastination which results in a drop in productivity, which f...

The Brain. We all have one but most of us don’t know how it works or the affects if has on our lives when it is not successfully managed. In this episode I will break down in a very simple way how the brain works and how this is working against us in this modern world. I will explain how to start managing your brain so that you use it to your advantage and start getting back control of your life....