The Feminist Dating Show

I am pulling back the curtain on the Brazen Breakthrough nine-step framework. This week I am going to walk you through the first tenant of the Brazen Breakthrough, thought work. I explore some ways in which your thoughts are creating your reality about your dating life. And, I share a practice that will help you get back into the driver seat of your thoughts and move forward with self-compassion a...

Tune in to hear three steps to get out of anxious spiraling or future-tripping, and back into believing what is actually possible for your dating life. When you think about your life and you think, "Wow, I really want a partner," it's not that you need someone to be whole. Instead, you simply desire a person to share your life with. If that hasn't happened for you yet, you may feel frustrated.  Fi...

This week I am sharing how the Brazen Breakthrough can help you go from feeling lonely and sorrowful in your dating life to one of confidence, empowered, and actionable. I give you a taste of how my transformational, signature coaching program can get you out of suffering and into empowered action in your dating life.  When you intentionally invest time, energy, and, yes, money into your dating li...

Self-trust is really hard. I had an assumption that self-trust was something you were born with or not. Turns out that assumption is B.S. But, how can you trust the decisions you make in your dating life if you've had bad relationships in the past? This week I am going to provide some strategies you can take to increase your capacity to trust yourself in your dating life. SHOW NOTES: https://bit.l...

Does this sound like you? You are successful in your career. In fact, you are successful in almost every area of your life, yet when it comes to dating, you feel like you are less than.  Well, my gorgeous friend, you are not alone. My client Kate has been there, done that, and is here this week to talk all about it. She opens up about what her dating life was like before, during, and after joining...

I am sharing three ways to get out of loneliness and into belonging in your dating life. Because, dating, most of the time, is lonely and frustrating.  A few years back, I was in a toxic relationship. Following that dating experience, I was stewing in a hot soup of loneliness. If that sounds like you, I want to support you. So today I offer three ways you can get out of loneliness. SHOW NOTES: htt...

Dating is a hotbed of patriarchal, conventional bullshit. For example: "Laugh more on a date. Boys like girls who are jovial. Be more of a mystery. Guys like the thrill of the chase. Ask more questions. Get on all the dating apps because it's a number's game." Translation: Dating successfully means making yourself smaller, talking less, going on more dates, lowering your standards— #bullshit.  In...

I wanted to start the new year with one of my favorite parts of last year: The Finding Your Fearless Retreat which we held in December. During the retreat, I gave a lesson on boundaries and, today, I am sharing that session with you! You'll hear the dating boundaries I recommend you create to invite in more abundance, how to craft boundaries to invite in more self-care, how to protect your heart,...

A new year is almost here. For the last episode of 2020, I wanted to set the stage so that you can build your 2021 dating strategy with focus and compassion. When I say strategy, I don't mean swiping in a specific way on dating apps or playing a numbers game.  Instead, your dating strategy is knowing what you want, the actions that can lead you to find what you are looking for, and how to protect...

When is pickiness a problem versus when your preferences are perceived as picky by others - that's the topic of this week's episode. "Why haven't I found my person yet? Maybe I am just too picky?"  Sound familiar?   PIckiness can be a problem when the story you tell yourself is that nobody is good enough for you. I share why that type of story is typically rooted in past trauma and past self-prote...

When you live a life of shoulds , life looks really good on paper. But when you start to realize the shoulds are no longer making you happy, life can feel heavy. It's easy to fall into a spiral of shame and blame. Learn how shoulds and upper limit problems might be holding you back and what you can do about it.   Becky Mollenkamp joins me to offer her experience and expertise on these topics.  Bec...

The holiday season is here. And as we step into the final month of the year, what are you worried about in your dating life?  What are your fears? Today, I'm going to be talking about how you can work through those fears and move forward with intention.  In fact, some of the most common dating fears I've heard recently, from clients, include: Time is running out.  I haven't found love and that's a...

How can you tell what is going well versus what is not? Are you following your vision or do things just seem at a standstill? That's just some of what I dive into, in this week's show. It's really easy to see what is not going well. That's why I created a practice called, "The What's Going Well Tracker." I share how this trick will help you transform the ways in which you are mindful about what is...

If you're looking for some encouragement and joy, I've got your back. In this pep talk, I'm giving three reasons that you can experience hope in your dating life right now. Sneak peek: You are uniquely qualified for the love of your life. What is meant for you will not pass you by. Your past is not an indicator of your future. Get your ticket for the Find Your Fearless Retreat: http://datebrazen.c...

Today, I want you to practice CLAIMING why you are awesome. What you love about yourself. Why someone is going to feel so lucky to call you their partner.  Pushing down what made me EXACTLY who I was, why I was awesome and complicated and beautifully "too much", it made me feel like a hollow husk of myself in my dating life. That all changed when I shifted the focus to exactly why I loved myself,...

This week I have a short podcast episode for you. It's election day in the United States and so I wanted to infuse some encouragement into your life. In this episode, I share with you an IGTV by Elizabeth Gilbert. I watched it recently and it brought me solace. I hope it does the same for you. It's all about dancing in times of uncertainty. Remember to take a deep breath and a moment to celebrate...

How happy and supported can you stand to let yourself be? Well, I know the following things to be true: you can completely transform your dating life and feel like a joy-filled badass by the end. And the Brazen Breakthrough can help you get there. This week, I invite you to hear all about this transformative framework. I share the origin story of the Brazen Breakthrough including how past toxic re...

I'm going to take you behind the scenes of my upcoming Celebrate Your Single-Self Challenge! You'll hear what the challenge is and how it can help you bring more self-care into your life. In this unpredictable, chaotic time in our nation's history (where we are out of control in so many ways), it's not time to "push until you figure it out," and it's not time to "figure it out all on your own." It...

Alright, so you've acknowledged that dating isn't easy. And ...you have lost sight of why you are awesome and why someone will be lucky to be your partner. So, now what? Well, gorgeous friend, this episode is going to be your baby step forward towards transformation.  Where to start? By acknowledging what you bring to the table.  Maybe you're saying to yourself, "Lily, I know I've accomplished a l...

I've worked with hundreds of people and most everyone says a version of: "I don't know what's wrong with me. Dating shouldn't be this hard, it wasn't for my friend/coworker/mom." If you think that dating should be easier than it is, this is the episode for you. In this episode, I peel back the curtain of why dating is so hard and what you can do about it. JOIN THE CELEBRATE YOUR SINGLE-SELF CHALLE...

"I can't believe I'm single and talking to a dating coach. I don't want to be a cliche." That's a phrase I've been hearing a lot from my clients, lately. If that sounds like you, then this week we dig into why you are not a cliche for seeking help for your dating life.  In this episode, I uncover some of the reasons why you are feeling this way, I shed light on the patriarchal dating tropes which...

Did you know that improv comedy is similar to your dating life? Well, this week I am going to share some of the lessons I learned from my improv days and how they can apply to how you can date in a powerful way. Get ready because these improv rules have the potential to add more joy and fulfillment than you thought possible in your dating life. DATE BRAZEN INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/date...

One of the biggest energy drains is comparison and the patriarchy; especially when it comes to your dating and love life. Last week, I talked about self-compassion. Today I'm going to build on that, and discuss how to create a comparison-free dating life!  You might be feeling comparison creep in when you see your friends in a relationship. Or when one of your friends is "great" at dating and you...

This week I am talking about self-compassion and why it is a necessary tool for a successful and fulfilling dating life. According to Kristen Neff, having compassion for yourself means you honor and accept your humanness. I tend to think of self-compassion as a superpower. So, how can you harness this power for good?  In this episode, I share my quick-hitting advice about how to get out of your he...

Today's dating scene can be a soul suck, am I right? With a few simple (and sometimes not so simple) mindset shifts, you can move past feeling stuck in your dating life. Nobody knows this better than my client, Sarah. This week she joins me on the podcast for a live coaching session.   In this episode, Sarah shares openly about the various mindset shifts she employed in order to transform her dati...