The Feminist Dating Show

Have you ever wondered whether casual sex detracts from finding a partner? This week we delve into another listener question: "Is looking for casual sex and serious dating at the same time distracting from finding true love?" In this episode, Lily discusses her take on the topic. She answers whether or not searching for both casual sex and a serious relationship on separate dating apps is a distra...

This week, we are addressing how to move through the feeling of hopelessness in your dating life.  Lily answers this listener's question related to feelings after being rejected or ghosted by someone, "Where do I go from here? What advice do you have around staying hopeful?" It sucks to feel hard feelings, to be ghosted, or rejected. Both, and, it is important to feel your feelings. This episode h...

Have you ever wondered if you should sign up for a matchmaking database? This week Lily is answering a listener's question about matchmaking databases and what to consider when thinking about what is the right choice for you. She gives her hot takes from being a professional matchmaker, what questions to ask a matchmaker if you're considering signing up for a service, and more. Whether matchmaking...

This week Lily brings you an episode about the concept of blessing and releasing. It's a strategy you can use when you are having a hard time letting go of something or someone.   This episode was inspired by a question that was DM'd: How can I let go of someone that I thought was right for me? In this episode, you'll hear all about how, when, and why to bless and release something. You also can u...

We are talking about a tender topic this week and exploring how to move through hard thoughts and feelings about body image. Joining Lily to discuss things like body grief and perception of self is Body Image Coach and Educator, Bri Campos. Bri offers Body Image Coaching + Education for people who are tired of hating their bodies. She is an LPC, Body Image Coach & Educator, and host of T he Body G...

Our brains are good at focusing on the worst-case scenario when it comes to love and life. Well, this week you are invited to believe that the best-case scenario in your dating life is possible! In this episode, Lily explores some best-case scenarios that could happen. And as you listen, we encourage you to let these ideas in. As you acclimate yourself to the potential for things going well, the m...

We are talking about the concept of what it means to be "chill," in your dating life, how being "chill," might be impacting you negatively, and how to embrace your intensity to find the right partner for you .  In this episode, Lily explores how you might be making yourself feel wrong for being human and encourages you to shed old stories that no longer serve you.  Don't be chill because when you...

Happy New Year, gorgeous friend! Today, Lily is bringing you an episode all about creating an intentional dating life that feels like self-care and leads to extraordinary love. More specifically, she is sharing how to even start.     Whether you've never gone on a date in your life, been in a romantic relationship, ended a long-term relationship or haven't dated very much, this episode will suppor...

This episode has been a long time in the making. It's all about how to claim your essence-based preferences. Lily is taking you on a deep dive into what essence-based preferences are, how they are helpful to your dating life, how to know if you're being too rigid, and how to create them for yourself. This is a juicy episode that you're going to want to listen to time and again!  Hot-takes and How-...

Today we're going to be talking about the question, "How can I stop being lazy in my dating life?" Lily shares some of her hot takes on this topic, including the productivity myth about dating, a reminder to practice self-compassion, and encouragement to try something else if pushing yourself hasn't worked thus far.  This episode is full of massive permission and inspiration to be bold as hell in...

Here's my step-by-step guide to asking someone to be exclusive. Because you deserve clarity and it's time to be courageous! Links from this ep: RSVP to my Live Coaching Party + Breakthrough Info Session Learn more about The Brazen Breakthrough

In this episode, Lily is sharing a resource straight from the Brazen Breakthrough vault, called The Pre-swiping Meditation! It's a meditation she created for Brazen Breakthrough clients to help them get centered before swiping, searching, or going on a date.  If you feel dread, confusion, anxiety, or any number of emotions when it comes to your dating life, this meditation aims to support you befo...

This week, Lily talks about how to call upon your friends for help in your dating life.  Perhaps, tactically, your friends don't know what to do and you've been too afraid to ask them for assistance. In this episode, Lily shares a how-to guide all about how to engage your friends so they can effectively help you.  Our hope is that this episode encourages you to look upon your deepest desires and s...

This week's episode is a re-air from last year's holiday season! Lily covers in-depth your holiday dating anxieties, including what to do when they bubble up to the surface and how to move through them. Please, she talks about how to respond to nosey dating questions from family or friends.  Lily created this episode to offer you some support and normalize your experience during the holidays and b...

This week Lily welcomes Blake Blankenbecler to talk about creating, building, and maintaining friendships in today's world. Blake believes that life is meant to be lived in connection and helps friends have more meaningful conversations and create more sustainable friendships.  Blake recently released The Friendship Deck, a conversation game for friends who are craving more depth and intimacy with...

Lily welcomes three incredible humans to the podcast! Christine, Diana, and Trish were part of the in-person Main Character Energy retreat. In this episode, they join Lily to talk about what it was like to step fully into their main character energy within a room full of peers and share what it was like to own their power. We hope this episode inspires you to step into your main character energy i...

In this week's episode, Lily addresses some of the questions you don't say out loud and helps you to unpack them. Questions like, "Did I miss the boat? Am I too late?" or  "Is all of this work really worth it?"  When you gently bring awareness to your innermost thoughts and feelings, you can begin to move forward with self-compassion, emotional safety, and courage.  Some of the questions that are...

Over the last few weeks, we've re-aired episodes that covered the three pillars of Main Character Energy. This week the episode focuses on the pillar dedicated to courageous action.  In this episode, Lily shares how you can go from feeling lonely and sorrowful in your dating life to courageous action. It all starts with the question that you need to ask yourself to define meaningful success and be...

Over the next few weeks, we're re-airing episodes that dive into the three pillars of Main Character Energy, while Lily recuperates from facilitating the Main Character Energy in-person retreat! This week the episode focuses on the pillar dedicated to self-trust.   In this episode, Lily shares strategies you can take to increase your capacity to trust yourself in your dating life. Self-trust is bu...

Over the next few weeks, we're re-airing episodes that dive into the three pillars of Main Character Energy: Permission, Self-Trust, and Courageous Action.  While Lily is recuperating and re-charging from facilitating the Main Character Energy in-person retreat; we thought this would be a perfect time to share some episodes from the Date Brazen podcast vault!  This week's episode focuses on permis...

"Will I die alone?"  This might be a question you've thought about but were too afraid to say out loud.  Or,  if you did say it, a well-meaning friend has replied, "No, you won't!"  Today, Lily addresses this question and helps you unpack it so you can come out to the other side feeling more compassionate and connected to yourself. When you ask, "Will I just die alone?" you negate the magic, unkno...

Danielle Prescod is on the podcast this week. She is the author of, "Token Black Girl," and co-founder of 2BG Consulting, which offers anti-racism seminars and resources with the aim of fixing the fashion industry. This week, Danielle joins Lily in a conversation about writing her memoir, the trap of perfectionism, and the role white supremacy plays in the pursuit of perfectionism in love and in l...

We have two bad-ass podcasters and thought-leaders on the show this week. Nicci Nunez and Alex Stewart, hosts of the Swipe Fat podcast, join Lily for a conversation about dating as a plus-sized woman.  In this episode, they talk about their recent decision to take a dating app detox, share the story of how they became friends and then podcast hosts, and talk about life as plus-sized women in the d...

This week's episode is all about the "Thank you, more, please!" challenge. This challenge is a powerful tool for those of us who were taught, "What you want, does not exist." Listen in as Lily dares you to look for evidence that what you want DOES exist, in your love life, in your professional life, and beyond.  Tune into this short episode to hear how to implement this challenge into your life, t...

Chrissy King is on the podcast this week! She is an author and the Creator of The Body Liberation Project. In this episode, we talk all about body image, diet culture, and your dating life.  Chrissy has a new book coming out called The Body Liberation Project: How Understanding Racism and Diet Culture Helps Cultivate Joy and Build Collective Freedom , which we discuss too.   Chrissy shares some of...