The Feminist Dating Show

Laura sat on her dream for years. She had already moved abroad, left her marriage, rewritten her book, built a whole new life in a new country… and yet the next thing she actually wanted to build — a business supporting women after divorce — stayed in a drawer. In this conversation, you'll hear exactly how she went from: • paralyzed by fear of judgment • hiding the work she'd been doing for years...

In this episode, Abby shares her late bloomer story with so much honesty and clarity. We talk about what it was like to be in her mid-30s, never having been in a serious relationship, carrying a loud "I'm behind" and "I'm weird" narrative, and feeling totally unsure how to talk about her dating history without spiraling. Abby opens up about moving to a new city, trying to date while feeling embarr...

If you're stuck in a spiral of overthinking — replaying conversations, asking 15 friends what to do, imagining every worst-case scenario — this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Overthinking isn't you being "careful." It's a  self-trust deficit . And that is a  skill gap , not a character flaw. In this episode, I break down: • Why anxious rumination feels so real and so urgent • How patriarchy...

Feeling like the supporting character in your own story? This episode is your plot twist. We unpack Main Character Energy (MCE) as a buildable skill set —not a personality type—and show how tending to your needs heals burnout and expands your capacity to show up for the people and causes you care about. In this episode, you'll learn: The 3-part MCE framework: Permission → Self-Trust → Massive, Mes...

If you've ever found yourself doing everything right and still feeling exhausted, this conversation is for you. In this episode, Lily sits down with  Maureen , a writer, educator, and book coach who transformed her life from chronic burnout and perfectionism to joyful, sustainable main character energy. They dive into: ✨ How perfectionism becomes emotional armor (and how to take it off safely)....

Ever catch yourself thinking: "Am I doing enough to find love?" That question sounds productive—but it's usually fear in disguise. Fear that time's running out. Fear that what you want might never happen. In this week's episode of The Late Bloomer Show, I walk you through the 10-step "Am I Doing Enough?" checklist—the one I give my clients when they start to spiral. You'll learn how to: 💗 Practic...

Should you wait for the slow burn? Or chase the spark? This question keeps so many late bloomers stuck in overthinking, second-guessing, and dating people who aren't right for them. In this episode of The Late Bloomer Show, Lily breaks down the real truth about attraction and connection, including: The pros + cons of both the spark and the slow burn Why both approaches can lead to wasted time What...

Dating while struggling with body image fears can feel like an impossible task. In this episode, Lily is joined by Bri Campos, LPC, and body image coach, to explore the idea of body grief—the distress and loss we feel when our bodies change—and how it impacts dating. Together they cover: → The 4 aspects of body image you need to know → Why rushing to "body love" skips over the real healing work →...

In this powerful live coaching session, Lily sits down with Veronica for a live coaching session—a listener and Main Character Dating client—to explore what it really looks like to start dating again after a painful breakup…while also navigating chronic pain, a disability, and a world that often is deeply ableist. They explore: ✨ How to know if you're really ready to date again after a breakup ✨...

What do late bloomers most want to know about sex? In this episode, Lily sits down with Dr. Juliana Hauser—sex therapist, TEDx speaker, and author of A New Position on Sex —to answer the top 10 questions late bloomers have about sexuality, intimacy, and pleasure. They cover everything from starting with little or no experience, to disclosing your sexual history (or lack thereof), to navigating bod...

If you've ever felt behind in love or life, this episode is for you. On pub day for her new book, End Emotional Outsourcing: A Guide to Overcoming Codependent, Perfectionist and People Pleasing Habits, Beatriz Victoria Albina joins me to talk about how to stop centering everyone else's needs at the expense of your own—and start dating with self-worth. We unpack: 💎 What "emotional outsourcing" is...

Taylor hasn't been in a relationship since she was 19. Now, at 31, after eight ghostings and countless near misses, she's wondering: "Why not me?" In her words: "Hope is scary." Because every time she's let herself hope, she's been let down—and she's started to believe maybe she's just not worth the effort. In this raw and powerful live coaching session, we unpack what's really underneath that fea...

Becca came into this coaching session feeling stuck, frustrated, and deeply alone in her experience: "I'm 37. I've never had a relationship. It feels like I'm missing something that everyone else figured out." This episode is for the late bloomer who's never really seen their story reflected in dating advice—and is tired of wondering, "What's wrong with me?" Together, we worked through: – The fear...

Today on The Late Bloomer Show, I'm coaching Dana. Dana is a badass who's never been in a relationship—and she came to our session asking the question so many late bloomers carry: "Are men going to see that as a red flag?" In this episode, we go deep and get tactical. 💎 We create her Essence-Based Preferences in real time (including the exact words she'll use to vet potential dates) 💎 Build a cl...

"I've never had a relationship last a year. It feels like I missed my window." That's what Jennifer told me at the start of this session. She felt behind. Like it was too late to have the love story she wants. Like she had somehow run out of time. And if you've ever looked around and thought, Everyone else got the memo on how to do this. I didn't, this episode is going to speak directly to you. To...

When I renamed the podcast The Late Bloomer Show, some of you may have wondered: "What if I don't feel like a late bloomer — is this still for me?" I recorded a mini podcast episode talking about exactly that:) Listen here. Here are my hot takes: 🌱 "Late bloomer" to me means feeling "behind" in any way. To me, late bloomer isn't about the amount of experience or inexperience— it's about the feeli...

Are you afraid that raising your standards means you'll be alone forever? Today on The Late Bloomer Show, I'm coaching Marissa, who stayed long after she knew her relationships were over—because she thought starting from scratch would be worse than settling. In this episode, we dig into: ✨ Why we shrink our needs to keep relationships ✨ The guilt that keeps us stuck for years ✨ How to believe w...

"More is possible than you currently realize." ✨ Big news ✨ The Date Brazen Podcast is now The Late Bloomer Show 💜 This change is for every late bloomer who's ever felt behind, too much, or too late. For anyone who's been told to shrink or settle. For everyone who needs to hear: 🌱 You are not alone. 🌱 You are not too late. 🌱 What you want is possible. In this vulnerable episode of The Late B...

" Why do I have to do all this work just to be given a chance? " In this deeply moving live coaching session, Lily talks with Caleigh—a brilliant late bloomer feeling burned out and heartbroken after years on dating apps. On the surface, it's dating fatigue. But underneath, they uncover how internalized misogyny shows up in dating: feeling like you have to be less intense, less emotional, or hide...

If rejection makes you want to hide under the covers and never date again—this episode is your roadmap back to brave action. Lily shares one of her most painful rejections from her dating life, how it nearly derailed her belief in love, and the five-step Rejection Resilience Side Quest she created to help late bloomers build the skill of shooting their shot without spiraling. Inside this episode:...

Ever catch yourself thinking: "Why would they like me? What's wrong with them for wanting me?" This sneaky belief keeps so many late bloomers stuck in self-doubt, playing small, and avoiding the very love they crave. In this episode, Lily gets personal about how this thought showed up in her own love life—even when she met her now-husband—and shares the powerful mindset shifts and tools you need t...

Think dating apps are the only way to find love—but secretly hate them? Same, friend. In this episode of the Date Brazen Podcast, I'm sharing my complete, no-BS guide to using dating apps in a way that protects your sanity and increases your chances of finding the right relationship. Inside, you'll learn: → Why deleting and re-downloading apps keeps you stuck → The exact rules for stress-free swip...

Dating can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions—excitement, hope, fear, and sometimes, pure panic. In this episode, we're tackling the fear that keeps so many incredible people stuck on the sidelines. If you've ever thought,  What if I get rejected? What if I say the wrong thing? What if I'm not enough? —this one's for you. I'll walk you through how to move through dating fear with self-compassio...

This episode is your mid-year reset, late bloomer style. Whether you've been dating with no luck, stuck in swipe fatigue, or haven't dated in 15 years, this seven-step feminist dating plan is your guide to attracting the best relationship of your life. In this replay of one of our most popular trainings, you'll learn: ✨ How to create your Essence-Based Preferences to vet potential dates ✨ The IR...

In this vulnerable and wisdom-packed episode, Lily sits down with Liz, a former Main Character Dating client, to talk about what it really takes to come back to yourself after a heartbreaking, sudden breakup— and how that healing work can lead to the most aligned love of your life. Together, they discuss: Why we feel "behind" in dating (especially as queer late bloomers) The emotional labor we car...