The He Wants She Wants Marriage Podcast

When your wife is deeply upset, pissed off and complaining about something, do you ever find yourself jumping into action to fix the problem by addressing what she’s complaining about? Of course you do; you’re a rational minded man who loves solution finding cause-effect style…. but it rarely works with your wife, right?!    Why? Because there is one secret cause to 95% of your wife’s irrational u...

Most husbands listening in will try new suggested strategies of conscious relating when with their Queens.    This is brilliant and has a massive power in it. Yet, sometimes the new attempts don’t have nearly the positive effect you’d love! Enter the untapped world of high-leverage daily training habits for priming your nervous system. This episode gifts you 4 simple daily habits (1-10mins max) to...

Self-mastery is the essence of great masculine embodiment in men. There is no arena more important to embody self-mastery as a man than that of married life. Our legacy depends on it. Without a precise grasp on what self-mastery in masculine leadership is built on, you will always struggle to manifest freedom and fulfilment in married life. Get ready for laser-focused clarity on how to embody masc...

One of the most frustrating things every husband experiences is when you show up at your wonderful best and your Queen treats you like crap. The clearly good intentions of your attempt to do/say something of deep meaning gets trampled on by your Queen’s confusing and crazy irrationality.    These moments habitually get stuck in a right-vs-wrong storm of disconnection. This episode introduces you t...

This episode unpacks the raw power in consciously communicating belonging cues. Belonging cues are simple behaviours that create safe connection. We used belonging cues as signals long before language – our unconscious brains are highly attuned to them. When our Queens receive them consistently, marriage feels like a dream. When our Queens don’t receive them consistently, marriage becomes a nightm...

Most husbands will admit that, albeit they love their wife, they find marriage the ultimate challenge to their sense of inner peace.    The often joked “ Can’t live with her, can’t live without her”, points to this seemingly universal crux in married life for men. Yet, one simple mind hack allows husbands go from massive psychological resistance to re-entering flow with their wives in no time at a...

The eternal conundrum for husbands : You listen to her speaking about an upsetting issue, you find a problem-solving fix you know will end her suffering…….and she never wants to listen to what you’ve got to say!!!!   And she even has the audacity to claim you weren’t listening!!! This episode will let you know the secret in how to prepare your Queen for receiving your beautiful gift of masculine,...

Every husband on the planet has a part of him that yearns for freedom from the constraints of his wife’s criticism. Right? If she’d just wake up and see the amazing amount of cool shit you do and the ocean of loving good intentions you have, she’d go easier on you….or so that sneaky part of our mind tells us. But the complaints, criticism and river of unfair feedback keeps on flowing towards you....

A husband’s infidelity can be a devastating blow for his Queen. Years of distrust, suspicion and rage mixed with grief can follow, leading many men to give up trying to save their marriage. This hopelessness is not needed. These 8 powerful steps will support you making your infidelity become the stage for the greatest inner and outer transformation you ever dreamed possible. Let’s begin….. Don’t M...

As men we practice low tolerance of our own BS grumpy moods with our customers, boss, neighbours, friends etc. They get our highest standard communication. Then we go home and practice super high tolerance of our BS grumpy moods with our Queen and children. Our nearest and dearest get our lowest standard of communication. Low tolerance = high standards. High tolerance = low standards. The rules of...

Attachment theory rocks. It pin points exactly where we have pulled up the nervous system handbrake preventing love from ever flowing in our lives. Only when you know where the handbrake is pulled up, can you then have the power to put it back down and start allowing the juice of love flow between yourself and your Queen again. Ready to put the damn heart handbrake down, once and forever? Let’s be...

Most husbands unwittingly Head Fart.    Head Farting is insisting on thinking, talking and taking action in the same way you always have and expecting your married life to suddenly transform. It doesn't. Marriage Transformation Heroes create Heart Art. Heart Art is accessing an inexhaustible force within capable of creating loving connection no matter what the perceived obstacle in your world. If...

Holding space for your Queen’s human experience is tough at the best of times for even the most loving husband. But holding space if she has a narcissistic mother and the emotional trauma that comes with it, can be an absolute nightmare. If you have ever experienced strain in your marriage as a result of your Queen’s relationship with her mother, this episode is handcrafted for you. Let’s begin….....

Most husbands face a daily family grind trying to rally the troops, wife and kids, in a futile attempt to get a cohesive and harmonious unit working together . Good intentions fail. Often. Peeing against a gale force wind comes to mind in most cases, hence our daily evening need to sedate our minds with whatever substance or activity is at hand. Defining what family leadership is, is the foundatio...

Research shows that newlywed couples who divorce six years later, respond to their partners bids for attention only 33% of the time.  Successful couples respond 87% of the time. Responding to your Queen’s attempts to get your attention might be the single greatest skillset to develop today. This skill is called receptivity. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment an...

Creating an indestructible bridge of connection in marriage seems the ultimate Mission Impossible. When guys see it embodied in another relationship, they think it’s because the other dude must have luckily found an exceptional woman unlike their own irrational and hyper-sensitive wife . Or it’s a miracle fluke that’ll never happen for you. It's not good luck and it’s not a miracle. It's a repeata...

Uncontrollable marital arguments over time destroy the trust that bind marriages together. It's especially hard when your Queen is firing vitriolic words your way that you feel are unfair and inaccurate, but nothing you say makes her stop. This mindset shift will help you instantaneously become her Mountain in the Storm, helping her nervous system return to a place of calm safety and grounded rati...

The only permissible Kingly aim going into the New Year is setting the intention to make this the best year yet in your marriage and life. It doesn't matter how intense your married life is now; these simple strategies and mindset upgrades will help you create an awesome year worthy of the King you were born to be. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive...

There’s one thing your Queen desires you to gift her the most. She’s been desiring this from you since you first met. This episode unpacks the greatest gift you will have ever gifted your Queen and marriage since you first got married. It also happens to be the greatest gift you can gift yourself in life. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point...

The episode reveals the simplest journaling exercise in the world. It arguably is the most powerful journaling exercise in the world. It will transform your wounds, woman and world for the better making 2025 epic ….but only if you have the spiritual balls to do it?! Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Marriage Self-Assessment and Receive A 9-Point Personalised Fast Improvement Plan? Sta...

Many husbands, despite their best current efforts, aren’t getting anything near the return they’d love to see and feel from their wives. There is one major blind spot that will sabotage all of your best efforts and render your Queen incapable of truly seeing how hard you’re trying.   This episode is essential listening for any husband who wants to get the return on investment he believes his effor...

The holiday season and all it’s socially imposed crazy expectations are upon us! This time of year creates unnecessary amounts of stress, tension and disconnection behind the scenes in marriage dynamics. There is a different way for you to consciously lead your wife and kids to the best holiday season you’ve ever experienced together. Here's to you being her Holiday Season Heroic Husband this year...

Every husband has a dark side he doesn’t want to show the world, especially his wife.    Many men in this Mr Nice Guy era will deny such a side even exists. But this dark subconscious mind does exist. And it rules all your behaviours until you know how to work with it consciously. If you want to stop peeing against your subconscious wind in marriage, this episode is a must. Let’s begin….. Will you...

You've already created the conditions (Karma #1) necessary for becoming married.   The second Karma you must create is infinitely more important. Without creating this second karma you will pee against the proverbial wind in marriage and life. Knowing what this second Karma is and how it’s created might be the most important wisdom you ever learn. Let’s begin….. Will you do The Heroic Husbands Mar...

The recent re-election of Donald Trump as President of the USA has been used to polarise a beautiful nation and by extension the human family once more into fearing masculine power in men. The feeling of fear feels real in many of our wives and it’s not pretty when this comes out against all men in their speech with us.    Not all women are feeling this; some might even love the guy being elected...