The Gemma Hanley Podcast

Setting boundaries in dating isn't about walls - it's about creating space to let the right love in (because you're no longer entertaining less than what you desire).      In this episode I share some examples of how that played out for me:   How I overcame fear of male anger (and why this was crucial) My strategic (and successful!) approach I took to dating apps The boundaries I set with myself t...

Think you have to choose between being kind and having boundaries? Think again!   In this episode I dive into the science and psychology of delivering strong boundaries that are drenched in kindness.    Learn about:   Mindset shifts so that your boundaries no longer feel selfish or too sensitive Hear me demonstrate loving but firm boundary examples Eliminating the opportunity for someone to use yo...

Want to set healthy boundaries without second guessing yourself, feeling riddled with guilt or dealing with dramatic reactions from others? It's possible! In this episode I break down the common mistakes we make when setting boundaries that lead us to feeling overwhelmed instead of empowered, and exactly how to shift this.   Here's what you'll learn: - The first step to rock solid boundaries that...

Feeling defeated and disheartened by the dating process? What about being filled with hope for a promising first date (or even third or fourth date) only to be let down and disappointed?   I'll be honest - throughout my own 21 years of dating, there were times where it was extremely difficult to remain optimistic and keep trusting I'd meet "the one"   In this episode I share 3 changes I made to tu...

Rushing through each day with the feeling that there's never enough time - it might be the ultimate stressor to our nervous system (resulting in overthinking, fear and chronic illness).     It means that even if a woman "gets there" (to the relationship, motherhood, business etc) she's probably burnt out, second guessing her choices, and is unlikely to be enjoying it as much as she'd imagined she...

Have you ever felt as if life is harder than it should be?    That no matter how hard you try to grow your business, enjoy motherhood, attract like minded relationships or stay consistent with healthy foods... you're not really progressing forwards in a way that feels satisfying?   In this week's episode I introduce you to a strategy that helps you answer the question: "how do I get there?" (so th...

What if you could attract better dates and create more connection in your relationship without waiting for the other person to change?! It's possible my love! (I know because I watched it play out in my own life) Without even realising it, we constantly send subconscious cues to our date/partner about how they should act and what we desire from them. When your subconscious cues match your relation...

This week you're meeting one of my inspiring clients, Claire! She's here to generously share her story and wisdom with you of how since working together, she has learnt how to fully process emotions, show herself love and free herself from limiting beliefs that held her back.   In this extremely open hearted chat, Claire opens up about:   Subconscious blinds spots in the relationships with her par...

The most important thing about your inner work? That you actually get results - your life is changing for the better!   However it's almost a given that along your healing journey, there will be times where you feel confused, lost and like you're pushing shit uphill and getting nowhere!    In this podcast episode, I will   Remind you why your answers can't be found outside of you   Share two limit...

For a long time, I believed that uncomfortable emotions and chronic symptoms were the problem… and for a long time, I stayed stuck. In this podcast episode, I explain why the real problem behind recurring discomfort in the mind body is this: Not knowing how to retrieve the intelligent message or answer that an emotion or symptom is trying to show you.   I'll explain:   The internal alarm bell syst...

A fixation on being in a 'high vibrational state' might just be as disempowering as using a victim mentality.   Often, being 'high vibe' requires a woman to reject past pain that is surfacing so it can be let go of - it wants to come up and out of her body.    When she is taught to actively bypass and "stop" anything other than positive emotions, she continues to store that past pain, keeping it s...

I nearly canceled the first date with my (now) partner. In the end, the only reason I followed through and went on the date was because of a promise I'd made myself. Months earlier I'd realised that I was subconsciously 'rolling my eyes' at parts of the dating process.. (the parts that felt annoying, disappointing or a waste of my time)   And that so long as I kept up this mindset and attitude, I...

I was recently reminded, while experiencing the worst flu of my life, of the very first lesson I had to learn before I could heal chronic fatigue, anxiety and depression (a whole lot more physical symptoms too but those were the headliners) and it's this… In the most challenging moments of our life (both emotionally and physically) there comes a fork in the road, and the path we choose to go down...

This week I'm excited to be brining Hillary McVeigh back to the poddy, she's a Human Design Teacher, IFS Practitioner and Intuitive Certified Coach.    Once a family lawyer, she is now passionate in helping women transform their inner rumblings into reality so they too can create their dream life and business.    This episode with Hillary covers:   Making choices from your monkey mind VS connectin...

The answers to your success are not only found in a positive mindset & visualisation of your goals, they are found from intelligently exploring your resistance, self doubt and emotional/physical discomfort too. I'm seeing a common theme that is keeping women confused & stuck when it comes to their inner work…  Toxic positivity coaching - which forces a woman to only look at half of her reality (th...

I spent more than 15 thousand dollars on my emotional and physical health before I found the solutions that actually started to help me - so I know what it's like to shudder or shrink at the idea of investing in yourself.  In this episode I bring you behind closed doors and into my personal experiences (and major success I've created in my life) from working with the high quality and expert coache...

Recently on one of our Reveal & Rise coaching calls, two of my clients were super honest & told me how a boundary I had set in my personal life (and shared about) triggered them.   Given I used to be an A+ grade people pleaser, I knew exactly how they were feeling.  Listen in as I explain what my boundary was, 4 teachable moments from the reaction my clients experienced, and the coaching advice I...

Perfectionism runs deep.  It's hard wired into our neurology and nervous system as an automated behavior that gets us love, approval and validation.  When we do things perfectly, things feel more certain, predictable and controlled.  When we let go of this exhausting behavior it feels exposing.. that we could be seen as 'not good enough', 'lazy', or letting others down (which ramps up our fears of...

This is a conversation that has completely transformed the trajectory of my life - MULTIPLE times! Here's the thing my love: when we are stuck in procrastination, uncomfortable emotions or confusing symptoms (and we've been unsuccessful in changing it) it's important to acknowledge that we're overlooking something.  It's not that we are purposely ignoring something or sweeping things under the rug...

What attitude do you bring to your morning routine? Does it have you jumping for joy and feeling alive in your body? Or is it more of a "have to get this done" vibe with a sprinkle of fear about what will happen if you don't?   Here's a common pattern I'm observing in women (and saw in myself in the past too): the use of the same morning routine regardless of what her mind and body are communicati...

Here's the thing: quick fixes and magic pills would be amazing.. *IF* they actually existed.  When it comes to finding a plan for your inner work that actually.. works, you're going to have to dig deeper.  Women who get results from coaching have done their research.  They've gotten clear on what they (as an individual) need from a coach and program. In today's episode, I'm going to help you gain...

A very sensitive and extremely important topic for us to have a transparent conversation about - WITH COMPASSION! Let's start by saying, the fact that you are a mother reading this right now - is so extremely impressive.  Your heart is so big, and I am in awe of your desire to lead by example for your children.   Here's what you can expect from this episode:   A massive acknowledgement and celebra...

Uncomfortable emotions used to control my day and how I viewed myself.  The most frustrating part was that I really was doing my best to feel them and let them go - but any progress was either minimal or short lived.  I'd tried self help books, journaling and letting myself cry, so I was extremely confused about what I was doing wrong.  Today is a completely different story.  Solving uncomfortable...

The more flexibility and adaptability we can bring to our life, the greater the chances of us achieving our goals and experiencing more joy!  This week I bring you behind the scenes of my personal life and business - showing you in real time how I am walking the talk - giving myself permission to change my mind and do things differently so I can show up as THE REAL ME and progress forwards in a wa...

People pleaser to boundary queen can feel like such an unrealistic leap … and to be honest - it is! So in episode, I talk you through some 'in between' options that will support you in healing the subconscious pattern of wanting to avoid conflict by keeping everyone around you happy.   You'll learn:   The 6 ingredients to connection based communication    I talk you through examples of each   Ways...