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If you're anything like me you will experience a lot of lows at times in your life.  You might be questioning what the point of it all is and feeling trapped or stuck. This is all normal and in this episode I talk about how to move yourself out of those lows. All our problems are are either a thinking, feeling or action problem. I know you think your problem is a circumstance problem but beli...

"We don't commit because we are afraid to fail but we fail because we don't commit" One of my favourite sayings. Commitment is absolutely everything and without it life is not only hard but you will find yourself drifting away from what is truly important to you. Whether it be kayaking, coaching, policing, mentoring, the one thing I hear that separates those out who get results...

Today I am joined by Kristian Potter who is a Mindful Alignment Coach and founder of 'Internal Flow'. We talk about the how to reduce stress, the benefits of marginal gains and the importance of rest as well as many other things Kristian's website is www.internalflow.co.uk and his email address is kristian@internalflow.co.uk   you can also catch him on LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/in/i...

A lot of people rely on deadline pressure to get things done. They leave things to the last minute and love the excitement of it. The problem comes when we have left things to the last minute and then other urgent things fall into our lap or we have to turn down a genuinely fun activity because we have to get the thing done that we have been putting off. We get addicted to the hormones of stress t...

I hear a lot of people setting boundaries because someone is triggering them and then complaining because that person has violated their boundary. Firstly, I think the word triggered is overused and we should be replacing it with the word stimulus. Triggered for me suggests that the other person is the cause of our anxiety which puts the ball well and truly in their court. They have all the power....

In this episode I discuss with my good friend Ron Hill about the benefits of marginal gains and getting out of the 'All or Nothing' thinking that so many perfectionists get stuck in, leading to them giving up, being de-motivated and often feeling lost. We also ricocheted into the topic of letting go of needing a particular outcome and how it can actually make you more motivated, successf...

People come to me saying they feel lost, de-motivated, confused and feel like they are drifting.  They think the problem is a big one but the solution is really simple. Have a listen to how you can go from feeling lost to energised in a few easy steps. To watch the YouTube version then please follow the link below: https://youtu.be/TcD8PCmwIhw If you're feeling lost and want to take this to t...

Most people rely on willpower to stop bad habits but willpower is finite and we either end up folding or even if it works in one area we find ourselves creating new bad habits in other areas. In this episode I will explain why. Link to the YouTube video https://youtu.be/Q2sWdl7OIeM Jonny

So often we feel disappointed and frustrated because things haven't worked out as we thought they would. What we don't realise is that we are the cause of that negativity. We think it is reality that is the problem but actually it was our expectation that was incorrect. Our expectation is an imagined future. It doesn't exist, we have just projected what we think the outcome and the...

In this episode I am going to discuss what I believe to be the downsides of this approach. Our brain works on reward and when we start rewarding ourselves for activities we find hard to do then we end up making the activity harder in the long run. Would love your thoughts about this. Link tot he YouTube video https://youtu.be/DOJ_uWldE0E

Today's is a short and sharp episode on how to stop procrastinating. When you understand that it comes from the brain you are onto a winner. To watch the YouTube clip then follow the link below: https://youtu.be/CPdFK62Q0J4

The two darts is a Buddhist concept that describes how pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. The first dart is the unavoidable pain of life, both physically and emotionally. This is unavoidable and we will all experience it. The second dart is the suffering that we add by the way we frame the pain we are experiencing. This part is optional. Often we throw second darts when first darts have...

So many of us are feeling a lack of fulfillment and frustration with our lives and are pursing happiness but never find it. In this weeks episode I will show you the secret to happiness and confidence and how it is not something we pursue, it is something we create.

In this episode I answer the question “Why is it so hard to do the things you know you have to do and that you know will benefit you in the long term?” It’s amazing isn’t it how bad habits are so easy to pick up but good habits are so hard to create.  In this episode I will share with you the four step process to build better habits and drop the bad ones. 

Anxiety is something we all experience and many people struggle with.  In this weeks I talk about my experience of anxiety after leaving the Police and how I deal with it and don’t let it stop me. 

In this episode we hear from Martyn, a Detective from Avon and Somerset Constabulary who was a client in my 1:1 Stress to Success Program. When Martyn came to me he was in Burnout, fueled by energy drinks and caffeine and was stuck in the people pleasing cycle. Martyn talks about how he learnt to accept himself for the first time and replaced his people pleasing tendencies with clear values that w...

In this Episode I share with you a lesson I recorded in my 'Stress to Success' Program. Failure never feels nice, but why do some failures feel worse than others. Failure is supposed to feel uncomfortable because it draws our attention to the problem; the gap between what we expected to happen and the result we actually got.  That's the normal pain that is going to, in the most part...

This episode my wife, Nicky Bevan and I talk about the Highs and lows of life. We talk about how when we (especially men) feel vulnerable we default to anger and frustration. We get very angry with ourselves and add a lot of self judgement that pushes us further down the spiral. In this episode I even get compared to Basil Fawlty when dealing with the delights of technology. There's a lot of...

In this episode I am with my wife, Nicky Bevan who is also a Life Coach and Coaches women on building emotional resilience. We talk about how, what makes someone good at something can also be the same trait that burns them out. Have a listen and see what you think. Jonny

We're back! Ron, Carl and Jonny are back for another three way and this time we are discussing Pleasing Yourself. We discuss People Pleasing, what it is and the affect it can have on our lives and other's.  We all have different opinions on this so it is interested to hear them and see what falls out. What do you think of People Pleasing? Have a listen and let me know what you think. Jon...

In this week's episode I am talking to Clare Flaxen who is a CBT Therapist and the Founder of Stretch Mindset Method. Clare helps make personal development and growth sustainable with wellbeing at the core. Clare has a background in Social Care where she worked as Mental Health Social Worker in North London, so she is well versed in working in high pressure, demanding environments. In this ep...

In this week's episode I am joined by Katy Rosewood who is a Sport & Exercise Psychologist in training. Katy is a qualified Personal Trainer and also a qualified Nurse with 25 years of experience in the NHS. Katy has always been involved in sport and exercise, mainly due to having parents who were good role models.  Today we talk mainly about Sport Psychology and how this transfers to oth...

In this episode I talk about the dangers of constantly wanting to feel better. Most people's pain comes from the fact that they are fighting the way they are feeling in a given moment. Because of how the human brain is wired we cannot escape the fact that we will experience negative emotions. The problem is, is that we have been conditioned not to experience negative emotions and then we try...

This episode was recorded while I was still in the Police and I attended a Time Management Course. Here I share my beliefs on Time Management and how no strategy is going to stick unless you address perfectionism, people pleasing and the fear of other's opinions. There are so many helpful strategies out there but you first have to learn to manage yourself. Have a listen and see what you think...

In this episode I'm back with Ben Simpson who is the owner and CEO of Organisational Vitality and they help leaders and their teams create more vitality in their organisations by revealing the hidden ‘permissions’ that shape behaviour, enabling them to realise higher performance and happier people. This time we are talking about connecting with your purpose and group decisions. Ben describes...