The Job

When we start making changes in our life we sometimes don't notice them or the benefits of those changes because they have become our new norm. Looking back and evaluating how far you have come is absolutely key to moving forward because, how you do one thing is how you do everything. So if you have changed one area of your life you can certainly apply what you have learnt to other areas that...

Are you suffering from perfectionism or are you just perfecting something. the difference might seem subtle but I believe that there is a difference between striving for a standard that just doesn't exist aka, perfectionism and tarting things up so that you have done a good job. Recognising the difference is key so if you are a perfectionist have a listen and see what you think. Have a good o...

In this episode we will talk about whether taking responsibility for stress absolves the organisation of any responsibility. This is something I am asked a lot and my answer is always the same. Of course i am not saying that the organisation shouldn't have things in place for our well being and shouldn't be making changes for the better but what I realised is that I didn't want to w...

In this episode we talk about the role of dopamine with desire and how it relates to focus. Dopamine was thought of as the pleasure molecule but actually it gets released when we receive the unexpected. So, when you are told you can go home at 5pm instead of at 6pm and you feel that rush of excitement, it's not because you have been let go home early, it's because it was unexpected. How...

In this episode we are going to talk about self-worth. Self-worth is all about your relationship with yourself. Yes, that's right, it's not about what others think of you, it's what you think of you. The problem is that when our self-worth is low we seek validation from others which might make us feel momentarily better but often we reject it anyway because our self-worth is so low....

In this episode we talk about the cause of burnout. You may well think that it is to do with the amount of work but actually it is more to do with the energy that we are approaching the work with. We are often working in a very distracted environment so our work time is not very focused and then when we are not working we are thinking about it so we never actually switch off. Our energy is key and...

This is a very exciting episode for me because I have my good mate Aaron Hill back on the show with me but this time he is talking about all things fear!!! Aaron is now a coach who helps ex-military entrepreneurs get 10 extra hours quality time with their families every week but in his previous life he was a Royal Marine Commando and served her Her Majesties SAS! Aaron (or Ron as I like to call hi...

In this episode I talk to a very special guest, Ron Hill who is a very close friend of mine and has recently just finished my 16 week coaching program. Ron was in fact my very first client when I started practicing and has continued with coaching up until recently. Ron is ex Royal Marine Commando and Special Forces and is now a resilience coach who helps ex-military entrepreneurs get 10 extra hour...

In this episode we talk about why you are doing the things that you are doing and why you are not doing things. This is really important because often we tell ourselves that we "have" to stay on when really it is a lie. We could say that we can't stay on but often what we fear is the judgement of others. When we tell ourselves that we "have to" it automatically makes us fe...

I recorded this because I see so many people, especially men in the police who have a lot of judgement over the fact that they have experienced fear. I was certainly one of these for a number of years until I realised that feeling fear is a perfectly natural healthy response to a perceived danger. I have come to realise that it is not the fear itself that is the problem but rather the judgement th...

This weeks episode is a testimonial from Carl Radley who has recently finished my Coaching program. Carl is not a police officer but has huge benefits during the 16 weeks that we have worked together. Listen to Carl talk about the changes he has seen when he dropped perfectionism and built confidence in his ability. Carl is a Weight Loss Coach and was starting his coaching business after having a...

We all know we should do it but it's the last thing we do. Putting ourselves first is the last thing we do! This is often driven by the belief that we should put others first or that we always have to be available for others 24/7. This drives us to exhaustion and we then don't have the energy to give. We are like a battery, we accept enerfy, we store energy and we give energy to other. B...

In this episode we talk about the importance of your relationship with yourself. The question to ask is "Would you ever speak to someone else the way you speak to yourself?  Imagine if someone you know tried something and failed. When they told you about it would you say "Well I'm not surprised, you're thick!" or "It's because you aren't good enough." C...

In this episode we talk about how feeling nervous court is normal and how to deal with nerves. I've been in The Job now for over 16 years and when I get called up in the box there is a part of me that drops into panic. "Have I missed something?" "I'm going to look stupid!" All these things go whizzing around my head but I now know how to deal with that voice and the f...

Our brains are always predicting the future. The bummer is that often that prediction is negative because we are negative biased. Why? Because having that negative bias is what helped us survive in our primitive days. We end up taking action from this negative prediction and make that prediction a reality which makes us believe these future predictions. When you have a negative outlook on some fut...

Motivation is not something we can always rely on. If we wait until we feel like doing the work then we will likely procrastinate and become overwhelmed. It's nice when we feel motivated but there are times that we need to get work done that we just don't want to do. This is when we need to reply on commitment, determination and focus. These are the emotions that will get us to the start...

We create habits because our brain has evolved to conserve energy so doing things without having to think about them has great benefits when that conserved energy can be used to run from a Sabre Toothed Tiger or we had to forage for food. Even now it is useful because imagine how exhausting it would be if you had to think about driving your car or brushing your teeth like you did when you first di...

When we feel that someone has wronged us in some way we feel justified in hating them. What we don't realise is that no one else feels our hate except us! Yes, that's right. Other people do not experience our hate, only we do, so it is like drinking poison to punish someone else. It can be difficult to move out of hate, especially with the people we deal with in the Police but if all tha...

The fear of someone saying "No" to our request makes us not ask for so much in our lives that would make life so much easier. We limit our opportunities because of the fear of hearing someone say "No". This is normal, because we are hard wired to avoid rejection, which meant death in our primitive days. Now though, it just means that we have made a request and someone has said...

Saying "No" is so difficult for so many people and it leads us to doing lots of things we don't want to do and feeling quite resentful towards the people that we have said "Yes" to. We say "Yes" because we don't want to appear rude and then we end up moaning and complaining behind their back. I can imagine that the irony is not lost on you. Saying "No&q...

Fed up with the endless cycle of overeating - dieting - falling off the wagon - overeating - dieting …… Fed up with feeing deprived.  Tune in to this episode and learn how to stop overeating without feeling deprived and get the body you have dreamt of.  Jonny

Fear is what stops us doing everything we really want in life. Fear though is not a physical thing, it is created in the mind. To overcome fear you have to learn where it comes from and learn how to feel it and not avoid it. If you like what you hear in these podcasts and want to sign up to my weekly Newsletter where I share more tips on how to reduce stress and prevent burnout then please follow...

Everything is working our perfectly! You might think that this is not the case if you are going through stressful hard times but there will be a meaning to what you are going through, you just will not know it yet. When will you know? Answer: When you look back and join all the dots together. When you look back now at things that have gone wrong and look at what you have learnt or maybe even the g...

Trying to be perfect and make everyone else happy can make Christmas a stressful time. When you drop the shield of perfection you are free to enjoy Christmas and enjoy what is really important - your friends and family.  Have a great Christmas Jonny

How much do you really enjoy your favourite food? When you learn to allow urges/desires you will see that your experience of the food is very different. yes it still tastes nice but the overwhelming pleasure when you apply my process that has you just wanting more more and more will be gone, leaving you to enjoy your food and not be controlled by it. See there are two things going on when we eat t...