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What does the research show when it comes to relationships with big age gaps? How likely are they to be successful? And when is an age gap problematic?  Professor of Psychology from Deakin University Gery Karantzas weighs in on the age gap debate in dating. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC p...

Bimini’s legacy started on season 2 of UK Drag Race, throwing them into the limelight to figure out fame, their sexuality and how to express their punk and politics through drag. We caught up with the dancing DJing vegan diva to chat about their journey with being non-binary, believing the universe has a plan and rant about queer trauma on screen. SHOW NOTES: Bimini’s  tiktok Bimini’s new song - ...

Ever felt like all your problems would be solved if you were able to change your attachment type? In this ep we have the incredible relationship expert Thais Gibson to explain and unpack attachment theory for us!  Thais breaks down what it means to be anxious avoidant, dismissive avoidant, fearful avoidant and secure and how each type impacts the way you date - plus how to change from an insecure...

How to deal with sexual harassment in the dms? Well comedian and podcaster Chloe Maddren decided to make money off of it. We chat to her about how she got back at trolls with her OnlyFans and hear her hot take on how sex positivity may have gone too far.  Content warning: this episode discusses sexual assault, trauma, and sexual harassment.  SHOW NOTES: Chloe Maddren Instagram DM us your thoughts,...

We ask TikTok famous therapist Jeff Guenther what he really thinks about the therapy boom on social media - plus he answers your dating questions, from settling for the slow burn to how to listen to your partner, not react. SHOW NOTES: TherapyJeff on tiktok DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC p...

Ever fantasised about someone else other than your partner? Did you feel guilty about it? From replaying hot memories with your ex, to exploring your sexuality - we hear who/what you’re thinking about and whether you reckon it’s a red flag in a relationship. SHOW NOTES: ABC article on fantasising DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: theh...

Almost one quarter of people aged 18 to 24 feel anxious or embarrassed about the way their vulva looks. But Ellie Sedgwick is on a mission to change that. She’s spent the past seven years photographing over 500 different vulvas - celebrating vulva diversity, challenging unrealistic beauty standards and encouraging people to feel more comfortable in their skin.  SHOW NOTES: Comfortable In My Skin L...

Is age just a number? Or does it get icky if the gap is too big? We hear from you about your experience dating older / younger - from the positives like having better sex to the challenges like navigating different life stages and realising when the power dynamic is off.  SHOW NOTES: (If the ep brought up anything for you) Lifeline: 13 11 14 Dee’s article on age gaps in relationships Deakin Univer...

Ever wondered what cum is actually made of? Or the science behind an erection? Why do wet dreams happen? What are the chances of pre-cum getting someone pregnant?  Dr Theresa Larkin has everything you need to know about sperm, semen, erections and ejaculations. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an A...

Have you kept photos, jewellery, tshirts, presents, sentimental stuff or nudes from your ex? We debate what’s ok or not ok to hold onto after a break up.  DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation....

Do you struggle with "checking in" with your partner? Maybe you've tried to initiate the convo and they give you nothing back?  We chat to couples therapist Liz Neal to find out how to take the pressure off and navigate those vulnerable conversations - and how to start making check ins a regular thing in your relationship. SHOW NOTES: Gottman couples cards DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, o...

Sometimes it’s a good idea to suss how your partner is feeling about your relationship, reflect on the good and bad, and talk about the future. In this episode, we hear how you do relationship check ins - how often you do them, what you ask and how it's impacted your relationship. SHOW NOTES: 2 Be Better Podcast  Check In Questions DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @tripl...

If you've ever been curious about sex parties/bathhouse/saunas/events but you're a bit intimidated or don't even know where to start — we find out everything you need to know with sex event curator Paisley Heart. SHOW NOTES:  @paisleyheart_ @rave.temple  DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podc...

Are you having quickies or spending hours having sex? And is there a perfect sweet spot for how long the sesh should last? SHOW NOTES: The Conversation study on average length of sex DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri...

Intimacy with your partner is super important to have but it’s also easy to lose if you don’t make the effort. We get advice from a sex and relationship therapist on what she reckons is the most important type of intimacy, and how to get it back if you’ve lost that spark.  SHOW NOTES: Aleks Trkulja - sex, relationships and body image therapist and founder of  The Pleasure Centre DM us your thought...

Intimacy is SO different for everyone so it’s kinda hard to describe - from light touches and vulnerable conversations to cooking together and slow dancing in the kitchen, we hear all the ways you love to be intimate with someone. SHOW NOTES: 5 Types Of Intimacy DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an...

Whether it’s getting wet, maintaining an erection, the pressure to perform and orgasm, being intimate can make you feel super vulnerable and can bring some deep rooted anxieties to the surface. We chat to Dr Nicole Cain, an expert in trauma-informed clinical psychology, about why panic can manifest, how to spot the warning signs and how to manage it. SHOW NOTES: Instagram: Dr Nicole Cain DM us you...

If you’re spiralling after a break up, you’ll probs hear someone insist “you just need to be single for a while!!!” People love to hand out this advice - but why is it good to be alone for a bit? We get your tips on how to decenter relationships and fully embrace being single w/ special cohost Louis Hanson. SHOW NOTES: Resources for decentering relationships Tiktok:  TherapyJeff Book: All About Lo...

Does a good relationship take hard work or should it be easy? Well… it’s complicated. We chat to sex and relationship therapist Isiah McKimmie to find out how to strike the balance, and how to clock the signs that you should let go. SHOW NOTES: Gottman Institute on "perpetual problems" DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.n...

When people say “good relationships take hard work”, do you agree? Or do you think if you’re with the right person, it should be easy breezy smooth sailing? We hear all your takes with special co-host Hannah Ferguson. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is reco...

It’s one of the most common STIs that often goes undetected for years - so whether you’re casually dating or in a long term relationship, how do you bring it up with a partner? We get sex coach Georgia Grace’s advice on how to have that conversation.  SHOW NOTES: Pod ep: Everyone Has Herpes* BONUS: how getting herpes can change your life for the better Herpes support group: Herpes support group vi...

Toni and Ryan heard your secrets about livestreaming nuts and tonsil stones, we got some hot takes about how funerals make you horny, and Pip brought up her wikifeet AGAIN. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of...

You dm’d us asking for tips - so we grabbed Love On The Spectrum’s counsellor Jodie Rodgers to share her advice on navigating communication, rejection, online dating, and how to best support as a neurotypical partner.  SHOW NOTES: Jodi Rodgers Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodirodgers_/?hl=en Jodi's website: https://www.birdsandbees.com.au/ DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just...

Rejection sensitivity, masking, overstimulation, and not understanding non verbal cues - we hear your experiences of what it’s like to date with autism.  DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup  on IG or email us: thehookup@abc.net.au The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation....

ICYMI earlier in the year The Imperfects were on The Hook Up <3  If you don’t know - The Imperfects are a hugely popular podcast where some of the most well-known guests jump on to share their insecurities and all the ways they feel imperfect.  Comedian Ryan Shelton and Josh Van Cuylenburg chat to Dee and Pip about the power of vulnerability and what they’ve learnt from hearing so many people’s...