The Feminist Dating Show

In this episode of the Date Brazen podcast, Lily outlines a comprehensive seven-step dating plan for 2025, aimed at helping listeners create a joyful and fulfilling dating life. The plan emphasizes the importance of claiming desires, understanding essence-based preferences, and utilizing qualifying questions to find the right partner. Lily also discusses the significance of in-person dating, build...

In this episode, Lily addresses the feelings of loneliness that can arise during the holiday season, especially for singles. She provides a three-step framework to help listeners navigate their emotions, emphasizing the importance of recognizing and acknowledging feelings, finding comfort and belonging, and choosing accessible positive thoughts. The conversation encourages self-compassion and resi...

Stressed about your dating life (and nosy questions) during the holidays? This episode is for you.  Yes, it's that time of year—when relatives turn the holiday dinner table into a Q&A about your dating life. Lily is sharing how to respond to every nosy question from relatives - that you don't want to answer!  This is your guide to handling intrusive questions with confidence while staying grounded...

Ready to stop emotional outsourcing and start owning your worth in dating and beyond? If you've ever struggled with perfectionism, people-pleasing, or the exhausting cycle of codependency, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Lily invites her brilliant friend and colleague, Victoria Albina, to explore what it takes to recognize the patterns that no longer serve you and break free from them—s...

I'm diving into how to care for yourself when life feels heavy. If you're feeling drained or disappointed post-election—or really, after any tough experience—I'm here with a simple but powerful framework to help you reclaim your energy. In this episode, I'll guide you through the SOFT practice: Self-compassion, Owning your needs, Feeling your feelings, and Thoughts, not facts. I'll share practical...

We're airing a popular episode about claiming your essence-based preferences. Lily takes you through what essence-based preferences are, how they can transform your dating life, how to know if you're being too rigid, and how to create them for yourself. This is a juicy episode you'll want to come back to again and again! Hot-takes and How-tos from this episode: How do you know if you're being too...

"Should I give them another chance, or should I 'just know' if they're right?" Hot take: The whole slow burn vs. spark debate might be keeping you from finding a meaningful connection. This episode challenges the idea that a romantic connection needs to fit neatly into a "slow burn" or "spark" to be worth pursuing. In this episode, you'll learn: ✨ The pros and cons of Slow Burn vs. Spark—and why...

How do you date with intention and authenticity during an election season? You're in luck! Lily is back with a special episode all about dating during the election. She explores how to navigate the heightened political climate with a boundaried, agency-filled plan to attract people who truly align with your values.  Lily also shares tips on crafting a profile that reflects your values, managing to...

Playing the sidekick in your own life? Not it. Step into your power, claim your main character identity and start making bold moves today. Why not you? Lily is dishing all about main character energy—what it is, what happens when you're not living in it, and how to level up and claim your spotlight. We've all been there—shrinking our desires because we fear being "too much" or worried about reject...

Ready to crush it and take your dreams to the next level? This episode is ALL about that! We're diving into Laura's epic journey of leveling up her life, how she tapped into her MCE (yep, Major Character Energy), and broke down her big dreams into totally doable, bite-sized steps. And guess what? It worked! You'll walk away feeling fired up, knowing that what you want is not only possible—it's pra...

Ready to stop playing small and start living big? This week, Mastermind client Katie shares how she embraced main character energy, stepped out of her comfort zone, and began living a joyful AF life!  From ditching self-doubt to creating a social life that lights her up, Katie talks about the bold moves she made—like taking a sabbatical and going on solo adventures. It wasn't easy, but she trusted...

Do you feel like you're burning the candle at both ends with nothing left for yourself? In this bonus episode, Lily chats with Juliet, a client from the Main Character Energy Mastermind, about how she transformed her life by setting boundaries at work and making room for joy and meaningful connections.   Juliet's story is all about taking back control and living fully to share how stepping into he...

Are you stuck in a cycle of overthinking and self-doubt? Lily tackles exactly how you can break free from that mental loop. We dive into the real cost of overthinking—how it's draining your energy, wasting your time, and slowing down your life's momentum. Lily shares methods to help you stop doubting yourself and start building a rock-solid foundation of self-trust. By the end of the episode, you'...

Want to know how to ask for exactly what you want, nurture your biggest dreams, and crush your fears along the way? You're in luck!  Lily and her guest break down how to tap into your main character energy and own every aspect of your life. In this episode, you'll learn how to reclaim the parts of yourself you've left behind, nurture your inner light, and permit yourself to ask for – and actually...

Ever thought about making a big leap from your current job to your dream career? Discover how Erica ditched an exhausting job and became a full-time romance novelist with main character energy! Lily welcomes Erica a former Main Character Energy Mastermind client who made the leap from feeling stuck in her career to living her dream as a full-time romance novelist. Erica gets real about facing her...

What happens when you stop playing it safe and start betting on yourself? In this episode, Jackie spills on how she shifted from burnout to bold moves, and what it takes to embrace that Main Character Energy. Jackie, a former Main Character Energy Mastermind member, joins Lily for a convo about how she went from frozen in fear and burnt out to making some serious boss moves in her life. Together,...

Is it possible to stay true to yourself while navigating the world of dating? Absolutely! We're pulling back the curtain with special guests Ali and Erica from Finding Mr. Height . Lily sits down with the duo to discuss how they decided to start their dating podcast and offers a glimpse into the clues, details, and breadcrumbs that help you figure out if someone is right for you. We also dig into...

Hot-take: Bragging is key to attracting more in your dating life. That's right! We're diving into Lily's favorite chapter from her book, Thank You More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love. It's all about the Brazen Bragging Revolution! 🚀 Lily breaks down why bragging isn't just a power move but the key to attracting more fulfilling relationships. She gets real...

What does it take to go from feeling "behind" in dating to confidently making your move every single time? This week, Lily welcomes client Allyson, who shares her journey from feeling behind in dating to embracing self-compassion and taking control of her love life. They chat about the game-changing power of self-love, shaking off society's BS standards, and how stepping into a main character mind...

What if the key to transforming your dating life is all about owning your worth? Listen in to find out how Miriam went from dating fear to confidently choosing people who were aligned with what they truly wanted.  Join Lily and client Miriam as they dive deep into the thoughts that so many of us have about dating, worthiness, and settling, and how these can keep us stuck on a hamster wheel, going...

Hot-take: You should make the first move 100% of the time. If you read that and feel a sense of fear, that's okay! In this episode, Lily breaks down everything from rocking a proactive mindset to embracing those awkward moments and showing yourself some self-compassion so you can confidently make the first move every time. This is the most passionate lesson Lily teaches, and she has seen a major d...

Are you wondering, "How do I pick up the pieces after this horrible breakup?" This week, Lily dives straight into an inspiring conversation with Liz, a former client who turned the heartbreak of a broken engagement into a powerful journey of healing and finding new love. Liz keeps it real, sharing her experiences of embracing pain, seeking support, and rebuilding self-trust. Together, Lily and Liz...

Are you feeling like a "late bloomer" in your dating life? This week, Lily busts nine myths commonly believed by "late bloomers" and shares practical steps to overcome them. With a focus on self-compassion, Main Character Energy, and the idea that dating is a learnable skill, Lily's insights will shift your perspective and boost your confidence for joyful AF dating experiences.  Feelings of shame...

Ever wondered how to heal from a toxic relationship and truly thrive? Lily is joined by licensed psychotherapist Ginger Dean, the genius behind the book, Loving Me, After We . They dive into the journey of healing from toxic relationships, highlight the importance of self-soothing, and chat about how to rebuild self-trust.  Ginger shares her personal and professional experiences, drops some wisdom...

Why do we always feel awkward asking our friends for help with our love lives? Imagine the game-changing power of having a trusted squad of co-conspirators in your corner, ready to support you. This episode dives into how to ask your friends to be your co-conspirators in love—one of the top three ways to date IRL! Now, it's not that your friends are clueless about dating; they just need to learn h...