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A lot of manosphere influencers create content about how ‘masculinity is under threat’ and we’re seeing this impact how young guys are learning about what it means to be a man. So in this episode, we chat to Josh Glover from The Man Cave and Dr Jacko Jackson from The Global Institute for Women’s Leadership to find out what the research shows when it comes to ‘masculinity threats’, the impact of ri...

Over the last few years, the manosphere has been a hot topic. We’ve watched investigations by doco makers, interviews with incels and pick up artists, and popular manosphere podcasters continue to go viral on social media. But what about the “red pilled” men who’ve changed their mind and come out the other side with a new POV? In this ep, special guest Flynn Martin joins us to tell us his story of...

Alpine Divorce has been a big convo this year, with people all over the world sharing stories of a partner abandoning them in a remote or dangerous place like a hiking trail or mountain. So does someone storming off mean they need to cool down, or is it a sign of abuse? In this ep, Elisabeth Shaw from Relationships Australia helps us learn the signs.  SHOW NOTES:  1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732  Mens...

“Alpine divorce” is when someone abandons their romantic partner in a remote or dangerous outdoor setting like a hiking trail, bushwalk or mountain. The term went viral this year, and women all over the world started sharing their own stories of being left behind by their male partners in the wilderness. But can it happen to anyone regardless of gender? And is it happening in places other than out...

Over half of you told us that the idea of being caught having sex turns you on! So why are so many people into this? In this ep, Dee chats to sexologist Laura Lee to delve deep into the psychology of this kink, the ethics and nuance of consent, and the best way to live out your fantasy of watching people or being watched in real life. SHOW NOTES: Getting Caught Ep -  https://www.youtube.com/watch?...

Whether it’s the thrill of having sex with a window or door left slightly open. Maybe you fantasise about having sex in public, or being watched at a sex party. If the thought of being seen doing something private or intimate turns you on, this ep is for you. We hear your fantasises and experiences of getting caught, and how you feel about consent with this kink.  DM us your thoughts, questions, t...

How do you feel about smart glasses? Lots of people are loving them with Meta selling millions this year, but lots of people are worried about surveillance, the potential harm, and being filmed without consent.  In this ep, we chat to Dr Milly Stilinovic who’s been researching the impact of smart glasses and pick up artists, to find out why she wants them banned altogether.  SHOW NOTES: 1800 RESPE...

While we’re past the days of witch hunts and trials, some people think there’s something magical that still lingers in our blood - some would even call it “women’s intuition”. But why are we now seeing a resurgence of modern women engaging with the spiritual and supernatural world, and reclaiming the word ‘witch’? In this episode we take a look at the history of witches and paganism, and figure ou...

Apparently condom use is at its lowest recorded level since 1992 - and it’s causing a national emergency of STI rates. So why are people avoiding the rubber?  In this ep, you’ll hear about the latest research from sexual health expert Jason Ong and get advice on what to do if someone’s shaming you for wanting to use one. SHOW NOTES: Jason Ong -  https://www.mshc.org.au/about/our-team Stay STI Free...

We’re on a little break! But we’re dipping into the archive to bring you the best moments provided by some of our favourite guests! From VERY controversial hot takes from comedians Will Gibb and Daniel Foxx, to Angela White’s sex advice on squirting and eating pussy, chatting threesomes with Hunter Smith and unpacking queer female sexuality with Jordan Barr and height in dating with Blake Pavey -...

What happens when you don't end up with the life you always dreamt of? For writer Sheree Joseph it was getting married and having kids. But after her long-term relationship ended and an unsuccessful fertility journey, she had to face a future she never expected for herself. In this chat, Sheree chats to Dee about her journey, the grief she experienced, and what it’s been like to embrace being sing...

We’re on a little break! But we’re dipping into the archive to bring you the best stories provided by YOU - our extremely sexy smart cool listeners! From cum-piphanies and public break ups, to pleasure dom mommy’s and meeting soulmates in the rideshare - we revisit our favourite and most memorable voice memos sent in by The Hook Up fam. DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @...

After being made redundant from his dream job as an investigative journalist, Bension Siebert turned to sex work to make money and surprised himself by how much he enjoyed it. In this ep, Bension chats to Dee about ‘coming out’ with his new profession, the reaction online and what he’s learnt about the industry. SHOW NOTES: Bension’s Cheek Article -  https://cheekmedia.substack.com/p/how-sex-work-...

We all know the phrase but does dating someone who’s completely different to you actually work? In this ep, we hear your stories of dating people who are opposite in lifestyle, interests and core values, compared to people who’ve dated similar - and find out if compatibility can work both ways. SHOW NOTES: Why Do Opposites Attract? https://www.verywellmind.com/is-it-true-that-opposites-attract-in-...

Going through heartbreak can be one of the most painful experiences and sometimes those break up scars don’t leave - when you start dating again. So in this ep, we chat to Dr Marny Lishman about the walls we put up after being hurt, how to heal and trust in love again.  SHOW NOTES: Break Up Podcast -  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ac0wdFkrIUA Dr Marny Lishman -  https://www.marnylishman.com.au/...

We can all agree that break ups are a universally shit experience, whether it’s a long term relationship or situationship. In this episode we’re unpacking all the challenges and questions you have - should you go no contact? How long should you wait before hooking up with someone new? Are my friends sick of hearing about my heartbreak? And can a break up actually be a good thing for ~personal deve...

There are millions of posts on TikTok all about ‘spicy books’ and someone who’s become famous for reviewing them is author and content creator Tierney Page. In this ep, she chats about why she thinks there’s been a massive rise in people reading and posting about romantasy and smut, her fav tropes and genres and her journey to becoming an author.  SHOW NOTES: watch our romantasy ep with Esme Louis...

Whether you have or haven’t read books like Heated Rivalry, A Court of Thorns and Roses or Fourth Wing, you can’t deny the rise in smutty literature. In 2025 romantasy and sports romance experienced triple-digit growth. But there’s been some criticism around how DR and romantasy books often glamourise SA and are too accessible for young readers. In today’s episode Dee is joined by guest co-host Es...

Whether it’s drugs, alcohol, or gambling - addiction can be one of the hardest things to navigate in a relationship. In this episode we chat to clinical psychologist Donna Stambulich about her experience with amphetamine addiction, the impact it has on relationships and how to best support your partner or loved one.  SHOW NOTES: Lifeline - 13 11 14  Donna Stambulich -  https://nppsych.com.au/our-p...

What’s the bet you or someone you know has been affected by gambling? Probably pretty high. Around 3 million Australians experience some sort of gambling harm each year. And 1.2 million Australians are affected by someone else's gambling. And it can have a real impact on your dating or love life.  In today’s episode we speak with Luke Bateman, ex-NRL star turned author, about his past addiction an...

Who has the right to tell queer stories and profit off them? That’s the main theme author Josh Silver explores in his latest book Fruit Fly. The book follows a writer who befriends a young gay addict so she can use his story to write a best seller.  In this ep, Dee chats to Josh about his own story as an ex addict, the world of chem sex parties, and why it’s important to share perspectives of gay...

Have you ever felt pressure to have a certain kind of sex?  Sex positivity has been an incredible movement which has normalised and destigmatised adventurous, kinky and casual sex. But has that come at a cost? In this ep, we’re joined by guest co-host psychologist and sexologist Laura Lee to unpack whether sex positivity and hook up culture has created a new type of pressure and expectation to per...

Surprise! We've got a Saturday Bonus ep for you! You probably heard all about Ben Ilobuchi's situationship troubles in this weeks episode. But did you hear the beef? Dee becomes The Grill's first guest to sear some rogue relationship-specific beefs like ghosting, the ick, and having to sleep in a bed with your partner.  DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at  @triplejthehookup...

If you’re dating, hooking up with, talking to, or seeing someone but you don’t know where things are going and you don’t know how to bring it up… Dating coach and author Erika Ettin has got you! In this ep, she has some tough love for anyone in a situationship, and will help you have the exclusive/relationship chat.  SHOW NOTES: Situationship Ep: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=17Qr9ovC2N0 Erika E...

Are you dating or hooking up with someone right now and you’re not really sure what’s going on? It feels like a relationship but you’ve never had the ‘exclusive chat’.  You might be in a situationship…  In this episode Dee is joined by guest co-host Ben Ilobuchi to unravel the relationship limbo.  Show notes: Deding and Describing Situationships:  https://www.researchgate.net/publication/378872949...