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Dating your best friend’s ex, boss/employee relationships, celebrities and fans, dating with a huge age gap - there are so many relationships that are considered forbidden and taboo. We hear from you on what it’s like to date someone you feel like you have to hide. CW: discussion of domestic violence. If this episode brings anything up for you, help is available: 1800 RESPECT DM us your thoughts,...

If you struggle with finishing too quickly during sex (aka premature ejaculation) sexologist Cam Fraser is here to help. In this ep, we find out why it’s the most common sexual issue to affect men, what causes it, and how to deal.  DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple...

Does the order in which you’re born impact your compatibility with a partner? According to ‘research’, opposites attract eg. first borns work are best paired with last borns, and if you’re both the eldest/youngest - it’s chaos. But is Birth Order Theory legit? We investigate the latest Tiktok trend with your stories and some research of our own. SHOW NOTES: Birth Order Theory https://health.howstu...

If you’re keen to explore consensual non-monogamy or open up your relationship - this ep is for you! Psychologist and Author Dr Chris Cheers chats to Dee about his own poly identity, how he navigates having a husband and a partner, and shares his advice on how to do non-monogamy ‘ethically.’  SHOW NOTES: ABC iview Compass Episode - Beyond Monogamy Dr Chris Cheers Instagram  DM us your thoughts, qu...

Seeing the term ‘ENM’ in dating app bios? Noticing your friends are opening up their relationships? Ethical Non-Monogamy is on the rise in young people, so in this ep we find out from you how it’s going - the good, the bad and the horny.  SHOW NOTES: ENM explained:  https://www.abc.net.au/news/2025-04-27/inside-lives-polyamory-ethical-non-monogamy-enm-ethics/105216136 https://www.abc.net.au/triple...

A lot more people are adding terms like ‘dom’ or ‘sub’ or ‘switch’ to their dating app bios - so what does it mean? Dee chats to sexologist Lauren French about how to add power play into your love life and how to spot a ‘fake dom’. SHOW NOTES: 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732 LifeLine - 13 11 14 More info on powerplay and sex:  https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/programs/the-sunday-hook-up/power-dynamics-i...

What does it mean to actually be dominant or submissive in sex? Because you told us heaps of people are abusing their preference to be “dominant”, and you’re ending up physically, sexually and emotionally hurt. We explore dom/sub dynamics, hearing your stories from how it can be the best sex of your life when done right, but traumatic when done wrong.  SHOW NOTES: 1800 Respect - 1800 737 732  Life...

Around one in ten women and people with uteruses in the world have endometriosis. And even though it can be one of the most debilitating and painful conditions - there’s still no cure.  But now a huge study has found a really interesting link between endo and childhood. We’ll unpack it in this episode with Associate Professor Dr Theresa Larkin. Plus she’ll explain what the symptoms of endo are, th...

Everyone’s talking about incels - but what about women who’re struggling to date and have sex? Enter ‘femcels’ – a term that’s got people divided online, with some even saying they don’t exist. We investigate the history of incels, how a new movement of women identify with the term, and what that looks like in your dating lives. SHOW NOTES: The Woman Who Founded “Incel Movement”:  https://www.bbc....

Author and podcaster Jemma Sbeg is behind one of the world’s most popular podcasts - The Psychology Of Your 20s. Always backed with receipts - Jemma chats to Dee about what the research shows when it comes to love, dating and relationships in one of the most turbulent decades of your life. SHOW NOTES: Jemma Sbeg’s Instagram The Psychology Of Your 20s podcast Jemma’s book: Person In Progress DM us...

We're off on holidays!! Don't stress, we'll be back with fresh new content soon - but in the meantime go check out the feed for any episodes you haven't heard yet. MISS YOU ALREADY!! xxx DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurund...

You might not realise but financial abuse is a form of domestic and family violence. It can happen in your relationship without you even realising.  So in this episode, Dee chats to the CEO of Full Stop Australia Karen Bevan about what economic abuse can actually look like, how to spot the signs early, how to get help. Plus, how podcasters encouraging their partners to stay at home to be 'happier'...

Is it a recession indicator that no one can afford to date right now? We find out how the cost of living crisis is impacting your love life, how important financial compatibility is for a relationship and whether or not you should merge or keep your money separate.  SHOW NOTES: BMO Real Financial Progress Index (2025) -  The price of love: How a rising cost of living is affecting dating and relati...

Keen to have a threesome for the first time but duno how to go about it? Dee chats to sexologist Laura Lee about all the different ways you can have a threeway.  DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin...

From spontaneous hook ups between strangers or friends, to carefully negotiated experiences between partners - there are sooo many ways to have a threesome. We hear how you navigate the power dynamics as couples/singles, what it’s like being a unicorn, exploring your sexuality as a third and negotiating boundaries so everything goes as smooth and sexily as possible MWAH. DM us your thoughts, quest...

Ever had someone hectically overshare in dating? Maybe about their ex, or their mental health, or their trauma? They might be floodlighting. Dee chats to couples therapist Liz Neal about why people do it, when it can be manipulative, how to handle someone who overshares, and what to do if you’re the floodlighter.  DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG...

Ever been on a date where someone trauma dumps their breakups, difficult childhood or mental health struggles all before your entrée arrives? You might’ve been floodlighted. We hear your experiences of oversharing to test the waters, speed up intimacy, or filter out people who can’t ‘handle’ your shit - and whether this kind of radical honesty is actually just manipulative. DM us your thoughts, qu...

She’s one of Australia’s most popular adult stars on Tiktok with millions of followers tapped into her life as an OnlyFans content creator and a full service sex worker – in what she calls “a very dangerous industry that I wouldn't recommend to anyone”. We bring your burning questions to Kayla about her clients, her dating life, her mental health and her top sex tips.  SHOW NOTES: Listen to Storyt...

We’re going back to basics with pregnancy in this ep with Dr Theresa Larkin - covering how everything works from fertilisation and conception, to infertility and genetics, and how your body brings a baby to life. Because even if you’re NOT trying to get pregnant, it’s super helpful to know what the hell is going on and how to manage your sex life and cycle if you’re having sex with someone with a...

It's triple j's award winning and most complained about show – The Hook Up, live from Melbourne International Comedy Festival. 

If you’re not feeling great mentally, or you want to work through some things, or you’ve just gone through a big life event - you might be thinking about getting some professional help.  Starting therapy can feel super overwhelming if you’ve never done it before, so in this ep we chat to clinical psychologist Dr Jarrod White about everything you need to know about going to therapy for the first ti...

It's triple j's award winning and most complained about show – The Hook Up, live from Melbourne International Comedy Festival. 

Let’s unpack romantic love!!! why do we fall in love? And why only with certain people over others? Is love at first sight real? Can you stay in love your whole life? What’s happening in the brain and body? Is love an addiction? And can you actually die from a broken heart? Dee chats to the world’s leading romantic love researcher Adam Bode to find out the science of love.  SHOW NOTES: Adam Bode's...

We couldn’t get him on for our live show, so we got him in the studio - content creator, stand up comedian and podcaster Will Gibb chats to us about dating with radical honesty, cooked sex dreams and what it’s actually like to get a circumcision as an adult.  *NB this chat contains descriptive language about surgery so skip that part if you're squeamish DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or t...

Nearly 30% of you told us you’ve ended a relationship because of your own family or your partners. So whether it’s parents being manipulative, controlling or having no boundaries, we get some advice from clinical psychologist Dr Lillian Nejad on how to navigate a meddling family.  DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au...