The Feminist Dating Show

Welcome to a very special episode of the Date Brazen Podcast! It's episode 100, y'all! Returning to the show is my partner Chris. He joined me for an Ask Chris and Lily Anything episode way back in 2020. In this episode, he joins me as my host and asks me some burning questions about dating, relationships, growing Date Brazen, and everything in between. Join us for this fun and behind-the-scenes e...

Why does it feel like shit to put yourself first? This week I am talking all about putting yourself first, why it feels uncomfortable, and what you can do about it.  When we choose ourselves and set boundaries to protect ourselves, it doesn't always feel like sunshine and roses. In fact, it can feel uncertain and downright scary.  Here's the thing, as women in a patriarchal society, we've been soc...

This week Lauren, one of my clients from the Brazen Breakthrough Mastermind, joins me to share her transformation story. And y'all, her courage to do something that is out of her comfort zone, like being on a podcast, is indicative of her power to show up for herself. Before the Brazen Breakthrough, Lauren felt as though something was inherently wrong with her because dating didn't come easily. In...

"I can't expect to have an emotionally intelligent partner and be attracted to them." Woah. If you are thinking to yourself, "Yes, that's me. I think that!" Then yes, friend, that is where we are going today. In this episode, I help illuminate this story you have been carrying around about your love life, help you to excavate it, gently , and come out the other side feeling more in control.  So ye...

Have you ever received bad dating advice from family or friends? And has that advice impacted you in negative ways? Well, this week, I talk about how to deal when you get bad dating advice from people who have no business dishing it out.  Some of the advice could sound something like: "Maybe you're single because you asked for too much."  "Maybe you're single because you didn't lose weight." "Mayb...

Jealousy can be a scary emotion for a lot of women.  With Valentine's Day coming up, you may have some complicated feelings about yourself, about your love life intermixed with some feelings of jealousy.  In this episode, I dispel jealousy myths and talk about what to do if or when you are feeling jealous. I'll also give you some of my hot takes about why jealousy isn't bad, how to hold yourself w...

This week I dive into the good and bad of dating with guests Jessie Jolles and Claire Burns, hosts of the popular podcast No Such Thing As Love. In this episode, they share some of the ways in which their dating lives have changed over the past two years and some of the lessons they have learned.    SHOW NOTES:  https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-jessie-jolles-and-claire-burns-created-badass-love...

West Elm Caleb is taking social media by storm. In this episode, I break down who West Elm Caleb is and why his dating style, which included love-bombing and ghosting, was causing an uproar online. More importantly, I explain why this entire scenario is a call to action for the dating world.   Alright, if you want to know why I am referring to this as a call to action - here's a quick hot-take, wh...

I have a spicy and amazing episode for you this week! Joining me to talk about how to take the intimidation out of being intimate is Sex Psychotherapist, Vanessa Marin. Vanessa's work is so impactful and has shifted the way couples (and singles) view sex, helping them create extraordinary sex lives and relationships.  In this episode, we get into the topic of authenticity in the bedroom, explore s...

Today I wanted to draw your attention to one of my favorite episodes ever of the podcast. It is with the incredible Simone Seol, who is a business coach who coaches people around the world who deeply care about making an impact in the world. We talked about how to focus on what you can control instead of fixating on goals that are measuring your worth. This episode is a must-listen! SHOW NOTES: ht...

I have something special for you this week; a future-self meditation. Yes, that's right, I am going to walk you through a 10-minute meditation that will help you to embody the feelings you want to have in your future relationship. It will allow you to release the tension and suspend your disbelief that there is more for you. SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/episode-spotlight-envision-yo...

I have another juicy episode for you! I am sharing three of my top dating trends for the new year. Plus, I'll share three tips to help you experience agency and joy in the dating process. My desire is that this episode will leave you feeling hopeful for the new year and beyond. SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/dating-trend-predictions-and-tips-for-2022 APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAKTHROUGH:...

This week on the podcast I am talking about how to meet someone in-person in 2022. Yes, get prepared to dive deep and create a dating action plan for the new year. In this episode, you'll hear practical advice and my five-step plan to help bring more joy and compassion to in-person dating. SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/how-the-hell-to-meet-someone-in-person APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN BREAK...

"How the hell am I supposed to get excited about my dating life?" If you've been feeling hopeless about your dating life, this week I am going to start a three-step process to help you overcome intense double and negative self-talk.  The goal for this episode is to get you into the energy of what you want, to be full of possibility, and hope for what is to come. I walk you through my three-step pr...

The holidays can be a triggering time to talk about or even think about your dating life. It's tough to be a single person in a room full of coupled people, especially if they are family and friends during holiday celebrations. One way you may be minimizing yourself during this trying time is by using humor as a defense mechanism. And guess what, my gorgeous friend, you do not need to joke about y...

This episode is an invitation to explore what is beneath the surface and bring space and curiosity to what your dating life and your personal life can truly be. I'll explore some of the reasons why you may be hesitant to work with a dating coach and some ways to overcome these mindset blocks. SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/from-slow-burn-to-soul-quenching-support APPLY FOR THE BRAZEN...

This episode is all about bringing a community to your dating life. You may be thinking, "Lily, what on earth do you mean?!"  This episode explores how the Brazen Breakthrough offers support and clarity for your dating life from within a safe space and community.  Brazen Breakthrough alumni join me for a transparent conversation about what it was like to come into this space, what impact they saw...

In this episode, I provide you with action-oriented information on how to handle holiday dating anxiety and stress; both internally and externally. You'll get strategies that will help you feel amazing, and move forward with power and confidence in your love life. Plus, I'll share some ways to respond to others who ask you about your dating life.  I created this episode to offer you some support a...

Having feelings of frustration because you're not where you want to be right now is valid. But what I want to remind you is your thoughts influence the result that you create in your life. So, what if you started practicing a new thought which could bring the transformation you desire?  In this episode, I am sharing thought work I've been practicing in my life and helping my clients practice in th...

If you've ever wanted to glimpse behind the scenes of dating coaching; this week's episode will make you very happy! Relationship and well-being coach, Shula Melamed, joins me for a discussion about what we see people struggle with in their dating lives, how we help them, and everything in between. SHOW NOTES: https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/believing-you-are-worthy-of-love

This week I am getting a bit personal on the show. I talk about a vulnerable experience I recently went through, how it made me aware of the stories I've been telling myself when it comes to wanting people to like me, and what I learned about myself. And of course, I talk about how my lesson can be applied to your dating life. SHOW NOTES:  https://www.datebrazen.com/blog/unpacking-what-it-means-to...

Sexuality is at the core of who we are, our identity, and our power. Sometimes due to the stress of dating, people-pleasing, or losing sight of yourself after past relationship trauma; you shut the door to your own sexual identity. Joining me this week to talk about how to reclaim your sexual agency and transition from self-judgment to self-compassion is Dr. Juliana Hauser. SHOW NOTES: https://www...

I am talking with Julia Hochstadt, LCSW, about how trauma can show up in your dating life and what you can to do get support. Many of the people I work with also get support from trauma therapists.  Trauma deeply affects dating, their love lives and impacts their healing process. Because I am not an expert on the topic, I invited Julia to share information and resources around abuse, trauma, and d...

I want to dive into a lesson I am actively learning in my life, which is to do nothing. I've been thinking about how my clients and listeners of Date Brazen can apply this lesson to their dating lives too. So yes, this week, I am inviting you to: Do nothing. Doing nothing is a key part of the intentional effort you are making. Intentional effort leads to intentional results. BUT, intentional actio...

This week I am talking about boundaries. Boundaries are one of the most important tools (besides self-compassion) that you have, in your dating arsenal. In this episode, I share a boundary starter pack of sorts and explain why it may be hard for you to declare your boundaries and offer a strategy that will help you get started. When you declare your boundaries, you also affirm your worthiness. And...